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... I thought I'd share some news with you.

My wife and I have filed for divorce... for the 2nd time. Yes, from each other. For the 2nd time. No, you're reading it right, and you're understanding it. We're divorcing each other, again. I thought marrying the same woman twice was unique... wonder what the percentage of the population who have divorced the same person twice is...

I'm a slow learner, I guess.

Anyway, it's a testament to the wonderfull tool that the band is that I've LOST weight instead of gained it during this turbulent time. In addition to the marriage thing, I "retired" from the software development world today, and will be pastoring a church for the next 4 years as I go to the divinity school (seminary) at SMU at get my Masters degree. The squids (10 year old boy, and 5 year old girl) will be moving and living with me.

It's been a BUSY BUSY BUSY month... but my chin is up, my waist is down, and I'm looking forward to the fall.

So why am I posting? I dunno... maybe I need a few "hang in there"s from my LBT family. =)

Jonathan

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Wow Jonathan, I think the only major stressor you don't have going on is a death. Please be good to your self and family. Divorce is never easy, on anybody involved.

I've actually known a couple of people who've married the same person twice.

Congrats for following your heart and going to divinity school. I think it is wonderful when poeple have a true calling. I know that I do. And congrats on not gaining weight during this very difficult time.

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My husband married his first wife twice. I think that's actually pretty common. I hope this is a postive thing for you, sounds like you're doing great! Congrads to you on your new life, and how funny that you call them, "Squids." I'll have to remember that one!

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My mom married and divorced the same man twice, I guess it is more common than one might think. I hope that the move is a smooth one for you and your children. The good thing is that you will find a church family and they will have loads of companions in no time. Take care of yourself in this difficult time, it will get better~Mandy

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Jonathan, you sound like you have a great attitude about all of this, I wish you the best in your new endeavor at the seminary. SOrry to hear about the divorce but things in life happen for a reason.Hang in there :)

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Jonathan, hang in there. Sounds like you do have a good attitude & you're not gaining weight!

When my husband married the 1st time, his brother married her sister. So two brothers were married to 2 sisters. Well the brother & sister stayed married, obviously my husband did not. They stayed friends cause of their son (my step-son) and we definately can't avoid them even if we wanted to! (Weddings, bar-mitzvahs, etc!)

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Johnathan, I am so sorry that u have to go threw this twice. Divorce was hard enough for me the one time. But dont feel bad look at Pamala Anderson and Tommy Lee!!! I think they got married 3 times~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

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Hang in there Jonathan. I noticed your post in the "what do you do for a living?" thread and you mentioned these things and I wanted SO bad to ask about it...so thanks for posting this thread and letting all of us give you our best wishes. I'll be praying for you and your squids. I can't imagine the difficulty.

So, how's it feel to be without a desk job?!

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So, how's it feel to be without a desk job?!

Like Heaven on Earth =) I can't believe I'm getting paid to talk about God... It really is a dream come true for me. =)

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Jonathon Congrats on getting the job you always wanted. Sorry for the divorce but it looks like you are doing good concerning every area of your life. Continue to focus on your work for God and you will have great rewards some day!!

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Jonathan, wow, this really is a rough time on you indeed. You're a strong person and will be even stronger for having traveled this passage and come through it. Your squids :) are very lucky! Peace to you and your family and all the best of luck to you in your new life.

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A divorce, the end of one job, the beginning of a true calling -- and graduate school on top of it. I hope you don't have to move house on top of everything! How wonderful that your "waist is down and chin up." You will get through what is certain to be a crazy summer, and you'll probably kick butt in the upcoming summer weight-loss challenge. We're all rooting for you. It sounds as if you're beginning a new, exciting part of your life.

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Jonathan-I'm sorry about the divorce....never an easy thing.

I'm proud of you though. You're moving forward in a positive way. Praise GOD! Take care and we're always here for you.

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