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I've finally have reached the point of getting lap band and I am so scared. I have been crying on and off since I came home from work. I talked to my Mom and I can tell she is worried about me and that makes me cry. I was not going to tell her because I knew she would worry, but my family keep saying

"you better tell her, what if she calls, that will be really bad" I keep thinking what if something goes wrong, what if I have major complications. I'm crying has I'm writing this message.

I am ready to get it done, but right now I wish it was over.

Thanks for letting me vent

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Hey congrats, your big day is tomorrow. Yahoo, everything that you worked so hard to complete has now come to fruition with your surgery tomorrow.

Stay away from the phone. Unplug it as a matter of fact. You need "Me" time. Yep, that's right, you need permission to be by yourself and mentally wrap your head around your surgery.

What your going through is normal. We all have fears and concerns of the unknown. Every surgery and procedure is different, so I won't bother telling you my story. But I will tell you that what your feeling right at this moment is very normal. and many of us have gone through it.

Give yourself a break today; wait that sounds like a t.v. commercial. Allow yourself relaxation time to night as you prepare for tomorrow and begin your journey. Remember why you want to do this. Give yourself a chance at having a healthy life begining with tomorrow's surgery.

Good luck!

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Hi, I too am going into surgery tomorrow. I’m a bit nervous, and have bitten off all my nails. Whenever you have surgery there will be risks, but don’t you think that obesity is a greater risk. I’m worried that you are so distraught; remember all Moms are going to worry. Good Luck.

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I was fine until I got into anesthesiology, then I started crying uncontrollably. I wasn't worried about the surgery, I was realizing that after this, I have NO EXCUSES anymore, that I won't be the lovable fat girl, I won't hide behind joking about my weight, etc, and that it what made me sad. The surgery is nothing, yes, it is painful, but after all the pre-op testing, counceling, etc, we are all ready...so don't worry!! I am one week out and I feel great!

Melanie Date of Surgery 2/29/09

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Venting is always good. I am 8 days out from my surgery and part of me is giddy the other part says WOW the other part says wtf am I doing and all around I know that its the best choice for me... I just read your message today and I hope that all of our words of encouragement will help you along your path!

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Trust, you will be fine! This is the beginning of the rest of your NEW life. Don't get caught up with all that can rob you of what you're about to experience. God bless you with peace! Email us when you're up to it and let us know how how you're doing.

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You will do great. You will wake up when you are done and think - that was what i was so worried about? dont get me wrong. i had mine done last wednesday and i am still in pain when i make certain movements but some people are up and going the next day.

congrats on your big day!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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