SouthernSleever

Good luck Von!!

To be honest, I don't see a guy and think, "I want to date him!". I think females don't make the first move because we aren't attracted primarily by looks. Now, I am not saying that looks don't matter they certainly do. But when I find myself attracted to men it is because their personality, intelligence, humor, self esteem, and ability to provide. It takes time for me to figure these things out. I am the type of person where if I see someone I might like I will flirt and then leave it to him to make the next move. Touching someone's arm while talking to them or just smiling can give the guy confidence enough to show interest if it is there.

Mmm that bus looks yummy!

I have not dealt with depression since my 20s but I have found what when I get the blue/doom feeling like I had after my first baby/c-section that reconnecting with nature really helped. I think not only the sunshine for my B12 but also the enviroment helped a lot. My husband works at a rehab for teens with drug/behavior problems and they often deal with depression. The company which owns them recently required the kids be outside for a certain amount of time and bringing live plants inside. He said they gave a list of a number of studies that show an increase in mood directly relating to an increase in the time spent around nature.

I'm preop so I really don't know but my Mother was having trouble with energy levels and her DO suggested fish oil and more time in the sun so she could process her Vit D.

Thanks so much for you guys taking pictures of your before and afters. I has really help keep me motivated!

Welcome! <wave>

I just don't know. My 2 year old and I were in the bathroom waiting on my 5 year old. A woman with a big butt came in and my son started running circles around her saying "Big Butt Big Butt!" I was mortified. He wasn't saying it to be mean, just an observation and was really just singsonging to helpself. Lord knows I have a big rear. I think I'd just ask your kids how it makes them feel when they say things like that? Or "What would it feel like if someone did say something about my legs?" How would it make you feel?" Let them work through their own emotions about it, validate them, and then go about your day. It will show your children that no matter what people say about you, it is okay to be hurt and it's okay to go on with your life.

Sounds like you didn't recieve the info from you surgeon you should have. We all know what it's like to eat for reasons other than hunger. Like others said, getting some counseling will help you out a lot. I'd hate to see your addiction to food go on to something else. <hugs> What a terrible thing to go through, I hope you are feeling lots better.

Congrats! Sounds like everything went great!

If it hurts when you breathe in I'd call your dr and just ask about a blood clot to be on the safe side .

You will probably have to take them out. You can use large gauge fishing line for most piercings like eyebrow/nose or plastic ones if you want to spend the money.

Absolutly!

Hey there, I read somewhere that there was a surgeon doing an inverted stitch instead of stapling and he's not even charging for the surgery just for hossy cost and it comes to like 7k. Here's the info from Betterbytheday "Fewer and fewer companies are offering Major Medical insurance and even then there's no guarantee that you'll qualify. Getting any job right now is difficult and one with great medical is even harder. If you really want the surgery that bad, you may want get ANY job that pays decently (preferably one with tipping) and put aside the money and self pay. Dr. Cottam in Salt Lake is doing the Vertical Sleeve Plication (see it on youtube) for an out the door price of $6900, I know this as I called his office this last week, as my best friend's in your position. The plication has no staples, the stomach is folded in on itself and stitched, really safe and short recovery time. That's not unreasonable, and includes everything. He's one of the only surgeons doing Plication in the US and is a top surgeon to boot, he's trying to get a base of people to help get the plication covered by insurance. He's not charging for his actual surgery services to do this. It's a great opportunity. The actual cost is $6375 but there's a $500 blood work up and Admin costs. so I just rounded up to $6900 with the hotel cost on the front end. But that doesn't include Airfare but you can shop that and get it cheap. Everyone's finances are different but just thought I'd put that out there." Hope that helps! My bestfriend has been partnerless for a long time due to his weight. I'm thinking of suggesting the surgery to him after I have mine done.

When I first read this I thought GF was girlfriend and I though, "How sexist!"

Bahahahaha:lol0:

This thread makes me not want to tell anyone. I used to get these snide comments about extended nursing of my sons and I think they would apply. In response to, "you are going to spoil him" or it could be used "Isn't it unhealthy for you to eat that little? or Should you be eating that?" "I'm doing the best I can as I'm sure you are doing your best." If they really were doing their best they wouldn't be all up in your business. In response to, "You still giving that kid the titt?" or could be "You don't look healthy, you are too thin, your head is too big, etc." "Wow, you sure are interested in my boobs" (insert creeped out look) could be "Wow, you sure are interested in my body." (insert same look) "You took the easy way out." response "I guess you wouldn't know much about easy vs hard seeing as you have never dealt with obesity." "You could have done it on your own, just takes willpower." "Actually all my willpower was used up not punching people like you in the face." (smile) "I'm just worried about you being too thin." "Thank you for all this newfounded concern. How much would you like me to weigh?"

I've changed my mind, I agree wth this

Wow, your arms look fantastic now. Please tell us what you do. My arms look like the first pic and I'd love to get them toned up like yours are.

Hey! What are you trying to say? :001_tongue:

Soy is in everything (read a few labels) and is pretty bad for you. Most ppl think of it as a natural food but it's highly processed and can really mess with estrogen and vit absorbtion. I wonder if he is saying no cow's milk because it can be hard on a human's stomach even without surgery. cheese doesn't have as much whey and is easier on digestion. If that's the reason check out skim Goat's milk, very good for you, easy to digest.

Thank you for your fantastic info and guidance along all of our ways. I cannot wait to be where you are and where you are looks fantastic! Baby wishes coming your way :sad0:

From what I've read Dollar General and Lowes both offer Atena coverage but I'm not sure if that's just for full time. If I did get a part time job it would barely cover my costs for childcare so it would really just be for the insurance portion. Too bad you can't get a loan due only after income tax comes in hehe. I'm determined to get this surgery, oh how my life would change. Just need to think think think. Thanks for responses so far.

Fantastic! Congrats!

I thought of another one last night. I want to be a pretty arm accessory for my hubby who is fantastic and has always gotten the bad end of everything. I also want to beable to borrow from my sister-in-law's HUGE wardrobe. She used to be a model and still shops like one.