KatieMc

I love seeing energy kcal on labels! I know the poster possibly lives abroad/outside the US and reminds me what the rest of the world thinks food is all about
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After losing weight, my knees knocked together in bed and hurt like hell, hard chairs make my tailbone hurt now. I cannot eat much chocolate, somewhat of an aversion to it, hit and miss on reactions to it. I don't miss Pasta or rice at all, only toasted bread is tolerated. I still hiccup, sneeze or my nose runs when I am full.

And my new slacks are floral, 2 very pretty prints. Why dress like a grayish blob, when I can rock the smaller me? Late Husband would have hated these, make pointed remarks like Did the floral market explode? Dressing like you're young when I know how old you ar . And then finished it off with No Fool like an Old Fool.
But you know what? I'm under new management, my own. They do not make me look large, in fact wearing,them I have still gotten compliments on my weight loss and how pretty they are. And most important, they make me feel good about ME, I seldom had that with. Late Lamented. Now that I can look back with clarity, for I no longer have to live that style, He believed the only way to boost yourself up was to tear down and belittle someone else. And that was the example his father gave him, saw it when I married into that group.
If I mourn anything it is the potential for being a wonderful husband but he was content with being so much less. Does this make me less since,i did not inspire more in him? That's an answer I may never know.

My ex boyfriend is one of my closest friends now and he is not obese at all but can put on a little extra weight because like most people likes fast food and the ease of takeout.
I convinced him start taking lunch to work and I shopped and meal prepped with him once. He keeped it going and 3 months later thanked me because at his recent physical they realized he lost 20lbs.

Hi everyone , today the day I’m on my way to the hospital and I’m super nervous !!!

Well I'm now home!! N like they say there's no place like home at this time I'm single(as of today anyway) so I had to do my own shopping n pick up my meds...n bring it all inside my self...I swear who needs a man that's not reliable..SMH.. I'm home sipping on some very good tasting Protein water...I don't get how I'm suppose to drink 64fl oz n I can barely drink 16 oz...oh well its a self challenge guess!! I smile when I think about what I just went thru n the healthier me I will meet!!

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My wife had the sleeve done almost 2 years ago. She lost weight and everything was good. Then on August 4th she went to a going away party and got super drunk, then all at once she went crazy! Ever since then she has had a huge/unhealthy boost in energy. This event seems to have jump started something that has gotten out of control over the last nine months. Excessive drinking, partying, shopping, cellphone messaging with friends (100's a day), leaving the house as much as possible even for no reason, constant avoidance of anything that requires her to sit still, and avoidance of family members and friends that aren't "exciting" or don't support her acting wild. Even texting with friends for hours in bed when she should be sleeping. She also has lost some interest at her job because in bores her now and lack of caring about our marriage. It really got bad this week and she wanted a divorce so she could party without having to fight with me about it the next day. This week was rock bottom and she broke down and admitted that there was something driving her that she couldn't control. I found a few articles on line that said after extreme weight loss from a surgery, women in their 30's and 40's can experience a resurgence in hormone production. The three most straight forward ways I saw this described was that it was like having roid rage, going through puberty, and being in heat all at the same time. Her ovulation has been extreme since this started, which might be evidence of this. I also read that this could last 1-3 years before the brain realizes to shut it down to normal levels. When I told her this , she cried and said "that's exactly how I feel all the time and I can't control it". She gets jittery sitting on the couch watching TV, she feels like she's being pumped full of adrenaline all day every day non-stop, she lashes out at people who want to help, she says she has major anxiety about sitting down for 3 minute just to write out checks to pay the bills that aren't automatic withdraws, some medical and other small bills have piled up for months now. The last couple of days have been great since we've come to this realization and are going to find a way to fix it. Today sitting on the couch waiting for her friend to come pick her up she looked like a caged wild tiger ready to eat someone, BUT today she realized it was happening. She couldn't stop it, but she recognized it and said something, I was proud of her!
Any other women out there experience this? Were you able to fix or suppress it with medicine?

