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Sabotaging your own weight loss.....

Jessiebear

By Jessiebear, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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Fauxnaif    1

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I have definitely sabotaged myself and think I am in the midst of it now. I have lost 115 pounds but need to lose at least 30 more. I am getting so close to being normal and that scares me.

I have always had issues with feeling I deserve good things-a nice home, a good relationship, to look and feel good. I have the first two but the 3rd one is kicking my butt.

I need to go back to therapy; it has helped me in the past.

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Anwyn    0

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First of all Jessiebear, I am so excited for you because I KNOW you're going to break that 300 lb barrier soon. What an exciting milestone! I hope you plan on treating yourself to something great... :):D:D

I've thought long and hard about the whole "why do I sabotage myself" issue too, and I've come to the conclusion that on some level I DON'T THINK I DESERVE TO BE SKINNY. Wow - I've never written that down before. I have a great life in virtually every area except for my weight. For some reason, I've never felt like I should be able to have it all. I'm trying very hard to change my thinking, but it's definitely a struggle.

I've never had one on one weight loss counseling. It's something I know I should do, and I've even gone so far as to find a place in the phonebook. Time to get off my butt and make the call! :D

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Jessiebear    2

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Thanks for all the responses & support! You guys are always here when I need you! I know I haven't ever been sexually abused. So that's not it. I think I'm a lot like you Anwyn, Everything else in my life (at least the things that other people care about) seems to be all "peaches & cream". I know I have a real problem with trying to please people. I'm thinking the sabotage has some roots in this. I don't want to come off as perfect, because I'm not, so "Hey look at me!" "I'm fat!" "Nothing to be jealous of here!" I pretty much know that that is one of my issues. I guess I need to cultivate my inner B**ch! LOL! Maybe stop worrying about what other people think & how they perceive me. Who cares right? All that matters is what I think of myself. Am I making sense or just rambling?

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Anwyn    0

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That's not rambling at all - that's my inner dialogue talkin'! I feel guilty for having more money than my siblings, and I totally downplay when something good happens to me if I think it might make someone feel bad. I even downplay my weight loss so that my heavier friends don't feel bad! And if I say anything that people might perceive as bragging I obsess about it for weeks. Yup... we definitely need some counseling, or at least a good swift kick in the behind! :(:):D

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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