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DeLarla    22

DeLarla
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Part of being human is having an array of emotions that range from silly to angrily outraged. Some people think it's bad to show emotions, but I think it makes us all honest. I would rather see someone's true feelings than wonder if they feel at all.

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NeenBand    7

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I totally agree. But for me personally, I know when it's coming from an honest place or an angry place. If I post right away, it's the latter. It comes across as aggressive. If I wait, I can converse with someone in a more clear, honest way and they can respond in a more clear and honest way without feeling attacked. And in that way there is a better chance of something good coming from the exchange.

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DevilMayKare    1

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Part of being human is having an array of emotions that range from silly to angrily outraged. Some people think it's bad to show emotions, but I think it makes us all honest. I would rather see someone's true feelings than wonder if they feel at all.

Well, let's see... I'd better quote that in case you DELETE it and my response makes no sense.

DAMN! WHERE is that "poke" emoticon. I can't seem to find it.

Oh but, LOL -- I JUST found this one...

:puke:

Woulda been sooo appropo for the D'alahlin's post on another thread.

(I can't believe there's a PUKING emoticon!!! What will they think of next???)

And let me just add that anyone who thinks emotions get out of hand here shoulda been around for some of the "MAC vs PC" arguments I waded thru on the Compuserve desktop publishing forum in earlier days. The posts around here are tame comparably.

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PhotoNut    7

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Then five minutes later I realize I was acting like the child of a lunatic, so I delete my words hoping I didn't hurt anyone yet. Make sense? I'm a work in progress, but at least I catch my faults and correct them when possible.

Hell, I leave mine up as reminder to everyone. Watch out for her.. she's Nuts! *laughs*

(although I do also try to make up for it - see my post on the "Another Erosion" thread)

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dawg    0

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Honestly I think its too much to ask people to be kind and loving all the time. Show me a single example where this happens in your daily life (other than spouses, perhaps).

Anything from the pissed off boss, to the sarcastic joke from a friend. They all can hurt your feelings and its up to you to figure out how to deal with it.

This is a forum, a meeting place where people get together and openly discuss subjects and express their opinions. Every word on these boards are opinions (even the stuff recorded as a fact).

If we could all be loving and kind all the time it would be fabulous. It isn't going to happen and its unrealistic to even think that it could.

As for the concept of cautioning someone. I can support that totally if its a direct insult: Dawg, you are a scumsucking SOB and need to STFU.

But if its something like: I personally think your decision to use Dr. Blah shows lack of foresight and I question why you would do such a thing...

That's not an insult. It's an opinion.

A forum is based on the guiding principal of "Freedom of Speech". I for one do not want a candy coated LaLa Land where we are all afraid to open our mouths, in fear of hurting someone.

I respect everyone's opinion, and I respect anyone's right to disagree with me.

We are here to provide support and friendship, but we're also here to discuss a topic which can raise high emotions.

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donali    57

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Does that make me a bad person, or just pathetic?

LOL. See, gwe're not so bad - no gone's answered syou yet. hehehe

PhotoNut and DAWG - where have syou two been all my life?!?!

xxoo

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PhotoNut    7

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My peeve is when people's PM boxes get full and I cant PM them.

DeLarla, love.. EMPTY YOUR BOX!

(Bet she doesn't know how.. *laughs* )

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dawg    0

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"PhotoNut and DAWG - where have syou two been all my life?!?!"

HEY, that's what I was gonna say!!! I want to marry them.

NO Dawg-Nut for you! You shall have to live vicariously through our shared insanity instead.

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DevilMayKare    1

DevilMayKare
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"Hell, I leave mine up as reminder to everyone. Watch out for her.. she's Nuts!"

Yeah, like anyone would need a REMINDER to watch out for you!

GD&R

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DeLarla    22

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Kare, I have feelings too. How many jokes does it take to get DeLarla to take an LBT vacation? Last time I stopped posting, I was innundated with e-mails and phone calls telling me to get my butt back. I will ground you from me, then you'll miss me. I'm like a drug - bad for you but you gotta have me.

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