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Ok, My coworker had the gastric bypass 5yrs ago, and I mentioned that I was having the band next week. He said NOOO don't do that, I know 2 people that failed. I'm sooooo tired of people and their opinion on the lapband. I was skeptical at first but I plan on following all instructions provided by my dr.

I've educated myself on ALL the complications that MAY happen.BUT

I'm going into this with a positive mindset.

I just wanted to vent!! Thanks for listening lol :)

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Please feel free to vent. I had the gastric bypass 10 years ago and let me tell you, I wish I had done the lap band to begin with. I had more complications with the gastric bypass than I am having with the lap band now. I may be losing slower with the lap band but it is more of a positive tool than losing fast and not really having to work hard at losing the weight. Follow your heart and keep up the good work. You will be fine c:

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Ok, My coworker had the gastric bypass 5yrs ago, and I mentioned that I was having the band next week. He said NOOO don't do that, I know 2 people that failed. I'm sooooo tired of people and their opinion on the lapband. I was skeptical at first but I plan on following all instructions provided by my dr.

I've educated myself on ALL the complications that MAY happen.BUT

I'm going into this with a positive mindset.

I just wanted to vent!! Thanks for listening lol :)

people who are not educated on the band are the ones who are most vocal against. any WLS can fail or muster excellent results. granted some fail for whatever reasons. but the ones that most fail are the ones who divert off their dr's instructions. YOU sound like you got it together. who cares what anyone says or does. YOU go for it and show them, hey look at me, the band does work.

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Who cares what others think or say.... honestly if you researched, have confidence in your surgical team and have the devotion to the band and the will power to the commitment.... I say go for it and let the neysayers bask in your success.

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Floridays and CG are right. You sound as if you have done your research and are ready to do whatever is necessary to succeed. Good Luck and don't let anyone dissuade you from your choice.

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I told very very few people before hand and was extremely happy about it. Everyone has an opinion, and what I have learned on here, especially people who have had another form of WLS are eager to convert you to validate their own decision. If that person choose GB, which is inherently riskier, then you choosing the band casts doubt on their decision. Do you own research, make up your own mind, be your own person.

Afterward, I don't care who knows. If they have the balls to criticize me to my face for my decision, I will be more than happy to remove those balls and stuff them in their back pocket :lol:

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Yes, some lapbands fail. Some bandsters fail. It happens. Do you know what the failure rate on dieting is? 96% at best. Only 4% of people who lose a significant amount of weight on a diet (not WLS) keep it off for 2 years (the cutoff for "success"). Compared to that, lapband knocks it out of the park!

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Well I have been banded for three years now and I have been quite a success. Anyone can be a success with the band if they do what they are told. Even maintaining is easier then I thought. I still want to get down to 150 by summer but if I dont I am happy as a clam that didnt get eaten lol

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I feel the same way. Lots of negative stories about the band, but lots of positive ones too. Just going in planning on following everything and being successful!! February 19th!!!

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People fear what they don't understand. Lap band takes work, so you have to WANT it to be successful.

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I think we all have to do whats right for us, not only physically but emotionally.

Butt cracks....that's funny.

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I feel you completely! I was not really educated on the band and just got banded today 01/18/13 I had alot of scares I did SOME research not much and found out about the fails of it but I was successful thru it I'm sure you will be great! Keep a positive mind and keep us updated! :)

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Ok' date=' My coworker had the gastric bypass 5yrs ago, and I mentioned that I was having the band next week. He said NOOO don't do that, I know 2 people that failed. I'm sooooo tired of people and their opinion on the lapband. I was skeptical at first but I plan on following all instructions provided by my dr.

I've educated myself on ALL the complications that MAY happen.BUT

I'm going into this with a positive mindset.

I just wanted to vent!! Thanks for listening lol <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

Haters hate ... Surround yourself in life and online with successful positive people - build your team carefully ... You are going into Battle, a battle for your freedom and life - your team must have your back 100%!

Lee

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I heard and read the same type of thing. I was banded 11/29/12 and down 27 lbs. It has been virtually easy and the proof is in the puttin. I told only a few and plan not to disclose until and if I want too. Not a secret just trying to keep my focus and not be distracted with unnecessary chatter. Just follow the instructions and remember your goal. Wish you all the best!

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