I laughed so hard at this, because I relate to the whole dating process. Not that I’ve done much dating in the last couple of years.

But I’ve certainly said to myself no one will want me while I’ve been larger.

I’m an odd female, never married no kids. And don’t count/want to have any, just due to being nearly 46. Seems way too crazy to have kids now and not with someone anyhow.

I sometimes think I’ll be alone forever now. But I do hope I meet someone to have as a special friend that I spend time with who becomes a partner. But I slightly err on the side of I can’t see it happening... since it hasn’t happened thus far.

And I know I’m someone who has some shit, but it’s mine and I own it. I’m very young at heart and have a lot to give.

I hope the right person comes along in some random way for everyone at the ‘right’ time or when least expected.

I agree with @Sosewsue61, that finding a woman without children and who doesn't want children is by far a bigger hurdle than finding someone not obese.
I also agree @KimTriesRNY that just because someone is a normal weight doesn't mean they have good eating habits or active lifestyle.
I do totally get what you are saying though. It gets harder to date the more criteria you have. I'm in that same boat, although my criteria are different.

Thank you for your response.
My aversion to dating overweight people is not aesthetic. I’m concerned if I’m around someone who eats poorly or is inactive, I’ll begin to eat poorly or be inactive. Obesity is socially contagious, and much of my success has been due to being single in the first place - I didn’t need to be around unhealthy food for anyone else’s sake. I’m actually impressed with those who did have to be around unhealthy food and yet still succeeded. I don’t think I could have.

I have the mirena and absolutely love it! Im on my 3rd one and highly recommend it. No periods and lasts 5 years.

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Where to start ...
Three days ago I had surgery. Prior arrangements were made for my mom to be my caregiver. I was hesitant because she didn’t have time for me then so how could she ever make time to care for me now I’m my time of need ? But she said she would so I let it go. She went to the meetings and appointments - now fast forward to the day of surgery and every day after she is a goner! From the time she saw I was able to walk regularly during my first hospital walk - she has thrown me to the wolves. Since discharge I have been on my own and the sad part is we live in the same house. She doesn’t help me walk , prep for liquids , assist with lifting or bending ( I literally had to beg her to get someone to unclog my bathroom tub drain so I could take my first shower since surgery today) , track intake , remind of breathing exercises and is rarely around to help even though she says if you need help just let me know - TRICK HOW when you’re gone or unavailable 3/4 of the day ?! Then to put the icing on the cake 🎂 for the past two to three weeks her as well as everyone who lives in the home as well have been ordering fast food and takeout constantly , eating junk food they never would and inviting me as well as others out to “dinner” ( never did before found out was having surgery) - why so you can call me even fatter ?! And then look at me crazy when I order a salad or have to make alterations in order for the meal to be considered healthy ? No thanks i’ll pass. Anyway I’m Just fed up - she was supposed to go on this liquid diet with me but so far it’s just been talk and oh i’ll start tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. Junk continues to be eaten right in front of me as if they are trying to tempt me - but newsflash Dipshits - THAT PART OF MY BODY IS NO LONGER PRESENT - IT GOT CUT OUT 3 DAYS AGO ! I’m just sick of all the antics , comments and unsupportiveness. One of my stitches ripped I guess from lifting something earlier and then my leg started to cramp - maybe I was dehydrated / needed to walk to avoid clots - who knows , but I did walk and cannot stomach anymore liquid today. Starting tomorrow I’m going to see if an home nurse can stop by daily because this “help” isn’t just not working for me . And then they wonder why I’m so angry now ?! Psssssh !
Vent over . Any comments ?

