Yeah look at all you little pervs!! I knew that would catch you attention LOL!! Just kidding! But I was wondering ladies and gents... Is the sex better after band and some pounds have fell off. I know that I can't wait to have sex once I am thinner LOL!!! I tired of being the "pillow princess" and getting winded when I really wanna ride the hell out of my husband... But I wanna be so freaky with him but the weight restricts me from alot of things and I hate that so much!! I just can't wait to be maybe 40-50 pounds lighter. But I would like feedback from banded and people waiting to be banded.... Like what changed after banding and what you are looking forward to I am so excited and hoping for a January surgery date!! :bounce:I wish it would happen sooner than later!! I am so embarrassed to say it but we are all family here!! But I am so ready to see my vagina when I look down LOL!! Spouses please speak out as well if you have a banded partner how have the "changed" in the bedroom?!?!?

I am being banded today and I can't wait to lose enough weight to enjoy sex again. I hate sex at this point because I get winded just getting into the bed, much less making it move! I have had some horrible issues in the bedroom over the past few years.......One time while my dh was eating at the Y, he stopped moving for a minute and I had to make sure he wasn't dead!

I would love to ride again, but at this size, if I even tried it, my dh would be the one riding...........on a stretcher in an ambulance!

LOL GIRL YOU ARE SOOOO FUNNY!!! MY DH LETS ME RIDE LOL ... I THINK CAUSE HE MAINLY LIKES IT BUT I HATE SEEING HIM GET ALL INTO AND THAN I HAVE TO STOP BECAUSE I AM TOO WINDED TO CONTINUE ... HE HAS THAT DISAPPOINTED LOOK ON HIS FACE... AND I FEEL HORRIBLE BECAUSE I WILL RIDE HIM FOR LIKE 2 MINS AND I FEEL LIKE I HAVE RAN A MARATHON!! That makes me sooo mad and irritated. I want him to be able to pick me up and throw around LOL and the stuff that thin women can do and the fun that they have with sex!! I want that! I wanna do the porno movie stuff LOL!!!

Oh yeah girl CONGRATS ON YOUR BAND 2DAY HOPE ALL GOES WELL!!!!

Were you self-pay?? If not which insurance do you have ??

I have always had a very active sex life. I was banded on the 19th of September and have thus far lost 58 lbs as of yesterday ! I have had 1 fill and feel amazing. My honey of four years is so supportive. He has always been complimentary about my body and that has not changed.

His compliments have only increased. Sex is FANTABULOUS! I can get on top now and ride like the cowgirl that I am, lol. Also makes oral(me receiving) so much easier, as my fat stomach is rapidly dissappearing and no longer in the way. Not to mention how much more stamina I have. We can try different positions because we want to not just because they are needed due to my size. Oh and one more thing, he swears things are "tighter" below (lol).:embarassed:

This morning we were snuggling before work and he chukled and said, honey I can feel your ribs and your belly is becoming concave. And you know what--he's right. I can feel a rib or two myself.

One of the things I asked my bariatric coordinators about was sex after surgery, and it seems that very little has been researched about it--as if previously fat people never have or had sex. As a doctoral student I am seriously thinking about writing my dissertation on the subject. What do you guys think ?

T

Were you self-pay?? If not which insurance do you have ??

I am self-pay because I don't have insurance. I am having my band done in Denver, Co by Dr. Kirshenbaum. He is a fantastic doctor and only charges $9950 and that includes the first 3 months of fills. There is a whole thread on him with many of his patients that love him.

I am off to the hospital now, keep me in your prayers.

lololololololololololol omg missmonaaz your story is tooo funny!!! I got a good laugh!! thank you

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU T!!! LOL well I have always been a freak fat or no fat LOL ... But I feel like it's a (Bridget Jones SEX GODDESS) character inside me that wants to really let loose!! But I can't cause I am so fat!! I feel so subconcious during sex its maddening. But I really feeling that T because fat people just kinda don't talk about sex ... you see the thread here was "intimacy" and everyone there talked about how they weren't getting any!! I wanna talk to the people that are still having sex and lots of it and whose happy with their spouses and still gets horny LOL!! SO I am all for that!! I just want to see what my husband sees in me. Like I said before he loves me but I know he would like to pull the FREAK OUT OF ME!! LOL and I want him CAUSE HE DEFINETELY HAS THE RIGHT SIZE MANHOOD(LOL ALL WOMEN THINK THAT ABOUT THEIR MEN BUT HE REALLY DOES) AND HE SO FIT AND SEXY ... OHHH I JUST WANNA EAT HIM ALIVE... OK I HAVE TO GO RING MY UNDIES OUT NOW LOL ... THINK I SOAKED THEM JUST THINKING ABOUT HIM LOL JUST KIDDING ... BUT HE WILL BE HOME FOR CHRISTMAS AND I AM STILL FAT HOPEFULLY THE NEXT TIME I SEE HIM I WILL BE BANDED AND LOST A FEW POUNDS!!

There actually is something out there on the web at least, that is a concise guide to sex for overweight people. It has M&F Overweight, M overweight, F overweight. I've looked at it before, it shows pictures and info on best positions due to bellies in the way and things like that.

I've always been very active in bed, but me on top riding him has always kept me winded. It's his favorite, but I rarely ever do it because like someone else said after 2 minutes my hands cramp from leaning on them and I'm out of breath.

I had to ask a big favor the other day, so I woke him up with this.. and it's been the first time I was on top in a long time, and I was able to last 'all the way' woowoo! I was tired and arms hurt by the end of it, but I could do it. Before, even if I wanted to hold on till the end, I just couldn't do it.

DH says he can tell a difference in sex now with my belly being smaller, when he's on top I guess it's easier for him?

I Bet That Was An Awesome Feeling Laura (lol No Pun Intended) Being Able To Last So Long!! I Can't Wait Til I Can Do That... Men Do Seem To Like Us Being On Top Alot!!

yeah, DH said he likes it because he can just lay back and enjoy.. which makes sense, when I'm on top I get absolutely nothing out of it. I'm sitting there going (in my head of course) 'oh damn my arm arm, my hand, my hand, my legs are cramping, oy oy, hurry up hurry up' I don't notice the sex part lol.

My boyfriend and I have been more experimentative and he says that it "feels better". I do know that I am hornier and less intimidated. I have been a cowgirl (riding) too which is something that I never even attempted to try before with him or in past relationships. I am sure I am hornier because of an increase in hormones but sad thing is that he works so much that he cannot now keep up with my demand.

Here goes....

"Athletic" has been an adjective we've added to describe our mind blowing sex the last few months.

I've always been sexually on, always ready...now my drive is not more pronounced but the sessions typically last longer and we are more inventive.

Life is better in general because my stamina is better. From hauling stuff around the house, to working on my feet, to sleeping more soundly, to having super duper crazy, grab the exercise ball and lay across it sex.

It's all freaking good.

Lmao @ Juli.... The Exercise Ball ... U Go Girl.... Many More Orgasm To U!!! Lol!!!

I can't wait to get back to a more enjoyable bedtime routine. It isn't so much getting winded as having no drive due to my hatred of my body! Hopefully that will change soon!