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I won't miss saying "Not today, honey. Mommy hurts too much" when my son's ask me to do something the least bit physical

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I'm so glad someone made this thread, I've been thinking about it for awhile.

-Having to worry about breaking toilet seats (yes, I broke 2 in our old apartment last year)

-Dreading chairs with arms

-Afraid of parking in some parts of my neighborhood just because of a tiny hill

-Making my fiancee feel bad because he can't buy me clothes, especially when he worked at Old Navy

-Not being able to wear cute shoes because of the width

-Not being able to shop at most stores

-Ugly swimsuits and undergarments

-Clothes for older women in most places that do sell plus-size--just because you're fat doesn't mean you're 70!

-Not being able to try new sex positions and making my fiancee do most of the work

-Worrying about fitting into restaurant booths

-Feet hurting all the time from walking, I don't get out of breath or tired, my feet just kill me from the weight

-All the looks I get if I even have a healthy snack at work, when some people eat all day long but are thin

-Still getting called names at 24 years old. "Whale" and "600-pound gorilla" were the most recent.

-Not wanting to go to concerts anymore because I can't fit in the arena seats

-Praying that nobody has to sit next to me on the airplane

-My mother constantly criticizing my weight

-Having to buy new clothes all the time because the thighs wear out or I keep getting stains on shirts

-Being able to only wear things that stretch

-Hating blue jeans

Gah, I could go on...

Edited by Angelyco

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Things I Won't Miss:

Having sex with a tshirt on to cover up my stomach

Lying to my fiance about my weight

Sneaking food so no one sees the fat girl eating

Fast food binges

Worrying about Airplane Trips and the Associated Discomfort

Worrying if things can support my weight

Creaking furniture when I sit down that doesn't creak when anyone else does

Ugly Clothes

HUGE, Plus-Size Clothes

Plus-Size Stores

My Enormously Fat Feet

Hating Myself

Breathing with my Mouth Open After Going Up Stairs because I can never get enough breath

Being a mouth breather

Snoring

The Cramp from leaning on my stomach at my desk for hours

Having to push the Booth out/away when I sit down at resturaunts.

My flabby fat overflowing my pants

Only being able to wear stretchy pants because I get that itchy, hurty red rash around my stomach from my pants being too tight

Buying jeans two sizes too big because I know I'm getting fatter anyway

Being totally self-conscious

Not being able to go swimming because I am scared of people seeing me in a bathing suit

Calculating my own weight into a full elevator and wondering if I will be the sole cause of it crashing.

Being hungry ALL THE TIME

Getting strange looks from people when I act goofy and obnoxious, where I interpret it as, "You're fat, you're not entitled to have fun," instead of just, "You're goofy and obnoxious."

Comments and snickers from the Mexicans outside of Wal Mart. My fiance knows Spanish and understood what the guy said about me so he knocked a few of his teeth out. I felt like crap. It was my fault for being so ugly.

Having people tell me I have a pretty face, not because of what they are saying but because of what they are NOT SAYING.

Little kids lookin at me oddly.

People thinking I am older because I am so fat.

Not being able to work out with my fiance because ... well, gee... it makes me EXHAUSTED.

Not wearing shorts in over six years.

Always having to wear my hair down in an attempt to hide my fat face.

Crying when I see pictures of myself.

Tearing up pictures of myself.

Hiding from cameras.

Not wanting to get married and be the FAT bride.

Not getting my period.

Not being able to get pregnant SOLELY because I am too fat.

Worrying about my blood pressure when I drink because I am so fat.

Having panic attacks because I think I am going to have a heart attack.

The constant soreness/tenderness between my thighs from the constant rubbing.

Pants wearing out between the thighs.

Ugly underwear.

Ugly bras.

Ugly shoes.

Not being able to paint my own toe nails without a significant struggle.

Crying when I look in the mirror.

These are a few of my least favorite things...

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This is a great thread. I won't miss:

- legs rubbing together

- back aches

- fitting into chairs with arms

- damming up the tub (Water won't pass to the back because I'm wider than the bathtub)

- having to corss my foot on my knee to tie shoes and having the tie on the side instead of in the center of the shoe where it should be

- not fitting on amusement park rides with my nephew or having to leave the rollercoaster after trying to fit in it while everyone is staring.

- looking to see if I'm the largest person in the room

- feeling insecure on the inside while trying to hide it on the outside all the time

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i wont miss having muffin-top-itist (when your bottom tummy falls over your pants giving the illusion a muffin's top under your shirt )

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I wont miss...

