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I was banded 12/1 and am doing really well. Lost 20 BUT am having a lot of problems with eating when I get stressed. I just had my first fill so I don't have a lot of restriction yet and am doing fine reducing portions and such but suddenly, I will get upset or overwhelmed and I eat. I have no problem working around the band for these episodes (slowly eat a bunch of cookies). Where should I start to change this? books? Overeaters anon? I need to change this to get the band to work.

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I have also had lots of problems with eating when stressed, especially the last two weeks. I sometimes wish I was so tight that I couldn't eat.

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I also got the Beck Diet Solution Workbook. Has all of the concepts in a workbook format so you can write down your goals, plan your food, etc.

I have found that I am famished when I get home from work - hmmmm, I am stressed and slipping into old habits. Come in the door, open the fridge and pantry and find something to make the stress go away! Argh!!

I made a list of things to do when I reach for food and I am not really hungry. I have been coming home and exercising; I change my clothes and head out the door to walk, run, play with the dogs, whatever I can do besides eat! This usually puts that stress hunger at bay until I am ready to eat dinner.

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I was banded 12/1 and am doing really well. Lost 20 BUT am having a lot of problems with eating when I get stressed. I just had my first fill so I don't have a lot of restriction yet and am doing fine reducing portions and such but suddenly, I will get upset or overwhelmed and I eat. I have no problem working around the band for these episodes (slowly eat a bunch of cookies). Where should I start to change this? Books? Overeaters anon? I need to change this to get the band to work.

Those Damn Cookies:cursing: thta is my biggest thing in my PMS phase and it's so darn hard to not eat them!! Yesterday I could have killed myself I bought a bag of peppridge farms Cookies I ate 6 milano Cookies over the afternoon!!! What the______!!! I just have to realize I can't have it near me or in my sight I'm not strong enough yet!!

Does planning meals and Snacks make it easier for everyone?

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The walking thing worked for me. When I am stressed or depressed it helps for to just grab a bottle of walker and get out of the house. When I get outside and my mind changes from what i am upset about to how the heck am I going to get back home things seem to get better. I have had days when i just didnt want to walk and knew I wouldnt do very well that day if i went walking because of my motivation or mood and found that once i got out there on the trial all my mood seemed to change. i also find that if I go to the chatroom and just chat for a minute my mood gets better also.

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Today is a total stress day at work! I grabbed a candy bar and now I feel just as stressed, but now mad that I tried to fix it with food :)

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I'm having the same problem - what is the name of the book?

I have this same problem....I just got a book by dr. beck....it s good for this!

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I have also had lots of problems with eating when stressed, especially the last two weeks. I sometimes wish I was so tight that I couldn't eat.

I wish the same thing for myself.

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me too - but last time I had a fill it was too much and I couldn't eat anything - that wasn't good either - I guess you have to find a happy medium!

I wish the same thing for myself.

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You need a substitute behavior. Next time you get stressed and want to eat, get yourself in a private area and "have some special alone time" or get with your honey and do it.

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we've all had days like that - next time try Water and a walk or a few deep breaths - don't beat yourself up over it - just start again!

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