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MicheleK

By MicheleK, in The Gals' Room

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Speaking of insecurities in the bedroom (since this is the powder room and we can say what we want) . . . my DH says that since banding our "special time" is so much better than ever before. I was really embarrassed because I was always soooo self conscious and I thought it was a reference to being overweight. I had always assumed that even though he has always told me I am beautiful, how can he be satisfied with me when he has the body of an athlete and I . . . well, um, don't.

He saw from my expression that I was embarrassed. He then went on to say that the reason it is infinitely better now has nothing to do with my size. He said that I was always hiding myself, covering as much as possible, lights out completely and had no confidence before . . . now I express myself.

When he said this to me, it really made light bulbs go off for me. My weight was not the issue even though I thought it was everything, my feelings and insecurities about the weight weighed me down physically and emotionally more than I ever could have imagined.

I guess I am still learning more every day through this journey . . . and I still have a ways to go :smile2:

Girl - I was reading this and thought I could have wrote this. Wow! It was not about weight for him, but about how I treated sex. To be honest I didn't try to find pleasure in it because I couldn't get over thinking I'm fat and ugly. DH has always said how sexy I am, now he tells me I'm beautiful. I'm learning to love me again...

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MicheleK    8

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Girl - I was reading this and thought I could have wrote this. Wow! It was not about weight for him, but about how I treated sex. To be honest I didn't try to find pleasure in it because I couldn't get over thinking I'm fat and ugly. DH has always said how sexy I am, now he tells me I'm beautiful. I'm learning to love me again...

This is totally my issue...I am so uncomfortable having sex that the drive is completely gone. My DH is wonderful and never fails to tell me how great I am...it's my issue that's making me nutty.

It's amazing how hard we are on ourselves and how it can effect every aspect of our life.

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I did it alot at first when I first got banded, my DH thought I was nuts. Estrogen is stored in the fat and as you lose it, it is released into your body, thus making you a little on the hormonal side. It will get better, hang in there.

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