Am I behind?

[Scaredloser 25]

Hey all, I just wanted to kind of get the consensus of the community on my progress. I was 429 the day of surgery and am now 379 (that's 50lbs at 2 and half months) and am feeling disappointed for some reason. My wife says it's good progress, but I've seen online where others have had more lbs lost. Should I feel disappointed or am I still doing sorta ok?

Edited June 25, 2024 by Scaredloser

[ShoppGirl 5,072]

That’s five pounds a week. That seems great to me!! Just stick to your plan and remember that you didn’t gain it overnight so it won’t come off that way either.

Edited June 25, 2024 by ShoppGirl

[catwoman7 11,272]

most people, other than those who are the size of the folks on "My 600 lb Life", lose in the 15-25 lb range the first month (of course, you'll find people who lose more or less than that, but that seems to be where most of us fall). Things slow down after that. So you're well ahead of the game.

Edited June 26, 2024 by catwoman7

[SleeveToBypass2023 2,680]

I lost 79 pounds in 4 months. That averages out to roughly 20 pounds per month, or 5 pounds per week. I was 388 on surgery day. You're doing great. Don't compare yourself to others. Rome wasn't built in a day, so just stick to the diet, move your body, and you'll get there.

[ms.sss 15,804]

3 hours ago, Scaredloser said:

Hey all, I just wanted to kind of get the consensus of the community on my progress. I was 429 the day of surgery and am now 379 (that's 50lbs at 2 and half months) and am feeling disappointed for some reason. My wife says it's good progress, but I've seen online where others have had more lbs lost. Should I feel disappointed or am I still doing sorta ok?

Number one: don't base your satisfaction with yourself based on how you compare to others. you will NEVER be satisfied.

Number two: don't ask other people if you should be disappointed in YOURSELF. you don't need (nor want) others to be in charge of your own self-respect.

Number three: despite the fact that Numbers 1 and 2 above is OBVIOUS and LOGICAL, the reality is basically NOBODY follows them, so don't feel bad if you don't either.

Number four: even though i JUST said don't compare, i'm going to give you some data to compare (lol).... at 2.5 months i lost 52.6 lbs (which was 22% of my total body weight...52 / 235 = 22%) and i understand, based on statistical data and anecdotal evidence, that i was a pretty speedy loser, so...yeah.

[ShoppGirl 5,072]

Try not to let some arbitrary numbers be the determining factor if you feel that you are successful or not in all this. I had sleeve 3.5 years ago and several things went wrong along the way to add up to my eventual regain but I honestly think the main reason I failed was because I was so upset with myself that I did not reach the goal my dr had for me that I eventually said screw it and allowed myself to gain it all back (plus some). I was so close though. I am 5’8” and got down to 168 which was 18! Pounds from his hopes for me and a relatively healthy weight that I would be thrilled to be now but I got in the way of my own progress by all or nothing thinking and I let what that scale said or didn’t say be the most important thing in life!! Try to focus on all the non scale victories along the way. I think it was only 10% of weight lost that reduces many of the comorbidities that are brought on by obesity. You are healthier already than when you started all this. Try to Celebrate that and all the little victories along the way and keep your focus on the important stuff. This is your journey and you will do great if you stick to your plan and remember it is about your getting healthier and nothing else. Especially not how you compare to others. Just do you and you will be living your best life before you know it. I’m rooting for you.

[Bypass2Freedom 976]

That is honestly an amazing loss! I think the key thing to remember here (as others have said) is that we are all different - our bodies all have their own individual quirks, different metabolic set points & needs, so one persons weight loss may be +/- than yours, and that is normal!

I have been speaking to this lovely person who had the same surgery as me, same surgeon, PCOS & everything, just the day before me. Her start weight was a little lower so I fully expected to lose weight at a quicker rate than her, but it was the opposite way around! I remember feeling a little upset that I wasn't keeping up with my peers, but I really had to check myself to remind myself that 1) it isn't a competition, and 2) my body is losing at the rate it needs to.

You are doing amazingly, be proud of yourself! Celebrate every win, no matter how small

[Nabih_bawazir 9]

10 hours ago, Scaredloser said:

Hey all, I just wanted to kind of get the consensus of the community on my progress. I was 429 the day of surgery and am now 379 (that's 50lbs at 2 and half months) and am feeling disappointed for some reason. My wife says it's good progress, but I've seen online where others have had more lbs lost. Should I feel disappointed or am I still doing sorta ok?

Get another hobby, seeing progress in other way like push up, pull up, or dip progression, build more muscle

[AmberFL 1,045]

Comparison of others is the thief of joy! YOU ARE DOING AMAZING!!!

[JennyBeez 289]

If my math is right, you're already at 12% total weight loss. My program gives a range of 22-30% total loss in the first year or two (for gastric bypass/RNY; for sleeve it was lower)

You're well, well, well on your way at only 2.5 months in. Be proud of yourself. And honestly? Even when the weight loss slows down and you feel like you're fighting for the next pound to come off? Be proud of yourself then, too. Cause it's your choice every morning when you wake up to continue making the healthiest choices for your own body and health. And you're doing it. There are gonna be stalls, and the first few months weight seems to come off a lot easier -- so it will likely get slower. But you'll get there -- we'll get there. We're all on similar journeys here, but each one is going to be different.

...And as other have said, while comparison can be good when you're looking to find support for stuff we're all going through, when it comes to exact numbers (inches, pounds, etc) it's not really healthy to compare. Everyone's starting from a completely different place, with different programs, different comorbidities, different ancillary health issues, etc.