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What was your turning point for finally turning to wls?

Mine was (after 20 years) after I went on a cruise and I kept tninking I would of had a such a better time if I was more comfotable in my body. I wasnt able to do alot if what I wanted to do. I was able to barely do the zipline in Balize, but the guy embarrased me and said in front of everyone that I needed extra harneses because of my weight. I was given an extra large innertube.

Things like that can really affect someone. And the kicker was when I got back and was taking the kuds to school and was cut off by someone and then they called me a Fat Cow.

It was after that I started really looking into doing something. it was finally getting to affect my self esteme to the point that I could not take anymore.

Was there a certain turning point for you?

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Mine simply was when size 44 pants was getting to tight and was ready to go buy size 46.

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my turning point was my uncontrolled diabetes and watching my younger cousin (34) and grandmother go through multiple surgeries due to complications from this wretched disease...i was insulin bound...now 7 days post-op i'm off all meds:)

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Simply my husband and son...I want to see my son get married and have children :)

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When I had to have my husband tie my tennis shoes so we could go walking!

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When my dad died at 59 from complication of weighing over 400 pounds.

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It was a culmination of many things for me. Realizing last summer how out of shape I was when I did a hike locally that is known for its harshness with my kids. They both did it no problem and it took me over 3 hours instead of the usual 30 mins. My son standing about 20 feet above calling down "you can do it mommy!" and people giggling on the trail.

Planning a trip to mexico in the fall with my kids for a family wedding and the first holiday that I have ever been able to go on with them. I didn't want it to less fun for my kids because I was embarrassed to be seen in public as I am on the beach. Them missing out because of me made me feel awful.

Being frustrated, tired and generally like crap every morning when i woke up. Always tired.

Along the way there have been many things but those two stood out a lot.

Oh, and i am turning 40 this year and named 2012 the "get on with it already" year.

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when my own snoring woke me up, and it hurt to sleep tummy down.

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I'd say one of the large factors, was my sister getting engaged. Yes I had been miserable for a long time and yo yo dieting and stuff. But the thought of having to wear a dress, made me even more depressed. There was NO WAY I was going to be caught dead in a dress at 260 (I think that is about where I was), and unfortunately that wasn't my highest of 308, but still. I think it was a couple of months after my sister got engaged I had my first appointment. I had a 6 month supervised diet I had to go through and I lost only 11lbs. Got banded in December and my sisters wedding was in November, I got down to 180 by that date. I was still self conscious, but I felt I looked decent. The other factors were just that I was miserable with my life, I had no life. Luckily I was fat, but I was healthy, no medical problems at all.

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When I was diagnosed with diabetes I had an epiphany. Logically I knew it going to happen, but the doctor actually saying "you are diabetic" really threw me. At 39, I could and would deal with it, but my 5 year old son ate the same garbage I was eating. I was afraid I was sentencing him to a lifetime of dealing with this disease. That made me an unfit mother and I can't and won't accept that. Since meeting my doctor last summer, my entire family eats much healthier than we ever have. My son is more active than he was and I am able to keep up with him. 40 lbs to go, but I feel successful already. :)

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For me it was seeing Oprah gain her weight back yet again and if she can't do it, who can? My mom died of cancer quite young and was obese, my dad has diabetes and I was plain sick of feeling bad and ashamed and being on every diet under the sun. I was sick of always being the fattest in the room.

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The icing on the cake was not being able to tie my shoes comfortably. Also sitting at work in my tight size 22's was really starting to get to me as well!

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My turning point was when I was unable to do things with my kids. It has gone on for years and I wish I had done it sooner. I feel like I missed a lot of what I would have done with them. I am glad I finally got to the point where how I was living my life was probably going to literally kill me and when My Grandchildren are born I'd like to be here to meet them! That was the day I realized I wanted to be around longer and enjoy doing more with my kids.

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My turning point was when I was unable to do things with my kids. It has gone on for years and I wish I had done it sooner. I feel like I missed a lot of what I would have done with them. I am glad I finally got to the point where how I was living my life was probably going to literally kill me and when My Grandchildren are born I'd like to be here to meet them! That was the day I realized I wanted to be around longer and enjoy doing more with my kids.

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Mine was when my husband, 6ft 1in, ask to wear a brown belt of mine and it fit him. He had his 3rd bandirversary in Feb. Then and there I decided I needed to do something that works. I was at 244, even heavier than when I was pregnant with either of my kiddos.

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