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Exactly. Then here comes another lie.

You should just tell the truth. If you are having the surgery for health reasons, which I’m sure most of us are, why not tell your boss. This surgery is to make you healthier. Why lie, when the truth will do. Besides, you might be pleasantly surprised by the support you receive. We live in an information age and as much as we think people are gullible and stupid, they aren't, when they notice the weight loss and you eating smaller portions this is just going to fuel gossip and unnecessary attention. Star Jones is a prime example. Educate those who don't know.

What did your dr. say when you called him? Follow your drs. post op instructions.

No rage here, life is good for me. Find a hobby, go to the movies or go shopping. Better yet, go volunteer somewhere....when you see others who are less fortunate it will put your rage into perspective.

Be very careful of your intake of Celebrex, can cause cardiac problems. http://www.webmd.com/heart-disease/news/20080401/celebrex-use-less-to-lessen-heart-risk

"If you have had Bariatric Surgery and you wish to donate your excess skin, you will have to ask if your plastic surgeon participates in a skin donation program. Most surgeons do not keep the removed skin, as skin from cadavers is more appropriate in the treatment of burn victims." http://www.barnabashealth.org/contact/skin.html

"Truth is when a person says I lost 40 pounds and nobody says anything. It's because it prob not that noticeable. I thought it -30 was a big deal, but in all honesty looking at he pictures it wasn't all that noticeable." I agree!

You probably could benefit seeing a therapist to help you work through all of your issues. Good luck.

None, but with anything you have to do your homework. Do the research, ask questions. As you think of questions jot them down, be prepared when you meet with your physician or nutritionist. Oh an most importantly, follow your physician's instructions, some choose to ignore important information.....you don't want to do that.

A few others have posted about being cold. I have found that I'm cold also, and I asked my physician about it. He said that they (the bariactric medical community) does not have an answer as to why some patients are cold, but told me to purchase a fleece because I will probably get good use out of it.

My motto is why lie when the truth will do! I don't mind telling people I had WLS because when co-workers see you eating a small portion do you think they aren't going to know something? Chyle please! All the effort people spend trying to develop a "story" they could just tell the person "I had weight loss surgery!" I tell people I had weight loss surgery because I was becoming more and more unhealthy and I don't EVER want to be dependent on anyone else. I love life and if I can do something to become a healthier person, I'm doing it. The question I want to ask is what are you afraid is going to happen when you tell the truth? Be BOLD, embrace your new healthier life!

What does your doctor advise?

Yes, call your doctor. None of us are qualified to give you advice. Not being rude, but any time you have an issue like this or pain, the first thing you should be doing is calling your physician.

I didn't have pain, nausea or gas. After the surgery I felt like I had a tight belt around my waste. The surgeon met with me just prior to surgery and advised me once awakened to take deep breaths and blow the excess air out. i dont know if that was the reason i didnt have gas, but i made sure to follow his instructions. no soreness or pain near incisions. I returned to work 3 weeks later because I wanted to make sure I had my eating , vitamin and water schedule solidified.

Personally I didn't care what anyone else thought, because in the end I want to be healthy and don't want to be a burden on anyone. How about this, pull together some data and present it to your parents (Obesity vs. WLS the pros and cons). I would also add that you should make this choice not them.

What do you think your surgeon will say? I think you already know the answer.

Sometimes it's difficult for others to see our weight loss because our 20-50 lbs is like 5-10 on normal sized people. We are bigger people so it is only natuaral for us to lose larger amounts before it is noticed. You'll keep losing and others will notice, but don't focus on what others see, just focus on your journey. Good luck.

Not sure what to do? Easy, call your doctor, make an appt to see him/her, none of us are qualified to diagnose you symptoms. Good luck.

PROTEIN: chicken Chicken breast, 3.5 oz - 30 grams Protein Chicken thigh – 10 grams (for average size) Drumstick – 11 grams Wing – 6 grams Chicken meat, cooked, 4 oz – 35 grams Fish Most fish fillets or steaks are about 22 grams of protein for 3 ½ oz (100 grams) of cooked fish, or 6 grams per ounce Tuna, 6 oz can - 40 grams of protein Pork Pork chop, average - 22 grams protein Pork loin or tenderloin, 4 oz – 29 grams Ham, 3 oz serving – 19 grams Ground pork, 1 oz raw – 5 grams; 3 oz cooked – 22 grams Bacon, 1 slice – 3 grams Canadian-style bacon (back bacon), slice – 5 – 6 grams eggs and Dairy Egg, large - 6 grams protein Milk, 1 cup - 8 grams Cottage cheese, ½ cup - 15 grams Yogurt, 1 cup – usually 8-12 grams, check label Soft cheeses (Mozzarella, Brie, Camembert) – 6 grams per oz Medium cheeses (Cheddar, Swiss) – 7 or 8 grams per oz Hard cheeses (Parmesan) – 10 grams per oz Beans (including soy) Tofu, ½ cup 20 grams protein Tofu, 1 oz, 2.3 grams Soy milk, 1 cup - 6 -10 grams Most beans (black, pinto, lentils, etc) about 7-10 grams protein per half cup of cooked beans Soy beans, ½ cup cooked – 14 grams protein Split peas, ½ cup cooked – 8 grams Nuts and Seeds Peanut Butter, 2 Tablespoons - 8 grams protein Almonds, ¼ cup – 8 grams Peanuts, ¼ cup – 9 grams Cashews, ¼ cup – 5 grams Pecans, ¼ cup – 2.5 grams Sunflower seeds, ¼ cup – 6 grams pumpkin seeds, ¼ cup – 8 grams Flax seeds – ¼ cup – 8 grams

You know you have a voice, either you chose to be a victim or volunteer. You didn't like what he said, then you speak up. This could also be his bedside manner, some doctors have it some don't and sometimes those hardnosed doctors can be better for us, they drill home that point to make us mad and we remember those words. Just take this as a lesson learned and hopefully next visit you will have something to cheer about. Good luck!

J/k

See I'm very much a direct person, if I were in your shoes I'd tell them thanks for your concern, but it's a done deal baby. The alternative is to continue at my current weight and as a result have many weight related ailments which may potentially cause me to end up in a nursing home. Bottom line you always have to be your own cheerleader and nix what everyone else says or thinks.

Why lie when the truth will do? Man up and tell them if they ask. Free yourself of all of the unnecessary gossip. Good luck!

I still like sweet things, but since pre surgery I used Splenda and Equal regularly I didn't have a problem adjusting.

I recommend you phone your surgeon or physician. None of us are qualified to make an Internet diagnosis. Good luck