My husband and i are both over weight and have been our entire lives. I am scheduled to be banded on January 14. He has his first doctors appointment on January 19. I love the idea of going through this process with best friend...being able to eat the same way and support each other through this. My concern, and it is hard to approach this with him ( he sees it as me wanting to go get skinny and not wanting him to take my thunder...which is insane btw, I want my husband to get healthy and live a long and full life with me) That said, I am a nurturer and by nature I just take care of him/spoil him . I am concerned that if he gets banded around the same time as me, he will expect me to do it for him...tell him what to eat, tell him when to exercise etc. i do the cooking now and he eats what i cook. But we have done weight watchers together in the past and he has no idea how to do it...he totally relied on me. I just dont know if I am strong enough to do this for the both of us. He has made a few comments about me getting skinny and finding a skinny man. AS IF!!!) I hope that he is wanting to get the surgery for the right reasons and not due to any insecurities he might have. Any thoughts??? I would like to thank everyone on this site for all of the great questions and answers provided, things that i would not have thought of and a lot of my fears have been put at ease. So...THANKS GUYS!

i just want to thank you all for your wonderful suggestions. Since this post, I have spoken with my husband about my concerns. He was totally open to what I had to say and was really trying to understand where i was coming from. I think that whether or not he gets banded, I really believe that he will be that support that i need.