Kelliebelly

Thanks for the comments everyone. DH ended up asking me again last night what is going on with me. I wasnt sure where he was coming from so I asked him to clarify what he meant. He said I am changing. There has been a big change recently and he doesnt know where I am going. Is it because I am not content to sit around all day doing nothing...is it because missionary day in and out isnt as appealing anymore. Is it too much to ask for a little spontanaity? I couldnt really explain to him what was going on with me...I just explained we needed to spice things up alittle, add some fun back into it. I hate that I am feeling bored, and I hate knowing I am changing and I dont know where I am headed. Comfortable and normal is secure, where I am at now is well...scary. I know butterflies are for the start of a relationship, but I dont agree romance is. I love romance...It is hard with kids I know, but I have explained to him time and time again we need to get a sitter and go out occasionally by ourselves, its just been so long since we spent some REAL time together. I dont know what is wrong with me. I am bored..but bored from what? Am i simply asking too much...I dont know. ughhh who said this was meant to be easy?

LMAO @ the banana. Im trying to work out what happens once its there too...hmmm fill us in Nikee. Also Delarla next time youre in Aussie let me know I want to have me one of them parties. I would love to have you host one for my hens night, what a blast that would be!!!

Hi Trish... Alot of ppl with the VG band dont feel restriction until about 7mls(ccs). I didnt have restriction until about 7.5mls. If you do have that band dont worry it will probably take a couple more fills to get that sweet spot. Good Luck

I will never be someone that can give up the temptations. I have children...a family. I have them eating healthy, but I do allow ice cream in the house. Biscuits for recess and small bags of chips for snacks. I know there are plenty other things better for them, but they have them also. I will never be able to give up chocolate. I love it tooooooooo much. I have cit down though, from my family block a day to a packet of peanut M&Ms every few days. It is completely my fault I am having slow weight loss because of it, but in the past my diets have all failed because I restricted myself form the temptations. I find if I know in my head I can have it if I want it then I dont want it as much. The minute I tell myself I cant have it is when the cravings come and I think about it constantly. Kinda like I am doing now giving up smoking. I want this to be a lifestyle for me that I can maintain for the rest of my life and me never having chocolate or other fun stuff like that again is just not an option.

Each kg I lose the more I lose my mind I think. I have been going through these highs and lows, ups and downs...no sex drive then one that is through the roof. Tonight DH asked me what was wrong with me when we were in the middle of "IT" because I was doing all these different things. I invited BOB in and we gave it a go and well I dont think he liked it much. NOW, I feel like I need more excitement, I feel bored. Being really fat and unhappy I think I just put up with the way things were and that was that....I want more. I want excitement, romance and butterflies. I am asking too much arent I. After being together so long these things go...an you get them back? I didnt think losing weight could bring so many probs as well as so many good things. What is wrong with me...I should be so grateful to him, he stuck by me when I was fat, he paid for me to have this op. He is paying for me to have the TT and BL next month, yet all I can think of is EXCITEMENT!!!! Wanting more. Please is anyone feeling like this or am I officially losing my mind this time. The last couple of months have been rough with all these different emotions running through me. I dont know what to do? :help: :phanvan

After readin these posts guess what I did....Dont read on if you are easily offended ... I went and bought a BOB. OMG I cant believe it, I have never owned one or even thought about it. I dont know if I will ever use it but its a major achievement in itself that I went to Nauti Nites, walked in there and browsed. I was standing looking at the Bobs...1000s of them, I didnt know where to start and the guy comes over and says can I help you. i just started laughing thinking I am looking at vibrators and he asks if he can help me??? He thought I was weird I think, I ended up picking up the first one that looked ok bought it and walked out red faced. I am so proud of myself. you girls are such a naughty influence :cool:

I posted a thread a week or more ago about losing my sex drive completely since losing weight. It was suggsted I visit my Dr and have some tests run...well I just wanted to let te people know who ar ein the same position as me that I went off the pill at my Drs suggestion till we ran some tests as I was on a very strong pill for heavy bleeding. She thought that since I was so much bigger when I started on it that I didnt have as many side effects but now that I have lost weight I am getting more of the side effects more pronounced. Results: IT WAS THE PILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont know if hearing her say that or my mind playing games on me but since I went off and found out it was the pill my sex drive is back and BAD!!!! Only thing is now I have to use alternate measures such as those yucky raincoat thingys....but anyway I just wanted to let others know if you are on the pill and have lost alot of weight make sure that dosage of pill is still appropriate for you and that you arent experiencing bad side effects that you dont need to...either go for a lower dose pill or find alternate protection. Look out Heathergurl here I come

There is actually a few people here in Australia that have had different probs with the band and have converted to a procedure called Tubal Gastrectomy. They have had amazing results with it. I am not sure of the in and out details but I can copy an email she wrote to me about what it is in her words with permission of course : Well the Tubal Gastrectomy is reducing the size of your stomach, let a set and forget type of thing. So if I did a drawing for you, you would see, oesophagus, small tube of stomach and then intesting all about the same width. However with the TG, its done in a certain way to go with the way the muscles work and are constructed in the stomach. Its supposed to be so you may get stretch BUT it should spring back pretty quick, unlike old stomach stapling. Its not reversible as far as I know. It can also be done via keyhole surgery! So, I was thinking if anything happened with my band I may look into this but touch wood I will have my band forever because I LOVE MY BAND!!! It may be an option though for those who have lost their band and are struggling. You are doing so well with no band Delarla, I cant imagine how hard it must be for you. Hugs

I am so suprised to read this thread and see Heathergurl hasnt replied yet hehe :couch2: Sex....umm whats that?

