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Singles: What size for dating?



What size were you before you felt comfortable to start dating  

6 members have voted

  1. 1. What size were you before you felt comfortable to start dating

    • Size 18
      9
    • Size 16
      16
    • Size 14
      16
    • Sziq 12
      21


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In the 30+ years that I've known my husband, my weight has varied from a low of 135 to a high of 240. He's loved me along the whole spectrum- says it has been like having a whole series of different lovers all with the same girl inside. :)

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I didn't answer the poll, because I wasn't at any of those sizes when I was dating. When I met my first husband, I was probably a size 22/24. We split after I'd gotten banded, and by that time, although I'd lost about 67 pounds, I hadn't gone down a lot in sizes - I was still just over 200, and probably a size 20. I didn't anguish it at all. I got remarried in 2008, and my husband now loves me just like I am (although he's encouraging me to exercise to stay healthy, he's not pushing me to "get skinny").

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Dating? lolwut.

I'm 20 and I've never been on a date. Today, I clocked in at 201.8 lbs and a size 16. Who's asking me out? No one. Who's looking my way? No one. And I'm damn cute too.

Now is it me? The people I hang out with (my closest friend is a 0-1)? Or the geographical location? You tell me bandsters.

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Natasha I'm the exact same as you!! I'm also 20 and never been on a date. I was around 325 and a size 24 when I was banded and am now 208 and a size 14. There were no boys looking at me before and none looking at me now even tho I feel as if I could be comfortable dating now. Why is this????

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Way to go to all the ladies out there who picked 16 or 18 in the polls - A woman can be sexy at any size. I believe that it all just has to do with convincing yourself... to have confidence! That's the trick. That's all there is to it - seriously! And so many real men out there who actually know and appreciate that :)

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