Need Lap Band Buddy / Mentor Need a Buddy/mentor - Banded 1 year

Hi, I'm a married woman, 46 years old and I was banded 1/28/09. My start weight was 250 and now I'm 166. I have 20 -30lbs left to lose. I know that's not bad but I got here the very hard way. Couldn't get the right amount of restriction and had a lot of chest pain and regurgitating along the way, not knowning if I'd be able to eat the next meal or not. But I plateaued 2 months ago. Anyways, I'm trying to work with my band. It is so hard for me to get into the chew, chew, chew mode and the slow, slow, slow mode, I guess because old habits die hard, even after a year. I was probably torturing myself all year because of not being able to chew and take time eating. It's very hard to get myself to exercise as well. I could really use a mentor who's been there, done that and could support me in making my lapband surgery positive for me as I know this is now a new lifestyle and I don't want to spit up like a baby wherever I go. If I could have done this on my own I wouldn't have needed my band. Thanks alot.