First you have to stop comparing yourself to "every" bandster. Men will almost always drop weight faster and quicker than women, there is no way to fix it.

Second if you have lost 30 lbs in the first 3 months and you look at Bandster B and they have lost 50 in the same amount of time, don't immediately go "Ok I have failed, or I am doing something wrong." Enjoy that 30 lbs and congratulate yourself. Second do this little math formula.

(lbs lost / starting weight) * 100 = The % of your total body weight you have lost. Now follow me in these 2 examples to see why this is important.

In the example above Bandster A has lost 30 lbs, their starting weight was 250. Bandster B has lost 50 lbs, their starting weight was 425.

Bandster A = 30/250= 0.12 * 100 = 12% of total body weight lost

Bandster B = 50/425 = 0.1176 * 100 = 11.76% of total body weight lost.

As you can see, yes they have lost almost 2x as many lbs, but still come in at less overall weight loss.

Great explaination of the numbers and relativity.

That's a great comparison! I haven't started even considering that someone else is losing more than me because trust me, I am just glad I'm finally losing!! But I hope that others who do compare, read your post and get it. Thanks and good luck, you're doing great so far!

I agree there is a lot of relativity to be had. I do sometimes get down that others loose faster. I keep reminding myself that a year before even attending the seminar I had started to modify my eating habits (but no enough), and was exercising every day (lost 30 pounds). After the seminar I made even more changes to my diet and lost another 52 before surgery. So the 20 I've lost since the surgery 2 months ago is starting from a different place than someone who did a one week diet prior to surgery.