Jealous Boyfriend

[MustLooseIt 0]

My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. He was mad that a guy came looking for a roofing job and I was talking to him on the front porch..omg are you serious! How many of you lost a relationship due to loosing so much weight and your other half could not handle the new attention you get? I am more hurt than anything. Its not like I was flirting with the guy or anything. I didn't even know him.

[Bunz1969 4]

First off, I'm sorry that you were hurt.

I don't mean to sound critical of your boyfriend or your relationship, but it sounds like he was looking for a reason to split and maybe the relationship wasn't as sound as you may have thought.

Is he overweight? Whether he is or isn't, this is all about his insecurities. The right "one" will be presented to you when it's time.

[MustLooseIt 0]

I broke up with him. I told him that I was just talking about work. He was very upset

and mad that I was talking to a guy at all no matter what

it was about. Guess its just time to keep moving!

[Portola Suzanne 3]

Holy cow sorry this happened but probably for the best! You are changing becoming a new you along with that will come challenges! My hubby has loved me fat skinny and fat again around 5 times over. He just wants me to be happy and will support whatever that is. Good luck with the next one.

[scottishlassywsp 0]

Where did you get your lovin' lap band thing....???? I love that!!!!!

[MsFab1988 275]

maybe u look liked u were flirting in his eyes...sometimes we flirt n we dont even kno it..if u really love him maybe u should of sat down n talked about his jealously & if he doesnt stop then tell him its over...but jus breaking it off jus cuz hes jealous, doesnt sound too right...If a guy TRULEY loves u, he will get jealous (even for the smallest things) not saying thats healthy, just sayin it does happen....I kno my bf gonna get hella jealous when I lose weight cuz im a pretty big girl n get guys attention all the time..hes jealous right now lol...buttt I sit n talk 2 him all the time I tell him I kno u love me but if u get jealous/mad 4 every little single thing then I cant deal wit it and its gonna b over...so now he knows 2 control himself...good luck 2 u n hopefully ur ex changes, if not, find a new 1

[RestlessMonkey 7]

I think jealousy is controlling and can't abide it, myself. Good grief; you've only lost 1/4 or so of your weight (great though that is) WTH would he do once you've lost about 1/2? Locked you up in a room a la some weirdo slasher flick or something? It's HIS problem; he needs to deal with it. You did the right thing. Relationships cannot function without trust. Well, dysfunctional relationships can thrive with jealousy and drama but that doesn't sound like what you want.

Don't feel guilty.

And next time, DO flirt with the roofer, if he's cute.

[elcee 3,343]

You need to be very careful of guys that get jealous when you talk to or look at another guy. It can escalate into a major problem and I am talking from experience although it was a hell of a long time ago now.

[RestlessMonkey 7]

You need to be very careful of guys that get jealous when you talk to or look at another guy. It can escalate into a major problem and I am talking from experience although it was a hell of a long time ago now.

I agree; it's manipulative and controlling at worst. At best it's a sign of insecurity and foolishness. Either way it would be a big old RED LIGHT for me and I think the OP did the right thing!

The guy needs therapy to deal with whatever issues caused his outbreak; I bet he won't get it though.

[LovedinFL 0]

Sounds like maybe your bf has some insecurity himself and until he is able to work on that then who knows what he would have been like in the future. He should be happy and proud to have you on his arm and no that you aren't going anywhere. Besides the other ppl were right the weight you have lost so far (while it is a huge accomplisment) is really nothing. I mean what would have happened when you lost 70lbs. Everything happens for a reason. and who knows maybe after a couple days without you he will realize what an ass he was being. But if he doesn't then it just means there is a better man out there for you in your future.

Sorry you are hurting.....STUPID BOYS!! LOL