Ok,

so is it just me, or has anyone else experienced this ????

I've decided on the band, when ... well, soon .. in the next 9 months, however ... here's the thing!

you know i look at a lot of your before and afters .... and you all look fabulous, but has anyone ever been obese as a kid, and no matter what you did you were always fat ..... over weight ... obese?

the physical transformation for some like it would be for me is substantial.

how do you go accepting the new you, the new you that doesn't go overboard and feel like the only way to get to a smaller size is literally starving yourself (or that was the thought process before the surgery maybe)

the psych element is sorta out of wack for me .....

one day im 385 lbs, in 12 months im 285 ?????

i cant grasp that!!!!! emotionally im struggling ... anyone feel that before the operation? and there after?

how'd you deal with the new you without feeling like the old you ... the big you?

grrrr so confused! I just couldnt imagine feeling smaller! all the challenges I've had being the size i am ..... wow ... i just cant grasp my head around the changes ... can anyone relate?

thx all!

native twinkie!

The psychological element is HUGE for me, too! I think it's actually the most important factor. Message me if you ever need someone to talk to--I totally get it! And don't be afraid to get someone professional who can address your emotional/psychological well-being, too.

I just can't imagine any of it being bad so I understand you feeling nervous about change but wont it all be for the better. You'll look better, feel better and most of all be in better health.

Just because you are a big girl does not mean you have to be a big girl forever! We're here to help!!!!