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ok, I had my lapband surgery october 9th. I have lost 27 pounds. I am mentally exhausted with life right now. How can I get motivated to exercise and eat right if I cant even think straight. It takes EVERYTHING I have just to get out of bed. What is going on with me! I cant get motivated. I am achy and hurt. I feel like a failure!

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You havnt had your surgery very long. When I had mine it was very hard for me to get motivated to move because I was in so much pain. As the pain started to cease I gained more energy and my attitude changed to want to move more. I made myself get up even though I didnt want to. I felt as if I slept I wouldnt feel the pain. You are most def not a failure. ANyone who has enough courage to have this surgery is strong. I made myself walk to mailbox daily to get a lil exercise. I was scared of blood clots. Once the pain subsides you will be better. We are here for you to help you threw this. I wish I would have logged on here sooner. I had my surgery in 2008 and went threw it alone. There were many days that I cried and bawled because I felt the same way but as time passed I got better.

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I had my surgery Oct 15, haven't done much exercise b/c I need double knee replacement. But I'm not feeling like you.

Are you getting your required Protein & fluids?

Sounds like you should talk withDr or nutritionist.

Hope you feel better soon.

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ok, I had my lapband surgery october 9th. I have lost 27 pounds. I am mentally exhausted with life right now. How can I get motivated to exercise and eat right if I cant even think straight. It takes EVERYTHING I have just to get out of bed. What is going on with me! I cant get motivated. I am achy and hurt. I feel like a failure!

Are you eating a balanced diet and taking Vitamins? It's sounds like unless there are other factors in your life which are causing this maybe you aren't getting the proper nutrition. Certainly I am no dr so I would advise you to speak with yours about it.

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One step at a time. The holidays exhaust everyone. I am sure you will have better luck going forward.

Happy New Year!

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Hi, sorry to hear your down. Sounds like there is a lot going on in your life with the band just one aspect that is stressing you. Any chance you can speak to a counsellor or even your GP and check your not suffering from depression? Being tired, not wanting to do anything or face the world is a common symptom.

I noticed in your pic you have kids. Is there anyone who can watch them for an hour or so to let you get out of the house and just go for a walk to clear your head? Some small steps to take care of you, both physically and mentally may help you find a way past this tense time.

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It is a cycle, isn't it? Things are stressful, busy, hard, you feel exhausted... and that cycle continues until you do something to pull yourself out of it. When I feel like you do, I know that it's my depression talking and that I need to go back on my meds (which I take during the wintertime, because I have SADD).

The cycle is hard to break out of! For sure. It is something that takes great effort. However, once you make a small step you will feel tons better!

As far as the exercise, it is something you just have to DO. Tell yourself that you will make time for yourself and do it. It sounds counterproductive, but I promise, you will actually get MORE energy by starting to exercise than you do when you don't. You will be tired initially, but soon your body will start releasing wonderful endorphins that will make you feel all kinds of good after you exercise! When I'm exercising every day, my emotional side feels better, my body itself feels better, I have more energy, and I'm just happier. It really works wonder on the brain and the body :)

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Have you talked to your physician about it? You may need some antidepressants. Sometimes you need that to get over the hump. Lapband is such a major process which is why we go through such exhaustive preop regime. Don't be afraid to ask as this is for you, to better yourself. Take care of yourself.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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