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I have told only a selected few about my decision regarding the lap band. No one in my family know yet because they always have something negative to say and it don't surprise me. What surprises me is the friends I have shared this info with can be so mean. I'm getting this done because I don't want to be obese anymore & struggle with the health issues I have now. Yes I ask myself all the time "whatever happened to plain old exercising"... I know me better than anyone do and I can honestly say that wont be enough for me. Needless to say I dont feel I owe anyone an explanation on my decision. If you're a true friend you shouldn't ask for one nor make fun of me... definitely a great time to find new friends!

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The difference between plain old exercising and surgery is your committment level. You don't do this to fall off the bandwagon and anyone who says this is the easy way has no idea. I'm so glad to have this support system of people here that actually understand and can commiserate with what I go through and don't try to belittle the struggle or make light of the adversity obese people face when trying to do something that comes easy to high percent of the population-be at a healthy weight. Don't let anybody talk you out of your goal - not even yourself, and use the people here as your motivation when you are struggling. What seems such a huge hurdle-you will find at least on other person who has overcome it and can coach you through. I'm at 11 lbs lost and will be at 100 lbs lost by this time next year. Goal 150 lbs. Good luck!

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llo, I am in the same boat with you girl, I didnt want to tell my friends are family because of the negative response I KNOW I was going to get but you have to9 do what best for you. I have been banded with the plication since Aug 14,2012 and I have only lost like 14 pounds :mellow: but I know am feeling the regret that I will not lose the weight and everyone is already is alsking everytime I see them how much I lost and now I am gettng depresed.

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i told everyone i wasnt afrraidbmy family has had the gastricbypass so it didnt bother me to tell

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Tell who you want and trust to be supportive. Many people will say the the band is the "easy" way. I am sure that many will join me is saying that IT AIN"T SO!!! Any form of weight loss is hard work and commitment. Best of luck to you!

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Tell who you want and trust to be supportive. Many people will say the the band is the "easy" way. I am sure that many will join me is saying that IT AIN"T SO!!! Any form of weight loss is hard work and commitment. Best of luck to you!

How do I get a mentor? My surgery is scheduled for dec6th!!!

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I understand totally! I didn't tell a lot of people and the people I did tell don't like hearing about it.I try to kept to myself but its hard.I'm glad I found this website.

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I have told only a selected few about my decision regarding the lap band. No one in my family know yet because they always have something negative to say and it don't surprise me. What surprises me is the friends I have shared this info with can be so mean. I'm getting this done because I don't want to be obese anymore & struggle with the health issues I have now. Yes I ask myself all the time "whatever happened to plain old exercising"... I know me better than anyone do and I can honestly say that wont be enough for me. Needless to say I dont feel I owe anyone an explanation on my decision. If you're a true friend you shouldn't ask for one nor make fun of me... definitely a great time to find new friends!

I'm was banded oct 11th. So I'm not that far out. We are here to make new friends. So if you need it I'm here for you. Friend me...I have not figured out how to do it yet. Lol

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the banded b's will support you

hit us up if you need support or you need to vent.

friendship/understanding is what its about.

you are not alone :)

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What I have started, is a Facebook group for all of my supporters... and NON supporters. I update it daily with what I am feeling and how I am progressing. I am surprised that some of my NON supporters, have become some of the most. I think some people think that we are just lazy people and want to sit on the couch all day, eat potato chips and ice cream, and lose weight, when they feel they have to work for it. Now that they see I am eating 1/2 the calories they are, going to the gym 2 more days then they are, and I have 32 other supporters that make them look like idiots, for some, the light kicks on. I couldn't do this without the band. So, for me, it is straight ignorance of those non supporters, topped with a bit of jealousy. My psychologist told me that this would happen.

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