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There are a few possible angles to this. It's very possible you ARE being overly sensitive, as you're in a big state of flux emotionally and physically. You may have lost one of your coping mechanisms with food no longer being as available; Your SO has probably seen you fail time and again on diets and they may be afraid you are going down that path again. We didn't generally start eating off plan on previous diets all at once, it usually starts with a bite here or there first, then get's out of control; Doing this in front of your nephews probably added a level of embarrassment that wasn't necessary, making you both a bit more prickly for each being corrected in such a public way. Your SO and/or you may also have some fears about how you losing weight may change your relationship. WLS tends to highlight both the strengths and weaknesses in relationships. You are changing the status quo. In the comfort and privacy of your home have a calm discussion about everything. About how your SO has been supportive and how you appreciate the support. About your plan and what the details, depending on how involved you want your SO to be. About the level of policing you would like or not like, even how policing (if appropriate) should be done, specifically privately and any other features. Talk about fears and make reassurances as you are both on the same team. Reinforce your positive feelings about each other. This discussion may happen more than once, or in different ways. It's OK. Good luck, Tek

Yes! It's used by hospital support personnel much too often. I feel it's a form of degrading, bullying by people who have no understanding or compassion over patients physical struggles. Instead they hold judgement over those patients and have a word they can use without the possibility of being accused of bullying because it's an accepted term.

Late but joining! Definitely the words pouch and forever give me the “ick” even though I’m guilty of using them.

I'd let your clinic know. I would think by six weeks out you shouldn't be feeling pain. If nothing else, it'd be peace of mind.

Hell yeah!

I also hate the word "obese". High cringe factor for whatever reason.

January 2023 peeps: Don't forget to take a few "Before" photos before your procedures. It helps to see small changes on days when you stall, especially if you develop body dysmorphia. Wishing you all successful procedures this month!

Worry is natural as we are bombarded by the "scaries" of our fears and risks. However you and we know this is better than what we've been going through with our weight all these years...you've got this, keep us in the loop we are in this together ❤️

You might find this helpful. Someone posted it earlier. Really chimed with me.

The fact that you're here wanting to draw a line under this regain and looking for support is a fab first step. What you have regained is only a fraction of what you lost. @catwoman7 advice is spot on - your restriction should still be there if you want to use it now. You've obviously lost weight very successfully before so you can do it again, and you're starting when it's still completely doable. Best of luck back on the program!!