Ok where to start... I know this post will probably open me up for all types of responses. But I think brutal hoonesty is what I need.I have read other post that talk about low self esteem, thinking we don't look good etc. I am not sure if that is my problem or not.

First let me start by explaning why I think I am stuck on stupid. I have been married for 15yrs to a wonderful man. Of course he has his flaws but he is great and supportive and loves me to death. He is better than any man I could have hoped to some day marry. All that said...there is a guy from my past who has come back into my life. This guy had a strange affect on me when I was younger (20Yrs ago) and still does. When he and I first started to communicate again we kinda picked up where we left off. By that I mean we had a lot of conversations married people don't have with other married people. But I always knew because of the way I looked and felt about my body nothing would ever happen. I guess my fat was protecting me from being REALLY stupid. Well now 60 lbs later those thoughts of "never going to happen" are fading away and I could really see myself sleeping with this other man. I know in my head that this is as wrong as two left shoes but my body is telling my head to shut the hell up.

I would never want to jepordize what I have with my husband. But my desire to be with this other man is kind of overwhelming. I have never in all the time my husband and I have been together had feelings like this for anyone. Now my younger days are different but I like to think I have grown since then. I am hoping a old ** can learn new tricks. Sorry that was in poor taste!:whatchutalkingabout

I don't know if anyone else has went through anything as silly as this if so as I said I welcolme what ever comments y'all have. Even if you have not gone through it I would like to hear from you. It is not something that I can really talk to friends and family about. :wub:

Yes, it's better to come here and get it all out. That is a good thing, that you are thinking about his wife.

If you could only realize, if the two of you could be together, it wouldn't be like you thought it would be. It's all exciting in the beginning, but that feeling never lasts.

I can understand your frustration with your feelings right now. I had a similar experience a few years ago...way before my surgery. The guy from my "past" made me feel things I had not felt in a long time with my husband. We actually had "fun" together and had so many things in common. We could talk all night long and never run out of things to talk about. I actually gave into temptation when my husband and I were having some serious problems in our marriage. (Hubby was drinking alot and running around alot) So, I justified it in my mind as turn around is fair play. I actually left my husband so that I could "see" this other man. I had the time of my life for a short time...but, like the others have said...once the "excitement" wears off and the "newness" is gone...I found myself finding out quickly that this new guy wasn't as great as I thought he was. He had problems and faults just like my husband but, in different ways. So, in short...I learned really quick who really loved me "always" and went back to my husband. Now, we work through our problems together...even though there are times we fight it out...but, we stick it out. I guess that's what matters in the end..isn't it?? Of course, the other guy is long gone...but, I do still think about him from time to time...only now...I can see it for what it is/really was. Good luck to you and if you ever need to talk...I'm on facebook! Welcome to Facebook