Yesterday when I got home from the seminar I was in a great mood. Just meeting with the doctor and some of his patients really helped me know that I have done the right thing. When I got home I told my hubby all about what I learned and how exciting it was to see how WLS has changed the lives of these ladies. All he could say is that the doctor has not done lap bands before. I told him it was because he wanted to wait until it was in the US for a while and that there was long term evidence of the benefits of it (He even addressed this in the seminar). He even studied under the doctor that brought it to the US. He has trained in performing the lap band surgery and does all his surgeries laproscopicly (sp?). I told hubby this and still all he could do was nit pic. It really put a downer on my mood. I tried to explain to him that I know that the doctor is just now offering it and I have done research in his background. He has been doing bariatric surgeries for years and this is the only thing he does. He is a very hands on doctor and is really supportive in your recovery and during and after your weight loss journey. When I initially told hubby that I was going to do the lap band I thought he was supportive. I told him I've done research and was not going into this with my eyes closed. I mean why would anybody just wake up one day and decide that they were going to have surgery. I hate having surgery. I don't like being put under but I've decided that this is the best thing for me in the long run. I just found out today that I have border line high cholesterol and high blood pressure. I'm trying not to get angry at him because I know it's his way of being worried and trying to watch out for me but he also needs to trust in my decision and put trust in my doctor. I have trust in him and if I didn't trust his skills and his abilities to do the surgery successfully I WOULD NOT be going to him. Even today I told my mother what I am going to do and she even laid into me about how I'm going to have to change and hinted at I could do it on my own. If I could have done it on my own I wouldn't be overweight to begin with. But I know my mother means well and loves me but at that moment I was just looking for someone to be excited about how I am taking charge of my health and doing something positive. Seems like the only people I'm getting it from these days are my close friends. :blushing: I'm not going to let these things change my mind about the surgery. Now I'm more determined then ever to have it done. If I have to have it with no support then so be it. I'm doing this for me anyways. Has anyone experienced this before? Is this normal?

Hubby and I had a great talk and it turns out that we both weren't listening to each other last night. LOL Imagine that! :cool2: Today we sat down and listened to each other. Turns out he was just pointing out questions that I should be asking the doc so I can be more informed and I was telling him stuff we learned at the seminar. Some where in between us talking to each other we didn't hear each other. That is something we are going to have to work on so I can continue to rely on him for support and so he doesn't feel that I'm jumping into this blind.

I thank you all for your support today and hopefully my post will help others if they run into the same dilemma. Oh yeah...I did invite him to a seminar but I don't know if he really wants to go. He really didn't say anything attending but we'll see.

Great to hear. Sometimes (who am I kidding) I mean most of the time, us men are slow at accepting reality. I didn't even think we were really having a baby till we saw the ultra sound, then reality sunk in! Maybe it just took some time for it to sink in. But there's gonna be some big changes coming, I agree, communicating will be the key here.