I also agree with what everyone else has said, but just wanted to let you know my band is pretty restricted but I can eat rice...not huge amounts but a little bit with my stir fries etc. Good Luck

:help: Body fat percentages again...ugh I know I am sick of me asking questions about it too...but just one more. I ended up buying a quality scale that measures it and each morning I jump on and it varies so much I have no idea. It varies anywhere from 39% right through to 55%. It doesnt vary so much for Dh so why me. Any ideas?? How do they actually work? Thanks

Jess, I started on the lowest dose and worked up, as I went up so did the side effects, so I worked my way back down and have been on the lowest dose for about 4 yrs now. If I miss a pill or am late taking it I sure know about it. The only thing with the one I am on it is hellllllllllllll to get off, thats why I am still on it. Hope it all works for you and I am glad you still had it goin on in the bedroom :eek:

Hey, I have wondered where you have been. Sorry to hear about the split, I will be thinking of you. As fro fills it took me 9 to reach good restriction, up until about the 7th I was still wide open as well. Dont worry to much, it will come...I am not sure what band you have but if you have the big band like me then restriction may take longer and more fills. Most of my Drs patients with the band are finding restriction at about 7 mls some more some less. Good Luck and Hugs

Date banded - 4th April 05 Country - Australia Doctor - Dr Webster Eroded - No

Oh Woweeeee!!!!!!!! I love it. Did you do the painting youself? Is that a feature wall with the palm trees etc painted on the wall? I love the colours and the bar. I love it all and i am jealousssssssss!!!!!! Great job..wanna come do my place now? :eek:

I was great at the start too, 10 mths out I feel myself eating too much of things That I shouldnt. I KNOW thats why my weight loss is slow, I know if I exercised it would come off quicker but do I do it...NO I am too lazy or tired or busy or whatever the excuse is for that day. I know when I was first banded I would see posts about people eating this and that and I thought I cant imagine eating like that again...then the fill wore off and I could eat like that again and I did. Until I had good restriction I didnt feel anything stopping me from eating those things, not even myself. I take the blame and full resposibility. Beofre this op we would have take away 2 or 3 times a week, now we have it 2 times a month. We had ice creams and desserts nearly every night...not anymore. I think I have made major changes since banding but I still have a long way to go.

Welcome to Bandland yayyyy!!!!! :eek:

Pictures of me 6 yrs ago starving myself and lost 50kgs. Lasted about 4 months before I started putting it back on again and ended up where I was before surgery. There is one of me when I was little aged 5 yo and the last one is at a similiar time with my other half. I thought I was sooooo fat is those photos.

Another thing I just thought of...Is it like this for other people?? When I first got the surgery I dreamed of the day I would hit 100kg and get under it. I said to myself please just let me get there and Ill be happy. Well I was realllllllly happy when I reached it but I realised it wasnt enough, so I couldnt wait for the day when I hit 90kg, well I have done that now and I am still not happy, I want to get to the 70s, my final goal was set at the start by myself and the surgeon at 80kg. Now I am getting closer that is not enough...I want more. Am I ungrateful or what??

I cant remember a time in my life that I felt happy with myself. I grew up chubby and still to this day people call me chubby cheeks. I have lost huge amounts of weight several times and have always put it back on, but even when I was at my smallest(for like 5 mins) I always thought I still looked fat. I had a saggy belly from when I was 17 when I had my first baby and I always tried to diet that saggy belly away and not finding out till years later you cant do anything about the loose skin. I have suffered from anorexia and bulimia. I tried all the pills and the diets. I used to take Epicac(sp) after I ate. I went through terrible times trying to get thin. I dont know if I will ever truely be happy with myself, but I do know this...for the first time in my life I feel kinda comfortable. I remember how disgusting I felt when I seen the scales hit 90kg, but now I am back down to 90 I dont feel as fat as I used to. I wish I had self confidence and this image that just oozed self assurance, but I dont. I am the girl that cant say No. I really do wonder how different my life would have been if it hadnt started puit with me being chubby because for the last 16 yrs my life has been one diet after the other, one bout of depression after the other and hiding away so noone would talk about my size. I am not a nutcase and I hope you guys dont think I am for what I have typed, I just wanted to really get out how much we struggle because of our body image.

Hey Jess, I tried Zoloft and it didnt do a great dela for me so I went onto Effexor. It was the best thing I have ever done. I was feeling the same as you except I let mine go on for years. I hope you start feeling yourself again soon.

I had it and went to the emergency and told them about the band. they gave me an injection to stop vomiting and tablets to stop the other end. Dont let yourself start puking you dont want to risk slipping. Hope you feel better soon.

We only have 2 in my area and I went with the first one I seen. He came recommended and I liked him from our appointments.

Woweeeee Alexra, very sexy. You go girl!!

Maybe Ill pick up some of that horny goat weed Jess was talking about, couldnt hurt right ? Might get a catalogue from Delarla too...see if I really am missing out on something hehe