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I have my first date in Years!!

xray1028

By xray1028, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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xray1028    0

xray1028
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Well everyone I have been so happy with my band and trying so hard. There are times when I am just like man why did I eat that. Nobodys perfect but I am happy with my progress.

Well Saturday I have my first date. I haven't gone on a date in FOREVER:eek:. I am very excited but also very nervous. He has said nothing but nice things and has been a total gentleman. He told me he used to over 400lbs and now I think he is like 245. Once he told me that I decided to open and upfront about my surgery. I told him and he was so cool with it. He says he actually wants it. I think he looks fine but he thinks he wants it now.

Well I am blabbing on and on I guess I wrote this just so I could get some support and advice on handling my first date in YEARS!! Any advice would be great I am so NERVOUS!! Thanks all!

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Kimberly Henson Edwards    0

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CONGRADULATIONS!!!!!! I'm excited for ya. Try not to dribble don't talk about politics or your exes and you should be fine. Between you and me I've not been on a date in 3 years! I would love to just doesn't seem to be anyway asking lately

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Congratulations!!! How exciting? How did you meet? Sounds great since you have already talked about your surgery and he is supportive, that is a great start with communicating. Do you know where you are going or what you're doing? Can't wait to hear how it goes. I have not dated in years either. Was married to my teenage love for 21 years and he divorced me last year....he wanted to be single. I am trying to move on with life now and trying to get healthier for myself and my children. Have a great time!!:rolleyes2:

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OMG! Good Luck. Just go and have fun and be yourself. Your secret is out so it should make it that much easier! :rolleyes2:

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gojaguars    0

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Yes, how did the date go? I hope you have a great time! Another date planned?

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Well as everyone knows I had my first date over the weekend. Things went very well. He was so sweet and kind. We have gone out again on Monday night as well. There is a connection but I am really taking it slow cause I don't want to get hurt. We will be going out again on Saturday so I am really looking forward to that. Thank you for everyones support. It was so nice. I hope things continue to stay positive and I look forward to seeing where the relationship goes. Thanks everyone.:scared2:

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:thumbup: Oh, xray1028, that is great. I agree with you, take it slow, and have fun. Only God really knows how it will go. Best of luck , keep us updated.:tt2:

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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