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I think my pre op photo explains why I have turkey neck. Photo angle is everything *laughing* At 50 years old I'm good with the situation. I knew I would never be a model after WLS. My goal is to be a badass grandma.

*laughing* I feel your pain. I can't to any type of rice. Brown, white or wild. The bloat and trying to get things to move days after.

I was told to expect to lose 60% of my weight with the sleeve. I gave myself the first golden year to get the most out of my WLS. After being on this site, I was realistic about slow, normal, and fast weight loss rates. I got to goal in six months. Totally unexpected. I would have been fine to reach it in a year or more. The only thing that matters is getting your health back.

Weight loss seems to be such a controversial subject. People are overly opinionated. I'm not and I don't want to be the spokesman for bariatrics. I don't feel the need to educate anyone on WLS. They can do their own research. Don't invest time in negative people. Keep life simple.

Sorry to hear your family is not supportive of you. Know that there are some great people on this site. Talk with us anytime. ?Ugh family ? I had to cut ties with some family members. I keep positive people around me. No need to let people drag you down.

I found this to be true. My family Dr advised me to lose weight with diet and exercise. I was not given a diet plan or a referral to a dietician. He never mentioned bariatrics as an option.

Call your surgeon's office

CDC Center of disease control and prevention USA https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/index.html WHO World health organization https://www.who.int/topics/obesity/en/ Global obesity observatory https://www.worldobesitydata.org/

My BMI 38.9 Weight day of surgery 234 height 5' 5" Six months out 140 First year out lowest weight 125 Four years out I maintain in the 130's

I would love to know how things go over the holidays with your family. Post back when you have time.

Thanks for sharing your experience. Some insurance companies approve low BMI with comorbidities. Glad you found a self pay route. Congrats on your weight loss.

Day of surgery I was 234 and 45 years old. It was enough to justify having surgery to get my health back. Second guessing, getting nervous, and questioning your decision is normal. You have time to think this over.

I understand the rant, *smile* I don't think people know what a healthy BMI looks like. People cant help but notice our weight loss. Yes, Is it rude that people comment on our appearance. WIll it stop them. NO. The rapid weight loss is hard enough for us to deal with. People don't realise the comments can be a mind fu**. I kid you not, My bariatric support group nurse told me I would look less skeletal if I gained 10 pounds (I was at a healthy BMI nowhere near anorexic) The same day my surgeon told me if I lost 10 pounds I would be my ideal weight. Visit with my family Dr. The front desk secretary had not seen me in six months. As I passed her desk, she reached out and wrapped both hands around my thigh and said "your so small" In what world is this appropriate - Awkward moment. Top weight loss comments Don't lose any more weight Do you have cancer? You look gaunt and old you didn't have to work as hard you look great now - (I guess I looked crappy before) Years out, most people just except this is me and are used to my size. They have forgotten how overweight I was. The comments have stopped and life is normal.

Sorry you have the "sads" Pretty normal at this phase. Let yourself heal. You will feel better as your diet progresses. Life will become a new normal - A healthier and happier normal!

You can get back on plan - This is a lifelong process of making food choices. It starts today!

All of us here have struggled with our weight. Diets did not work for us long term. This is the reason we had surgery....... Some things to think about and try . Pre -operation weight loss: I had a six month weight loss requirement by my insurance. Many people here are also losing weight without surgery to get approval. It's a more realistic diet plan. People in pre op phase can relate to what you are going through. They will be a great support system. Pre op weight loss for me was 1000 to 1200 calories 60 to 100 grams protein - 50 to 80 grams carbs - Carbs came from mostly plant based sources-( no bread, rice pasta or processed food) My dieticians bariatric recipes - Nutrition should be flavorful to sustain it long term: http://insidekarenskitchen.com/bariatric-friendly-recipes/ Food log and drink plenty of water: Log your food in myfitnesspal or lose it . It becomes habit and much easier to do over time- If you are not logging you have no idea where your calories actually are. You can't out exercise a poor diet - Knowing your calories and macros will make a difference. food app downloads: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.myfitnesspal.android&hl=en_US https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.fitnow.loseit Search for pre op weight loss in the search option on this site for support: https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/416984-pre-op-weight-loss/?tab=comments#comment-4661471 https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/421170-weight-loss-pre-surgery-doctor-required/?tab=comments#comment-4720075 https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/421661-what-is-expected-weight-loss-in-pre-op-diet-anybody-else-had-issues-with-menstrual-due-to-diet/?tab=comments#comment-4727598