-Going into a store with my friend and knowing i cant where ANYTHING in the store

-When my friend says here try thiiiss knowing it isnt going to fit

-ordering at restaraunts and having the server look at me like are you serious get a lettuce leaf

-feeling winded

-feeling like a waddle everywhere i walk

-my pants being so tight its uncomfortable

-being the fat friend

-feeling uncomfortable during sex

-always being the fat person wherever I go

-not being able to wear anything I want: bathing suits, shorts, tight clothes, nice jeans

-running up and down the stairs

-working out

-feeling comfortable and good about myself!! (my number one reason for surgery)

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This is great because I've been thinking there are tons of things I won't miss about being obese.

Boyfriend skinnier than I am - won't miss feeling like I'm going to crush him.

Thighs rubbing together.

Walking pass building downtown and seeing how huge I am.

Taking pictures and saying Lord I'm huge - please delete that.

Playing with my dogs and not running out of breath.

Not wanting to leave the house.

Not being able to wear shorts.

Not being able to tan all parts because the rolls won't lay flat on the tanning bed.

Sore legs and back.

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I don't miss-- checking to see if my clothes from last week are too tight and trying to figure out what to wear......now my clothes from last week are too loose and weekly I have to check to see what I have smaller in the closet and I love it!

I don't miss being one of my only friends to finish a whole meal and then some when we go out for lunch!

I don't miss hiding behind baggy sweatshirts and instead of dreading bathing suit season and family boating this summer........I am looking forward to it!

Big huge thing I don't miss is wanting to nap/sleep all the time!

I secretly miss "BK Whoppers" !!!:crying:

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This is a great thread! I had to reply:

Things I WON'T miss (but seriously can't imagine life without yet):

My thighs rubbing together

Snoring (done!)

Shopping at stores with large sizes (kinda done!)

Not worrying about fitting into booths/chairs/plane seats/etc (done!)

Having to work twice as hard to hike/ride a horse/etc. (done!)

Being unbelievably embarrassed in a bathing suit

Being over the weight limit on our kayak (done!)

Causing a tidal wave if I get on a boat

Causing an earthquake if I fall off my horse

Not being able to mount my horse from the ground (done!)

Not being able to cross my legs

Lying on my back and not being able to breathe (done!)

Wishing my husband had a wife he could be proud of (done!!!!!)

Things I can't wait for (but , again, can't really imagine yet:

Not having a belly (after ps)

Looking my age

Being hit on by GOOD LOOKING (not old, special ed, still living with mom) men (I know I'm married, but it's nice to be hit on!)

Rock climbing

Being as athletic as my husband (and how I USED to be)

Being able to run down a hill without worrying that I"m going to fall

Being smaller than my SIL

Being smaller than my DH

Being pregnant and LOOKING pregnant (not fat)

Crossing my legs COMFORTABLY

My thighs not rubbing together

My next high school reunion (the only reason I missed the last one was because of all the weight I gained)

Not having to ask the weight limit on things like the rock climbing wall

Dancing without looking like an idiot (then again, I don't know if weight loss will cure this one!)

Not constantly thinking about food

Being able to run a mile with my students...and beating some of them!!

Being the kind of basketball coach who runs with her kids rather than watching from the sidelines

I know this is a long post, but it was kind of cool to see all the things I've already accomplished...even though I'm still 38 pounds from goal!

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Boobs all up in my neck when laying down. :crying:

ME TOO! I'd rather they be under my armpits where they belong than suffocating me. :crying:

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One thing I might miss when I lose my weight: Being able to gain 10 pounds and having no one notice!:biggrin::rolleyes2:

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What a great post -- I am hopping to get my band in late May but am already so excited about all the things I won't miss like:

-- not fitting in the airplane seat

-- going shopping with girlfriends knowing I can't fit into anything at the stores they go to

-- snoring

--getting winded going up the stairs

--always feeling uncomfortable in my own skin

-- telling people I believe pictures steal our souls when really I just don't want to see how huge I look

-- getting the "you have a really pretty face" comment

-- always being the great girl "space" friend but never the girlfriend

-- feeling ashamed all the time

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I love this thread as well. Definitely inspiring. I won't miss:

Only shopping for shoes and bags when I shop with friends

Having only a pretty face

Never having any energy

Wishing I could just disappear

Feeling ashamed of myself for not being able to control this

LANE BRYANT!!!!!

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