Day 4... I'm able to get up out of bed ...still dealing with a little minor pain.. some lightheadedness once I'm up.. but the agonizing pain is no more..or not as bad..that's for sure...I'm sure it will continue to hurt as it heals I mean really I did have Surgery....everyone on your road to recovery..stay positive and focused... ok bbltr

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Tuesday..Had my GS..
Wednesday, Thursday n Friday
Nothing but pure agonizing pain..sips of Water with meds only, as my Dr. Had me NPO until today.. I was able to order my phase one diet meal. strawberry Suger free jello..and chicken broth..the pain I feel when I swallow.. I worked really slow on the Jello n left the broth alone..
My head has bin pounding due to my caffeine withdrawal..how I need my coffee...hope everyone is doing well...
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Hi everyone! My name is Tiffany
A good friend recommended this forum and I’ve been reading and it feels so supporting and welcoming!
I was given my surgery date today and in 15 days I’ll be getting the gastric sleeve! I’m terrified but I really need help getting rid of this extra 200 lbs! But I’m a little worried about the liquid diet. I used to fast a lot (religious reasons) but never just liquids. I work at a very stressful clinic and while I’m currently on the Keto and loving it, I was hoping y’all had advice as to how to handle temptations or avoid feeling weak and such. Also, can I take Vitamins during the pre or no? Thank you so much! Please send the good vibes over because I am freaking out! But I’m also excited. So excited! I look forward to finally being able to control PCOS. I know there’s no cure but a chance at controlling these symptoms would be great! Xoxo

Within a TOPS group (I've been a member and Weight Recorder at one for 2 years), there is also KOPS - Keeping Off Pounds Sensibly for those who've reached their goal. I'd say they are pretty awesome at helping with maintenance, great success rate in my group. They offer support in and out of meetings, the entire group is a resource for advice, they run games for dimes and quarters to keep things fun. The average age tends to be quite high, but think of that as a greater wealth of knowledge - they've been on every diet, they've considered WLS. They're more open-minded than you might think.

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Take Off Pounds Sensibly) meets every Thursday evening at St. Leo's Catholic Church on Sulpher Springs Road, Inwood. Private weigh-ins are held from 6 to 6:30 p.m., with the support meeting starting at 6:30 p.m. Visitors are welcome to attend and the first meeting is free of charge. Annual membership for TOPS is $32 a year and Chapter dues is $4 a month. TOPS provides education programs, support, and friendship.

Just got back from the OA meeting. It isn't for me. It was completely nonreligious and I gleaned that at least half the group were atheists. BUT, none had had gastric bypass and I did feel judgment. They said that they do not like the surgery because through OA if I had done that first and worked the steps, I wouldn't have needed the surgery and could have conquered the food addiction without medical intervention. They shared stories and talked about their struggles with eating now, but I don't share the same issues because this surgery has forced me into a healthy eating lifestyle. So our issues don't quite mesh. They are working on getting to where I already am by virtue of "cheating" and having surgery. I am looking for one on one advice with maintenance for when I have any weak moments. They do not give advice. They just read from the book (and I can't focus when someone reads) and share what they struggled with recently. But no one responds with advice. It seems kind of useless imo. Anyways, I gave it a shot. Not for me.

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BTW, everyone has their own preferences, but I've tried a lot of the Protein powders. Body Fortress has the cheapest (on Amazon) and best tasting in my opinion. Isopure is good, but twice the price of Body Fortress. Walmart just started carrying the Body fortress as well. Just FYI.

