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Leslie...excellent point! My husband too is very, very nervous for me and so are the kids. I have acknowledged his fears and understand his concerns. But in the past, I would feel selfish for "putting him" through any discomfort and feel guilty that my kids are nervous about surgery. The truth is, he does not have a weight issue.....and with clear, honest amd sometimes assertive words....I laid out that if I "caved" into his worries and concerns...again....I would be fat and unhealthy forever. There is a way to make this journey OUR OWN and ease the fears of the people in our lives by doing well and forging on.

I know you don't know me but I am going to give you a bit of advice. Please don't take it the wrong way because we are all on a similar journey. It is not just your journey if you are married. It is his also. He may be worried about you. He might be scared as to what is going to happen and needed someone to share concerns with without worrying you. Now I am not defending the fact that he went against your wishes at all. It is all up to us who went want to tell and who we don't. I am just saying that while it may be your journey it is going to affect your husband. It will affect your children if you have any. For good or bad, better or worse he needs to be in this with you. When i decided to do this, I told everyone. I got the bullshit advice from well meaning friends and the stupid crap like omg I knew a girl who died. One day we had a gathering of friends and they were all going off about this horror story or that. These were my husband's friends. He stood up in the middle of the room and told everyone to shut up. He said this is her decision and if you cannot be supportive, do not say another damn thing in my house. They clammed up immediately. This was about 6 months ago. Girl it is totally up to you who you tell.. I guess the point behind that is to see if maybe he is worried or scared. Sometimes, we get caught up in our journey and do not really hear the other person when they say they are worried or scared. Even if he is full on behind you having the surgery he could still be worried about anything going wrong while you are under. If his parents cant be supportive of you, ignore them. I know that is hard to do but I have had to have frank conversations with my mother in law because of how she treats people in my house. We teach people how to treat us. Be proud of what you are doing. You made it through pre op and that is fantastic! You will do fine on the band journey. Just love each other and don't spend too much time being angry with him. You are beginning the journey of a lifetime tomorrow. Good luck to you and speedy recovery!

You are doing fantastic ! You are doing this for you and Leslie that was a good honest post. Good luck to you lady! Meet ya on the other side!! and prayers for a safe and speedy recovery tomorrow! you are gonna rock it!

You are doing the right thing. Accountability is everything. You owned up to your mess you were in and now you will not only lose those pounds but a ton more. Congrats to your journey.

My surgery is tomorrow, too. What time is your surgery. Mine is scheduled for 9am. Is it outpatient? I hope to be home by mid-afternoon tomorrow. Best of luck.

Leslie.. what a great post.. first blog too!? You are a natural! Keep it up, looking forward to reading more from you and your journey! You post is very motivating!! you have come along way and you're taking your life back! Having the support of your husband/loved ones makes such a difference, happy you have that!! Much success to you <3!

Weigh in day! WOOT! HW: 273 SW: 250 LW: 237.2 CW: 233.6!!!! Woot! A 3.6lb drop this week bringing my post surgery loss to 16.4lbs and my total loss to 39.4lbs. This week’s loss comes at a great time because I was a little mopey thinking I might not hit 20 lbs my first month.. NOT because I am trying to hit a magical number but because if this is the ‘best loss’ I’ll have before it starts to slow down, imagine what life will be like the further I get out. I spent $12K when I add up travel and all that good stuff having VSG surgery. It has to work and be worth it. This week showed me that everything is fine so I can just calm my impatient ass down.