Have anyone had the lapband and kept it a secret from nosey co workers? How did you go about doing this and is it easy to be intimate without you partner feeling the port?

Personal is personal. Do what you believe in!

I have only told one coworker. The rest including my boss have not been told. I used vacation time to have my surgery and what I do on vacation is my business. I don't need negativity right now so I have only told a few people. I only want support right now. I haven't decided about telling anyone on down the road. We will see.

I have only told one coworker. The rest including my boss have not been told. I used vacation time to have my surgery and what I do on vacation is my business. I don't need negativity right now so I have only told a few people. I only want support right now. I haven't decided about telling anyone on down the road. We will see.

Yes I think that's the road I'm going to take as well. With weight loss people just get competitive and stupid. My co worker never treats me to anything but last month I was on the herbalife diet. Just to kind of detox myself and she brought in goodies all the time but still told me to stay strong. Yea! I'm really glad I got support on here and I feel good going into this know I have positive people to turn to. I don't think I'm even going to tell my sister because will will post it on Facebook.

I chose not to tell many at the start....for a few reasons...I didn't want people thinking I was taking the easy way out....and after telling one who I thought would appreciate knowing there is hope ...and a huge part of me was scared of like so many times....id fail.....but now I'm proud to tell when I'm asked....my friends have seen the hard work I have been doing......Good Luck to you hun

I chose not to tell many at the start....for a few reasons...I didn't want people thinking I was taking the easy way out....and after telling one who I thought would appreciate knowing there is hope ...and a huge part of me was scared of like so many times....id fail.....but now I'm proud to tell when I'm asked....my friends have seen the hard work I have been doing......Good Luck to you hun

Thank u Dee! I'm really excited now. I'm ready to stop letting food run me!

Personal is personal. Do what you believe in!

That's what I have to keep myself. This is my life and I don't have to explain why I'm getting healthy

I told my boss bc she's Ben very accommodating with my schedule. But I haven't and won't tell any other co workers!! The only other person that knows is my partner. I may tel others later its just not the right time right now

I told my boss bc she's Ben very accommodating with my schedule. But I haven't and won't tell any other co workers!! The only other person that knows is my partner. I may tel others later its just not the right time right now <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

I'm so glad to know that everyone thinks the same. I thought not telling people was selfish but I just don't want people down my throat about everything. It's a girl at work who had it done and unfortunately people know and when she have a sweet great people are behind her back saying umm should she be eating that. So I just don't want to be the center of everyone's conversation. So I think I'm going to keep this a secret.

I get banded on Wednesday. Using vacation time to be off of work. I'm not telling anyone at work. I've mentioned Protein shakes to a few people and asked one about what app she was using for calories. When I go back Im just going to say I'm under doctors care and its a New Years resolution. Most know I have a thyroid problem so I'm hoping it won't seem like a big deal that I'm "dieting".

I've told family members and a few friends. None have been negative but I'm a pretty strong personality so I doubt any would have the guts to try to be negative to me.

And I live by words my dad told me long ago when a friend hurt my feelings "will that person be in your life in 20 years. 10, 5, 1? If not then don't worry about what they think. And if the person will be in your life for 20 years and hurts you then you need to think long and hard about that person remaining in your life." So as long as my son supports me (and he does!) I'm good.

Best wishes to you on your journey.

Wow those words really cleared up many of my Geelong Tara. I have been struggling mainly on what people at work say or treat me. I started protein shakes (herbalife shakes) on and off and I got hit hard with negativity from the girls at work. It's very compatible where I am. I don't plan on being in anybody their lives for years so good advice from ur dad. I will carry those words with me.

Have anyone had the lapband and kept it a secret from nosey co workers? How did you go about doing this and is it easy to be intimate without you partner feeling the port?

It's funny I tried to hide it at my job but decided to tell those around my cubicle since they will notice my absence. Most of them were interested in the lapband too. They were excited and wanted me to tel them everything, I was kind of floored. But I only told 3 people. I am definitely on board with keeping it private to those I don't know well.

before my surgery,i told everyone i knew..lol..i'm 2 months post op and when customers come into my job and ask how i lost weight,i tell them the truth...so far,everyone has been supportive...but maybe its because of the way i tell them...i am proud of myself for having the guts to make a drastic change in my life and i guess that comes through in the telling!

as far as intimicy...i just tell my husband not to lean on my port and we are good to go...lol

before my surgery' date='i told everyone i knew..lol..i'm 2 months post op and when customers come into my job and ask how i lost weight,i tell them the truth...so far,everyone has been supportive...but maybe its because of the way i tell them...i am proud of myself for having the guts to make a drastic change in my life and i guess that comes through in the telling![/quote']

I wish I had those guts or was as open as you. more power to you!

At first I only told my 23 year old son, since I needed someone to pick me up from the hospital. I expected to be home the same day, surgery at 7:30 - then home by 4. I had a bad reaction to the anesthesia, so I took a little longer to recover before leaving the hospital. Anyway, after a series of events, others in my family had to be told. My mom and my kids are very supportive, but my sister and my dad really aren't. I didn't feel anyone at work had the right to know. I am a firm believer in separating job life from home life. But we have allot of corporate lunches, so it is kinda hard to come up with reasons why I am only having Soup and salad, instead of something like I used to order. It is especially tough when they order sandwiches or pizza - I can not get any type of dough products down, without allot of pain - so I usually go back to my desk or find some other reason not to be there for lunch. I have to say that I do miss the commodory of the group lunches, but I have to think about me and my weight lose ambitions. I got banded in October and I still feel like I need to hide it from everyone, and I don't like talking to my family about it. But I needed a support group - and wellah! here you guys all are! Thanks!

BTW...Great question!!! OH, and for the intimacy...can't answer that, since I don't have a significant other...for the time being ;}