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Anyone else just... flake out during the process?

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lsanderson    0

lsanderson
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YES!! I absolutely understand what your talking about as far as starting the process and then just sort of "taking a break". I finally realized that I had to be in the right state of mind and that it's not just about me but also about the people I love and want to be with for a long time. So if you're worried about spending the money on yourself, think of it as spending money for those you love and those who love you by getting healthy and extending your life with them.

For me it was seeing my dad go into acute renal failure and experience multiple complications to the surgery that got me back into gear. The doctor said it was partially due to his weight which also caused his sleep apnea, a heart attach and high blood pressure. He's only 62 and almost didn't pull through. I don't want to be in the same place at such a young age. He also needed an additional surgery that they said he was too heavy for. He had to live in pain until he lost enough weight for the procedure. That's not a position I ever want to be in.

So here I am starting the insurance dance all over because my insurance changed but this time I intend to see it through! Good luck to you :)

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picturemethin    0

picturemethin
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I understand, I was being tossed from person to person, doctor to doctor test to test... and I kept thinking this isn't worth it - and would go home and eat a burger....(sad I know)... I also received confusing information and a long list of insurance information required by my surgeons office. I called my insurance and sat on the phone 3 - 5 hours several times a week trying to get answers. I finally went to my surgeons office and spoke to the billing lady and about started crying and she promised me that she would get the information. The next thing I heard is I got the approval, which it was cutting it close and had to take two more classes (Surgeons requirement) and did the clear liquid for 9 of the 10 days and had surgery less than 2 weeks later. Everything went quick once the insurance gave the approval... I did have special circumstances, my job was changing insurances the end of that month and the new insurance would not approve the surgery without several months of consistent weight loss. Which I had already met all the requirements of the 1st insurance company.

It was a mess, it was frustrating... I would not change a thing about my experience... and I LOVE my BAND -- Its like having kids...sometimes it doesn't listen, sometimes it makes you sick (like kids bring home stuff from school or daycare), and sometimes you are full up to here : ::reaches above head::

Get back in it, and whenever you get stuck try a different approach..

Good Luck!

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MissMaryAnn    0

MissMaryAnn
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:lol: I just wanted to thank you all for your words of wisdom. Hearing your stories has really made me feel better.

I'm headed to the bariatrician's appointment in a few minutes, and this time, I am mentally prepared to give the supervised diet my all. Just one more hoop... :thumbup:

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travelinsnorkel    0

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I have been through everything you have and have come full circle. About a month ago I decided that I could do this on my own. Not sure what I was thinking since I have been overweight since I was a kid. I have finally decided that the lap band is for me and that I need to do this for my health. I got a date for October! Wish you much luck in your journey!

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alabamagirl1975    2

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I have been through everything you have and have come full circle. About a month ago I decided that I could do this on my own. Not sure what I was thinking since I have been overweight since I was a kid. I have finally decided that the lap band is for me and that I need to do this for my health. I got a date for October! Wish you much luck in your journey!

I have got to say that I have also come full circle. I started doing all of the BC/BS mumbo jumbo they make you do starting last August. I am going for my EGD Wednesday then I will receive my surgery date. I am getting excited now! I have been overweight since I was a kid and I have come to realize that being "obese" is a disease. Just keep in mind that you are doing this for yourself and your health.:thumbup:

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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