I've lost 101 pounds since my banding 8 months ago. The other day my doc suggested I go to this class on how to meet people, why men and women are different etc. She thought i was ready for it physically.

At first I thought, wow, wouldn't it be great to meet someone. I've never had anyone really special in my life and I'm 40 years old. I let my mind wander and have little daydreams. Everytime I went somewhere I imagined being there with someone else.

Then after one week I've just freaked out. The reality of meeting someone set in. How do I explain the port? I feel like such a freak. I've still got weight to lose - about another 25 pounds. My thighs are awful and stretched. I know they say you shouldn't get naked with someone unless you love them and if they love you it wouldn't matter. But, how does someone even begin to love you if you won't let them know anything about you? I've been bingeing this week just thinking about it. I feel really sad,:cry like I want to gain weight again so no-one has any expectations of me.

Can anyone relate to this?

the most important sexual organ is the brain. Everything happens in the brain. If the brain is not engaged, then it's just mechanics baby. Mechanics and hydrolics.

If you think you are a sex kitten, you are a sex kitten. If you are ashamed of your body or the way you look, well, you can't be a sex kitten. There are long hair sex kittens and short hair kittens...