I'm prefacing this by saying: I love my bf, I know he loves me...we're planning on getting married, and this little tiff/rant of mine isn't going to stop that.

BUT, THAT BASTARD!

I have his camera today to upload pictures we took of furniture for sale. I can do it faster/better and I have the time. On his camera, he has pictures of a vacation he took with his family to Hawaii. I was just looking at them and found a surprise. This was a few months after we started dating, and was well over a year ago. I didn't go, since it was planned well before I was in the picture. It's his mother, father and daughter. Well, there are pictures of two bikini clad women running around on the beach. Not one picture, not two pictures- FOUR!!!

I guess I figured he was above that...he's more intellectual - doesn't have porn (I have more of a porn collection than he does, simply because I have one.) I was impressed by that, I like that. I dated a guy who was heavily into porn and would watch it without me, and I'd get pissy...so this bf was a pleasant surprise.

Then I find these pictures and my mind is blown away. I know I'm over-reacting and time will lesson the "blow", but DAMN. I'm insecure about how I look anyway, and now finding this makes me feel really badly over it.

And, I know me...I know I'll war with myself between being pissed and letting it go. It may be better if we DON'T see each other tonight, but since that's not an option, I may just have to stay in the other room!

How do ya'll handle your men ogling (and taking PICTURES!!!???) of other women? Do you get offended, or pass it off?

Gloucester,

That's pretty funny, did you ever wash the pillows?:embaressed_smile: Nanook

LOL...ew...I dunno. I was a kid, so I'm not sure. I think that my mom just put them there for the dog, to make her think that she was getting one up on us. Then, mom would put them back on the floor when we got home.

I'd love to take an animal psych class. I know humans can never really *know* but it would be interesting to know why dogs/cats do what they do.

As for the original post....maybe I am wierd, I see no issue with it. The first time I went to Hawaii was to see my DD and DH could not go---I took those pics and brought home to him! When we are at a motorcycle rally I am always pointing out the wild or the not much there outfits!!!

He was always with me, even then, when I was at my heaviest, although he loved me back when I was 120 pounds! I knew he loved me at 289 pounds too.

I believe just because you are on a diet you can still look at the menu!!!

More seriously, if this had been after the 2 of you were together, it might be something to worry about, or if the pics were of scimpy dressed men! But this just tells me he is normal! Just bring him home and show him the advantages of a real live woman as opposed to a picture!!!

I bet stress DID play a huge role in your reaction!

Kat

Kat, thank you - I've always enjoyed reading your posts becuase they're always very insightful.

I'm not sure I'll ever have that much confidence. :Angel_anim: I can step back, though and appreciate it for what it is, and now I kinda feel silly.

So, yes, stress! I'll blame stress.... <insert sheepish grin!>