I know there are lots of topics out there about To Tell or Not, but I have already made my decision. I have decided the only person outside of the medical people that will know about my band - at least in the beginning - will be my husband. I have come across a few bumps in the road in regards to my plan though, so I need some ideas.

Firstly, I found out that my mom, who is staying with us temporarily - and was supposed to be moved out around April 1st - will have to stay with us a while longer. I don't have my surgery date yet, but it is hopefully going to be in April. My mom is much older (almost 80), doesn't keep secrets well at ALL, and I don't want to tell her and have her tell everyone else. Unless I get lucky and bounce back the next day, she will know there is something wrong. I have 2 small kids (4 and 2), and I can't hide the fact that I had surgery or that I can't pick up my kids.

Second, I have started dieting and exercising regularly with a friend for the last few months. I am not telling any of my friends yet, including her, so I would have to have a reason that my normal activities are being halted for a little while.

Thirdly, having the two little kids, I may need to get some help from family or friends to either watch them or take them to the babysitter. I'll be on pain meds (maybe) and my husband can only take a day or two off of work to stay with me. If I have to ask anyone for that kind of help they would know something was wrong.

I thought about a hernia, or some sort of stomach issue, but I don't want my family and friends to be concerned or worried...more like something routine, like a lets-check-this-out surgery/procedure vs. a complication that needs fixing.

Does anyone have any ideas? Or something you've used yourself? I'm fairly healthy, and my family knows that so it's hard to come up with something. Maybe some sort of "woman" problem?? I hate being deceitful or lying :ph34r: , but I can't really say to my family "it's none of your business why I had surgery", but what else do I say?

Any advice would be great! :wub:

~Kelly

i'd also recommend something with the gall bladder...i had mine removed about 3 years before i had the band done and my bariatric surgeon said that the scars would be very similar, which they were! good luck

I was going to use gall bladder surgery they use the same prceedure in the same areas or clae to anyways but the only use three holes just don't say or show lower cuts sites. It's around the same healing time too. I ended up telling someone that spilled the beans sooo everyone has been ever nice about it not bringing it a lot it so worked out

I would reccomend the hernia, in fact that is what i am telling everyone. I'm not lying because they are actually going to fix mine while in there. Good luck.

Thanks everyone for the thoughts and input! I will definitely have to think about the hernia and gallbladder. I wish I didn't have to say anything, but people are going to notice I had some sort of surgery. As far as anyone outside my family I don't think anyone will ask many questions except a friend or two, but my family will definitely notice something going on and I don't want to tell them about my band until I'm ready.

If I didn't have the little kids I could just go stay in a hotel a few days and say I'm going out of town but real life keeps bringing me back from that fantasy.