We know when we are self sabotaging. We know what we should be doing. What will it take to get your mind back in the game? IDK seems to be different for each of us. I struggle with my behaviors around food. I have had a gain. I beat myself up and was not where I wanted to be. Getting back on track was work. It's a mental battle. Glad that you are working through things in therapy. What works for me may not work for you.I justified and made excuses for my food choices. I needed a reality check, More like a smack upside the head to force myself to get back to basics. I gave myself perspective : A person with cancer and days to live would gladly trade places for my weight loss struggles. Yes, getting back on track is hard. But, dying from cancer is harder. This can be done. You already overcame addiction/alcohol. Obesity is the next challenge. I wish you the best in finding what works for you.

I had to work on body image. It took a while to find a comfort zone with new attention/compliments. The weight loss is rapid and it takes time for your head to wrap itself around the physical changes. You are beautiful inside and out! Own it!

I have no problem with steak as a protein choice. He didn't eat the whole portion and doggie bags are cost effective for bariatric patients. Support groups can get a bit crazy. My top local support group things not to do. A person a week out from surgery ate doritos and ended up in the ER. Bariatric surgeons potluck. We were asked to bring bariatric friendly foods/recipes to share. Someone made a sugar free chocolate cake with real sugar frosting.

Not sure if you have been denied or if this is a financial issue for you. We understand how hard it is to lose weight. Will a super restrictive diet be long term sustainable for you? Bariatric patients eat 800-900 calories in the first months. Can you get a referral to see a dietician to help you find a food plan? A food log app is valuable and eye opening. It will calculate and set a calorie, carb, protein, and fat goals. Hitting these macros will put your body in weight loss mode. Many apps out there: Loseit https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.fitnow.loseit&hl=en_US my fitness pal https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.myfitnesspal.android I wish you the best. Jenn

I was Low carb in weight loss mode. Bread. ric, and e pasta were excluded from my diet. As I got close to gaol, whole wheat, brown rice and sweet potato were added by my dietician. This was to slow/stop my weight loss. First year bread would fill me up and I had no room for other foods. Years out, bread is not a big problem for me to eat. I have to keep it in moderation.

You will need to be diagnosed as Bulimic by a mental health professional. It's not in your GI surgeon's field to diagnose an eating disorder. Either way, This is about your health. It wouldn't hurt to get a second opinion to see if there is a medical reason or have a mental health specialist diagnose an eating disorder. Wish you the best in resolving this

Bariatric weight loss is nothing magic. Follow your plan and put the work in. Weight Loss success stories https://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1298-weight-loss-surgery-success-stories/ Tell your weight loss story https://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1297-tell-your-weight-loss-surgery-story/ Before and afters https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/297668-i-want-to-see-before-after-pics-contd/

Bulimia Nervosa Bulimia nervosa is a serious disorder that involves a recurring pattern of binge eating followed by dangerous compensatory behaviors in an effort to counteract or “undo” the calories consumed during the binge. People with bulimia often feel trapped in this cycle of dysregulated eating, and there is a risk for major medical consequences associated with bulimic behaviors. Research has provided varying results but conservative estimates regarding bulimia indicate that about 1.5% of women and .5% of men will have bulimia at some point in their lifetime. In certain populations, prevalence rates are much higher, such as on college campuses where up to 20% of college-age females endorse symptoms of bulimia. Diagnostic criteria for Bulimia Nervosa (from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition (DSM-V) Recurrent episodes of binge eating Recurrent inappropriate compensatory behaviors (such as self-induced vomiting, misuse of laxatives, fasting, or excessive exercise) in order to prevent weight gain The binge eating and inappropriate compensatory behaviors both occur, on average, at least 1x/week for 3 months. Self-evaluation is unduly influenced by body shape and weight. The disturbance does not occur exclusively during episodes of anorexia nervosa https://www.eatingdisorder.org/eating-disorder-information/bulimia-nervosa/