So I've been trying to cut back my normal Breakfast and get use to not eating a normal meal.. I'm pretty good at skipping breakfast but I know with the operation you need your Protein intake...
This is what I'm having for the next 3 months 
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Sorry for the length of this,
Sorry to hear about your health issues. Medications can be difficult on weight loss. On the positive side, You have figured out the key to getting your weight down. It’s finding your calorie and macro range that puts your body in weight loss mode. Low carb and 1000 calories range is working for you. People on this site are going to benefit from your story/experience with getting a gain back down.
I’m no expert. Just from my experience. I was sleeved in 2014. (almost 5 years out) I had my first gain in my third year. I worked it back down. What I have learned over the years.
Getting back in weight loss mode after a gain:
Get rid of temptation foods in your home and go grocery shopping.
Accept that you will feel crappy detoxing off the extra carbs sugar and calories, It will pass.
Log your food and go back to bariatric weight loss basics. Once you found your current calorie range dial them in to where your body starts losing weight again.( I'm 5"5" my range is 950 to 1100 carbs n higher tha 60 grams) If you are not in weight loss mode, Start by logging and dial in your calories back by 100 and adjust your carbs. These numbers will be specific to your body. If you need help setting things up in your food log app ask.
Sleeves will have some extra compacity to fill. Eat dense Protein and the other items allowed on your plan. Eat as much veggies as you like until full. The bulk/fiber will help you feel full. They are low in calories and will keep you in your daily calorie range. This is the trick. Because we can eat more does not mean you have to go over your calories and macros.
Keep healthy sweet and salty options on hand for cravings.
Ditch liquid/soft food protein sources. They will not satisfy hunger (except for on the run/emergency food)
If you are low on time. Meal prep Sundays. Freeze portioned foods for you and the family for the week.
Find some great recipes to get out of food ruts.
Maintenance mode:
THE WORK DOESS NOT END AFTER GOAL!!!!! Maintaining is Keeping an eye on the scale. Don’t let a 20-pound gain become 40 70 100+ pound gain. (*** Newbies*** you will be surprised on how quickly a gain can happen and how slow it comes off years out)
It takes time to adjust getting out of the bariatric rules of what’s good and bad mindset –
You will be adding carbs to slow stop your weight loss
Yes, you get to indulge with in reason. Know what foods may trigger you. Notice if they lead you down a path to over consume and gain.
Give yourself a bounce range to maintain. (I maintain a ten pound bounce up and down the scale)
When you gain your bounce range, go back to bariatric basis to get it back off
Over the years. We tend to get lax, old behaviors and stress eating can slip back in. Don’t beat yourself up. Anyone of us can gain. Come back here for support. Join a weight loss challenge.
My reality is I log. I’ve tried to guess my way and it just does not work for me. Especially when I go back to weight loss mode. For those of you who maintain without logging I give it up to you.
Find what works for you.

@tiffany44641
I have been a low carber, Keto person off and on for about 16 years.
I would lose weight but plateau and I didn't understand stalls so I would quit. I also had a Portion Control issue. People in the keto community feel like you can eat without portion control as long as it is high fat.
Being sleeved helped me control my portions. In the beginning when I was healing I just followed a normal low carb diet.
Around 6 months when I was healed, I switched to keto. Personally I feel like if I didn't switch to Keto I would not have lost this much weight. I would have topped out at about 100 pounds lost and bounced around like most WLS people.
Just as importantly eating keto has allowed me to maintain my looks. I have lost 182 pounds and I look very young and healthy. I do not look sickly. My face looks amazing. Keto is great for women because the fat is great for your skin. If you look in keto groups the women that keto almost glow.
I am a strong advocate for Keto. If you can portion control you can lose a lot of weight on keto. If you can't portion control wls is a great option to help you with that. The sleeve has helped me with portion control and made making the right food choices easy.

Oops I'm 63yo. Why did i add years...lol

So, I've been tired my whole life. LOL. No, seriously. Since I was about 13, I remember being constantly tired. Like could barely keep my eyes open on a daily basis tired. And I was not overweight until age 20 and not obese until a few years ago, so it wasn't weight-related. Had all the thyroid and metabolic testing under the sun blah blah blah. Used to force myself to be active in sports, etc, when I was thinner, too... still tired af.
Anyways, the last several weeks I've been taking a number of different supplements alleging to help with energy that are caffeine/stimulant-free. And I have actually noticed a substantial difference within the last two weeks. For the first time IN MY LIFE I feel awake during the day; like I don't need a mid-day nap. I am taking several so I don't know which is the effective one, but thought I'd share the list. Honestly, I figured most of these things are placebo or some BS woo crap, but one of them is genuinely making a big difference. It's either the arginine or the inosine, I think, because the T2 and chia I've been taking a while now to no effect.
ThyroTwin - Thyronine (T2) - a.m.
L-Arginine - noon
Inosine - noon
Beet root extract - p.m.
Chia seed extract - a.m.

I ❤️ Crystal Light with caffeine . Livin on the edge!