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Amen!!!!!!!!! Lingerie always make me feel better, even though im single I still wear it just for me when i dont feel so happy

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I highly recommend people read the book "Big Big Love - a sourcebook on sex for people of size and those who love them" by Hanne Blank. It's an amazing, uplifting book that looks at logistical issues for fat sex (positions etc) as well as things like confidence, stereotypes etc. It's a very pro fat book, and I found it to be very helpful. It's an easy and fun read too!

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Fairy how did the swing work .... you didn't let us know?!?!?! You know we are all freaks too!! LOL! If you love I am definetely getting one!!!! Can't wait to have skinny sex LOL!

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I got my band like 2 1/2 weeks ago and I swear my sex drive has been through the roof..but I have been leary about it because I haven't fully recovered. How long did ya'll wait til you had sex after surgery. I wanted to ask my doctor but I just couldn't lol he's too sweet for that!

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well I am a army wife ... and you know what they say about us ... LOL FREAKS!!! I wanna jump my hubby everytime I see him ... can't wait til I am thin enough to literally jump on him. LOL right now it would be a "Norbit" scenario LOL (not really that fat being scarcastic LOL u get the pic) But I'll be banded on the 6th so I sure one of the Vets will answer you question.

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lol I've heard but most women are freaks anyway I don't care what they say!! I am totally open about it all and I have been going crazy! My guy has been good about and but he gets nervous and doesn't want to hurt me so he stops. So I will get some info from some ladies and let him know its cool!!

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WELL I SAW FAIRY'S POST AND JUST WANTED TO ADD THAT I HAVE A SEX SWING I'VE HAD MINE FOR ABOUT A YEAR ALEADY MINE CAME WITH THIS BIG METAL STAND AND AT THE TOP WHERE IT HOOKS IT HAS THIS GIANT SPRING WHERE IT HOOKS TO THE STAND MY DH CAN ASSEMBLE IT IN ABOUT 10 MIN. AND WHEN NOT IN USE WE JUST PUT IT IN THE CLOSET, LET ME TELL YOU ITS AWESOME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT HAS THIS SEAT THAT IS LIKE ONE STRAP THATS YOUR SEAT AND TWO MORE OF THESE STIR-UP THINGS FOR YOUR FEET TO GO IN LET ME TLL YOU AT MY TOP 300LBS. THAT SWING MAKES YOU FEEL LIGHT ASS A FEATHER MY DH WAS ABLE TO MANUEVER ME AROUND SO EASILY AND NOT TO GET TO GRAPHIC BUT OF COUSRE I TO HAVE THE PROBLEM OF STAYING ON TOP FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME BUT WE EXPIEREMENTED WITH THE SWING AND HE SAT IN IT AND I WAS ABLE TO STAY ON TOP TILL THE END YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN IT WAS LIKE VICTORY FOR ME A SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENT LIKE YEAH I DID THAT HAHAHA ANYWAYS ENJOY YOUR SWING!!!!!!!!!!STILL CAN'T WAIT TO THIN ENOUGH TO DO THE HELD UP AGAINST THE WALL THATS JUST SO RAW AND HOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:eyebrows:

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Justin I Am Soooooooooooo Sorry To Hear That!! That's Wrong ... Ur Wife Should Not Be With Holding Sex From You Unless You Have Cheated On Her!! That's In The Bible!! But I Wish I Had Some Suggestions For You ... Do You Still Make Her Feel Wanted, Sexy, Attractive You Know. Smack Her On The Ass An Say Damn Baby You Got A Phat Juicy Ass... (not Fat Lol!!!) Or Grab Her And Give Her One Of Those Passionate Kisses That Us Chicks Go Crazy Over Like The Ones That Automatically Make Out Panties Wet.... Yeah Ladies You Know Which One I Am Talking About. I Think Us As American With All The Sex Sells And Porno Stuff Alot Of Us Get Married Start Families And Become Total Prudes About Sex... And That Shouldn't Be We Should All Be Open To An Extent. And If Your Children Never See You Cuddle, Kiss, Love Each Other Between A Man And Woman They Will Not Now How When They Get In To The World... The Tv Would Be The Thing Doing All The Teaching And Than Comes Teen Pregnancy And A Whole Heep Of Shit ... Lol ... So Let's Get It 2gether People!!! Love To All Apples!!

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Is been 10 years (this Sunday) since we started dating. Trust me, I've tried everything over the years. Everything else is perfect. I absolutly love her. She just has no fantasies, no drive, no interest what-so-ever. Sometimes it hurts me deeply.

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aww honey! maybe she needs to talk to a doctor or something cause that's very abnormal!! and you seem like such a great guy! I don't know many men who would continue to stand by a woman who isn't intimate with them. You're amazing and she should be ectastic to have you!!

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I have to say, I found this thread yesterday and loved it. I, too, have the fantasy of the wall and being tossed around like a Barbie. Can't wait!

On the Sex Swing, I used to be a consultant for Slumber Parties, and what I always told my customers buying the swing was to go to Home Depot or somewhere and buy a cheap smoke detector. Tear all the guts out of the thing and keep the shell. Hang that shell over your hook in your ceiling, and nobody will ever know what you have hidden away in your closet!

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I heard on Oprah not long ago that for every 30 pounds a man loses, he gains an inch of penis. So, this could probably help some men who have lost a lot of penis from weight gain. LOL.

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      1. Selina333

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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