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What size were you before you felt comfortable to start dating  

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  1. 1. What size were you before you felt comfortable to start dating

    • Size 18
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    • Size 16
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    • Sziq 12
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Single girls,

At what size do you feel most comfortable dating? I understand that many of you don't relate size and dating, but for those of you who do, at what dress size do you feel most comfortable going on a date? I'd do a poll, but I don't know how. If somebody does, please feel free to go ahead.

Thanks!

8,10,12,14,16,18

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I started the poll. I think I took my profile off the hidden feature on Match.com when I was a size 16. I was most comfortable though when I was a size 12. I was willing to

at least start putting myself out there, at a 16 .

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I'm assuming you mean US sizes, so your 14 is our 18 and that's when I felt comfortable putting myself out there... and, just for the record - single no longer!! ;)

(currently between an Aus 16 & 14, so US 12 to 10).

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I'm married, so I don't date around (just my husband, which is great now by the way) but I wasn't TRULY comfortable having sex with him until I got to a size 16. I couldn't feel "sexy" until then. I'm in a 14 now which is a little to big, so we're still making progress, but the effect the size had on my "psyche" was incredible. We now have "dates" all the time, and I'm LOVING IT!!

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Not single, so no comment there, but Fanny, you look FANTASTIC in your avatar. What a change from your old pic!

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Thanks Jachut - the new haircut was a winner apparently :crying: I like that pic but I was mucking about, trying for a "sexy" look and it came out looking like I'd sucked in my cheeks to the max. At that tiny size, I think it makes my face look gaunt but, believe me, it isn't!!

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Well it didn't matter what size I was when I was dating, cause I was dating and out there when being a size 26.

Now that the weight is coming down, going out and wearing TIGHTER clothes, that actually accentuate my new found shape I have found that I am getting alot more attention now that I am in a size 16. I started getting noticed more for my figure when I hit a size 18.

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I think by the time I hit 18 I was ready to date. Unfortunately, I am still a 16/18. Fortunately, I am madly in love...

Now if only the weight would come off!!

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I started dating again in a size 12.

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hi

i joined match.com before being banded but hid my profile. i "unhid" it when i was size 16 because my niece took a headshot of me where i didnt look fat. i wanted to practice.

i talked to guys but delayed meeting any till i was size 14. the first guy i met was a mucky muck surgeon down here that made me feel like s*&t about my size. so i went back into my shell until i was size 10/12.

i'm now engaged and getting married to a wonderful guy (he's eye candy) but he doesnt care about my size....

i'd like to say size doesnt matter but it did to me....so i'm definitely grateful for my band. i wouldnt have been able to do it without it.

josie

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i'm a size 16 now...size 13 dress. and i am far, far more confident. the confidence is picked up and i am approached more and more. :)

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Congrats all to your great losses! I hope to follow in your footsteps.

I was just banded. I've never let my size stop me from dating. I believe confidence and a great personality makes you sexy (and knowing how to wear a corset to work my curves to their best advantage doesn't hurt). Even at my biggest as a size 28, I still dated regularly.

I think where you meet people is key too. I don't do bars or dance clubs (can't stand the frat boy mentality). I am in publishing and meet a lot of people at conferences and fairs and I am also finishing up my masters, so I meet people at school as well as clubs for my hobbies and interests.

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Well I'm not banded yet and I still date. Lately I've been getting burned a lot so I'm taking myself off the market. It really bothers my self-esteem and I figured I need all my confidence directed towards my surgery. I guess in my head I'll come back to it in the spring. I just hope I'm banded by then.

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well i was a size 28 when i got banded last dec, now I am a 24. I looked good then and i look good now. I always got a lot of attention from men so thats was never a problem with me. so i would say at any size . i just wish the ugly men would leave me alone!

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well i was a size 28 when i got banded last dec, now I am a 24. I looked good then and i look good now. I always got a lot of attention from men so thats was never a problem with me. so i would say at any size . i just wish the ugly men would leave me alone!

The ugly men and the old men can take a hike, lol.

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