Oh man am I seriously questioning this decision. If you saw me you'd think I needed to lose about 20lbs. I'm very stocky but I weight 290 and should be about 180-190. No one in my family other then my mother is over weight. I've been up and down for the past 14 years. I have demons in my head that keep telling me I can do this on my own.. Man I hope I make it through tomorrow without canceling.

I don't mean to be rude, but if you're 100-110 lbs over weight, I can assure you that you do not look like you need to lose 20 lbs. There isn't a person out there that would.

OTOH, it sounds like you might not be mentally ready for this. I'd be 100% sure that this life-changing decision is the one you want to make.

Hang in there Bruinfan.....surgery is scary no matter what. We all have our doubts going in. You can do it!!

I honestly don't know if I'd ever be 100%. My good friend who is also my personal Dr. Recommended this surgery as he's watched me yo yo on Atkins weight watchers nutri system over the past 14 years. I'm very very stocky so you honestly wouldn't think I need to lose 100lbs unless you saw me with my shirt off I'm just very scares at taking such a dramatic step.

HELLO BRUIN!!!!! we are band siblings as you know and I finally hit my nervous stage!! did my first shower with that anti-bac soap ew smelly lol anyways my surgery was 11 am but got moved back till 1 now so we will see! anytime you encounter something as serious like this if your not nervous or doubting yourself, or showing some sort of emotion there is something wrong i believe that might be called sociopathic, so you showing some emotions to the whole process is quite healthy! the day i went to go gt induced to have my daughter I looked at my mom and said I cant do this, I dont want to, I really didnt have a choice at that point but the whole point is she is the best thing that ever happened to me! I cant look at anything even the simplest of tasks and not have some sort of doubt about some part of it. since I was born human I will always question, doubt, reinforce myself that I am strong and I am making the right decision Im just scared. My point is am I nervous now hell ya, do I doubt myself hell ya, but am I gonna die a fat person who cant have fun with her family? HELL NO! Im gonna kick fats ass and get back to being active and having fun! I will be thinking of you tomorrow at 11:30 I know youll be just fine, and the person hiding inside of you will be thankful as well. I would ask you to think of me as well but im sure at that point youll be enjoying some fantastic meds! anyways remember to just breathe.

HELLO BRUIN!!!!! we are band siblings as you know and I finally hit my nervous stage!! did my first shower with that anti-bac soap ew smelly lol anyways my surgery was 11 am but got moved back till 1 now so we will see! anytime you encounter something as serious like this if your not nervous or doubting yourself, or showing some sort of emotion there is something wrong i believe that might be called sociopathic, so you showing some emotions to the whole process is quite healthy! the day i went to go gt induced to have my daughter I looked at my mom and said I cant do this, I dont want to, I really didnt have a choice at that point but the whole point is she is the best thing that ever happened to me! I cant look at anything even the simplest of tasks and not have some sort of doubt about some part of it. since I was born human I will always question, doubt, reinforce myself that I am strong and I am making the right decision Im just scared. My point is am I nervous now hell ya, do I doubt myself hell ya, but am I gonna die a fat person who cant have fun with her family? HELL NO! Im gonna kick fats ass and get back to being active and having fun! I will be thinking of you tomorrow at 11:30 I know youll be just fine, and the person hiding inside of you will be thankful as well. I would ask you to think of me as well but im sure at that point youll be enjoying some fantastic meds! anyways remember to just breathe.

Bruin,

I just saw this post so I'm thinking you were banded by now. If you are not, that is not a big deal. It is your life and your body, and if you don't feel sure that this is the right thing for YOU, so be it!

I have to admit that I'm curious about what you decided to do!

Best wishes whatever you chose!

Oh man am I seriously questioning this decision. If you saw me you'd think I needed to lose about 20lbs. I'm very stocky but I weight 290 and should be about 180-190. No one in my family other then my mother is over weight. I've been up and down for the past 14 years. I have demons in my head that keep telling me I can do this on my own.. Man I hope I make it through tomorrow without canceling.

Bruin,

I just saw this post so I'm thinking you were banded by now. If you are not, that is not a big deal. It is your life and your body, and if you don't feel sure that this is the right thing for YOU, so be it!

I have to admit that I'm curious about what you decided to do!

Best wishes whatever you chose!

I got banded I'm tired as heck and pretty sore. It wasn't the worst experience but I'm moving pretty slow right now.. I'm having a very hard time keeping my throat moist without over drinking..

anytime you encounter something as serious like this if your not nervous or doubting yourself, or showing some sort of emotion there is something wrong i believe that might be called sociopathic, so you showing some emotions to the whole process is quite healthy!

I know it's no big deal..and I know you didn't mean it in the actual way..but honestly, I study Forensic Psychology and I was actually married to a psychopath...just because someone doesn't doubt him or herself or show any type of emotion just because they are having surgery..does not even come close to meaning that someone is a sociopath.. seriously.. there is A LOT more involved in what characteristics a sociopath has... A sociopath is seriously a really really really bad person..so people might take offense that you had said that.. I know you didn't mean it in that way..and I know the word sociopath and psychopath is different to me because of what I explained..but honestly just be careful of using that word.. it's a pretty serious word and a lot of people have gone through hell having had to deal with an actual sociopath. Just saying..

I got banded I'm tired as heck and pretty sore. It wasn't the worst experience but I'm moving pretty slow right now.. I'm having a very hard time keeping my throat moist without over drinking..

Congrats hon..I'm glad you are doing okay..I can't believe you can drink already... dude..I got tortured!

I know it's no big deal..and I know you didn't mean it in the actual way..but honestly, I study Forensic Psychology and I was actually married to a psychopath...just because someone doesn't doubt him or herself or show any type of emotion just because they are having surgery..does not even come close to meaning that someone is a sociopath.. seriously.. there is A LOT more involved in what characteristics a sociopath has... A sociopath is seriously a really really really bad person..so people might take offense that you had said that.. I know you didn't mean it in that way..and I know the word sociopath and psychopath is different to me because of what I explained..but honestly just be careful of using that word.. it's a pretty serious word and a lot of people have gone through hell having had to deal with an actual sociopath. Just saying..

smokey i hope you read my whole comment it was actually a positive one i was saying its normal to have emotins it would not be normal to not have nay emotion about the process. no passive aggressive comments needed, i too studied psychology. i am very supportive of bruinfan. im very poud of him! whatever choice he would have made, i had my surgery yesterday as well.

@bruinfan i have the same problem i got some throat moisture lozenges sugar free of course and no chewing! and they work but the broth and juice and Water are keeping me going i actually was able to have two cup of decaf as well, and the dr wants me on my shakes today too! eek tho maybe a little much im very sore and swollen but ice packs are helping and getting up and moving around are making me burp and get the gas out too im very proud of you it is a hard decision and we will be so proud of what we can accomplish!!!

I read it and took no offense at all I thank you very much for the support! With my walks and pain meds I'm feeling pretty darn good.

Congrats on the decision to move forward with the surgery, I hope that you do super in the weight loss and look forward to hearing about your continueing success in that journey.

I read it and took no offense at all I thank you very much for the support! With my walks and pain meds I'm feeling pretty darn good.

Contratulations to you and I hope you are doing well!