Hey everyone going through Kaiser Richmond!!

Where are you in the process?

I would like to pose a question to the entire group. When we make bad choices do we really know why we do and often why can't we stop ourselves?

I ask this because I feel we all have our individual "big elephants" that we either refuse or are simply afraid to address. I have found a few things about my self these few months since surgery and especially of recent weeks. I really have to face. It is far beyond the band and weight. I think addressing emotional and psychological issues is a big part of our success that our program missed. Some of us are being treated but not fully. Any thought??

Sometimes I just don't know why I made a bad decision. Sometimes I eat unplanned food because I feel entitled, like I'd been doing so well all week so I "deserved" a treat. I also feel a bit exhausted with the diet, even though I've been off track for a few months, I still feel like I've been dieting non-stop. I think Sac needs a few of those head hunger classes Pat and Riley raved about. Sign me up!

Speaking of... Miss Riley- We miss you! I'm glad you're enjoying life. Isn't that the whole point?

Reggie- March 20- Pat has invited us out to Petaluma. We're going to do the wetlands walk that Riley tried to get us to do all those months ago and I think lunch after. Will you join us?

YEah we are getting a new puppy on Friday a little black lab... Im so excited. We are naming her Cali.. YAY... I wanted Bella but Robbie veto'd that lol... Im a twilight fanatic...

Reggie ANYTIME!!! You live so close. Im sorry to hear about your moms bestfriend. Im here if you need anything.. Is there anything I can put on the incisions to help the itching???

OMG a PUPPY?!! How exciting!

We really want a dog, but we're waiting until we have the house to put the dog in.

Thanks Coco! I used cocoa butter with vitamin E or a cool cloth will help.

Heather thanks for responding to my question. I wish I could make it to the Wetlands walk, I have to go to Morgan Hill that weekend, but I will be at the Point West meeting this month. Thanks for the invite.

OMG a PUPPY?!! How exciting!

We really want a dog, but we're waiting until we have the house to put the dog in.

Heather how is housing excursion, hey there is a 3/2 house at the far end of my street for sale. My realtor came by ths weekend and I had her show me. It is really nice, a pool and nicely landscaped back yard (large). I know you like Elk Grove, just in case you think of the country life lol our neighborhood is nice veryquiet.

Annalynn that's so good to hear! yes call and set your appt with liz, sometimes it take a while to get in. I think you need to go weigh in at a local kaiser and have them log it 1st.

So i made my food for tomorrow tuna trying to get back to basics. perhaps a cheese wedge for breakfast.

gosh I hope I can get a fill next week.....Reggie you still going?

Yes Jes, my appointment is on the 10th @1:30 when is yours again?

Thanks Tina, Isn't it interesting that our weight was unfortunately the temporary band aid that we put on. I like the twelve step idea. I plan on making an appointment with Kaiser to work out my stuff too! I truly think part of Riley and Pat's success is the Head group/class that they attend, they can chime in with their thoughts as well.

I am sure your grandparent's memory helps at times :-). I am doing better, i still get anxiety aout going on the freeway. Thanks for asking. Please don't chill too long we will miss ya. I have a CPS question for you I will PM you or email you on FB so please keep an eye out for it. I wish you the best Tina, these are times that you need people! Let me (us ) know if there is anything we can do. Always remember God is in control, he wont dish out what he knows you can;t handle. These are life lessons.Be well!

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I did in the past Tina, but I realized that my issues is not overeating it is the problems that triggered the weight gain. I will do individual therapy and see how that goes. Let me know if you decide to try out. It is funny that we help people in our line of work but we cant do the same for ourselves. There is an African proverb that states " A healer cannot heal themselves" that is so true.

Yes Tina I would like her information. Go and get some rest! LOL.

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I had my surgery two years ago. It's never worked properly. After a few fills, there was never the amount in it that they said and I never got to the 'sweet spot' or even felt full. After about 9 months of no success the band became really tight (without any fills) then they couldn't get anything out of it. It was arranged that I'd have it removed in emerg. three times but I got bumped. I've seen four different doctors through the clinic I used and all have said the band isn't working properly and I need surgery to see what the problem is. Just in the last short while I've started to have periods where I can't get anything down - not even water - and when I try I get a lot of bile and throwing up. It's worse than the slim.

Now the clinic wants $3,500 to take it out. The current doctor thinks I'll be too swollen to put a new band in and will be able to have a resurgery after another six weeks or so. Haven't heard the final price on that yet - they're still discussing but it's definitely not included in the previous $15,000 and now and $3,500.

The second last totally closed off was horrible - I was throwing up continually for about fifteen hours and then still couldn't even sip water.

I'm about ready to try emergency again since I don't think I can take this much longer. My metabolism is soooo screwed up I haven't had any more than about 1200 calories total in the last three days and I'm still not losing weight.

I just want the clinic I started with to take care of me and as a responsible business cover these costs.

Anyone experience anything like this one?

HELP!!!

Hi Reggie! Sorry about your second Mom! Your next fill if coming, you can do it!!!! For me eating tasty food is satisfying and makes me feel good. Whichever surgery we have it’s the head hunger that we have to overcome.

Heather thanks for the kind words! You're next, we are rooting for you!!!!!

Hi Reggie! Sorry about your second Mom! Your next fill if coming, you can do it!!!! For me eating tasty food is satisfying and makes me feel good. Whichever surgery we have it’s the head hunger that we have to overcome.

Heather thanks for the kind words! You're next, we are rooting for you!!!!!

Thanks John, I miss her dearly. Oh John I cook too much tasty food LOL, it ends up in my ..... lol. But I will as you said do it. Thanks again, my regards to Nikki.

Sharon Stagnara at Kaiser Morse Avenue. She is an anxiety specialist so maybe not totally right for you but I really, really like her. She had me figured out in about 20 minutes and admit I am pretty guarded with that kind of stuff. SHe totally got me. I need to go back........:-)

She sent me a letter telling me to come back when I am ready. That is why I said last week sometimes we might need to put ourselves first I was thinking of that class.

Thanks Tina I will look her up.

mornin Everyone!

First off- I wanna say thanks- Cuz I sincerly appreciate everyones support on here. Honestly? It keeps me going~ Even if I backslide on you guys and go M.I.A. or regain, lose, regain, lose.. All of you have still welcomed me back with open arms and I love that about this forum

As far as me and my EX- divorce is in process and restraining order has been granted for the next 3 years :-)

I know some of the ladies on here have gone thru it.. but ok i'll just put it out there.. I was a victim of Domestic Violence with a man that I thought I loved and had children with .. for 20 years I've been Physically, and mentally abused.. and we'll if anyone has time or is interested.. this was my life: KrAzy, SeXy, KeWL...: LaChica

Now Moving Forward -

My plan is to Call Liz on Monday.. My goal by then is to be at Least 2-5 pounds under my pre-op goal..I just wanna make sure I got this on lock

Question:

They offer the sleeve now? how is this better or not better than the Lapband or Rny?

Alright its 8:00 am.. time to get on the Work grind!

Analynn, having been recently Sleeved, I can only offer my personal opinion. The Sleeve doesn't require follow-up for fills and unfills. The results for the Sleeve are as good or better than the RNY. The Sleeve is made from the muscular part of the stomach so that it should not stretch the way that the RNY pouch does. The Sleeve doesn't have malabsorption the way that RNY does so once the Sleeve is healed and you've lost your weight, you can eat anything in small amounts if that's what you choose to do. Kaiser has the same eating plan, regardless of the surgery. I would be happy to answer any questions if you PM me. Also, I would suggest checking out our sister website.. verticalsleevetalk.com or go to Obesityhelp.com and find the Sleeve forum to ask questions.

I love my Sleeve!

Morning all!

Annalyn, I hear ya on the domestic violence front - did that in my first marriage, and he kept at it with his wives after me. The police used to call me from Redding and say come get your daughter, we have her at the ER with her steopmom cause her dad's in jail - lovely sh.t. The behavior does not change. You have done the right thing girl!!

TINA! I love you and I miss you and don't you DARE leave this thread! No one else is dealing with havinh HAD good restriction and then completely losing it and being refused help. I have no idea what I would do, but I can tell you that I', scared to deather to get another fill cause I dont ever want to need an unfill at Kaiser!! SOMEthing must be going on there to have them all freaking out about unfills, because almost everyone has at least one during their journey - I mean, that's the beauty of the band, that it's adjustable, right?? So something must have happened to cause them to feel the ned to take SO MUCH out when just .5 or 1 cc would bring relief. And I think they should be honest and tell us why!

Need to lock myself in my cubicle and write an ordinance today. Chris is coming by to take me to lunch later :-) I am logging everything again and drinking my water, and wonder of wonders, the weight is coming back off. . . . sigh. The band isn't a miracle; I still gotta do all the work. It sure helps tho :-)