Others noticing weight loss

[ShoppGirl 3,341]

Last night my husband and I ran into a guy that we used to bowl against when we did league (before COVID made that too much of a risk). He didn’t say anything to me but he went and told my husband right away he barely recognized me. I guess he felt it was inappropriate to say to a female? I was glad that someone noticed and sorta glad that it wasn’t made a big deal of too. So it worked out. I got my reassurance that it is visible without too much attention to make me uncomfortable.

[blackcatsandbaddecisions 844]

It took 75 lbs before I really had my first comment. Then it was non stop. It has luckily slowed down a bit at this point, only because most of the people who felt the need to comment on it have already done so. Thank goodness people are finally getting used to it. But I do still get a few mentions a week, and when I see people for the first time in a few years I will always get comments. I’m currently 163 lbs down.

My favorite is the few comments I’ve gotten from people who will say “have you always been so tall”. I didn’t have a growth spurt in my 40s, guys. But 5’10 looks different at 176 vs 339. Figure it out.

[Esi 179]

It’s happening more nowadays…work, neighbors, etc. Half “you’ve lost some weight “ and half “You look so good!” People who usually don’t talk with me much.

Why is the space that someone takes up so important to others? And why does anyone need to comment on someone else’s body?

And if I look “great” now, what did they think of my image a year ago?

I realize that some people thrive on these types of comments, and I am glad that they are helping. But do these comments make anyone else uncomfortable and a bit irritated?

[vikingbeast 985]

So now that I'm down a significant amount of weight, I get more people telling me I look younger. Maybe because my face isn't all stretched out?

I also notice that people are much nicer to thinner people than they are to fatter people. That annoys me (I am still the same person!) but it's just bizarre. Someone flirted with me the other day and it took me a while to realize it was flirtation.

[Summermoose 193]

On 11/03/2021 at 04:43, Esi said:

It’s happening more nowadays…work, neighbors, etc. Half “you’ve lost some weight “ and half “You look so good!” People who usually don’t talk with me much.

Why is the space that someone takes up so important to others? And why does anyone need to comment on someone else’s body?

And if I look “great” now, what did they think of my image a year ago?

I realize that some people thrive on these types of comments, and I am glad that they are helping. But do these comments make anyone else uncomfortable and a bit irritated?

I totally get where you’re coming from.. I also get uncomfortable because I hate knowing they’re looking at me and ‘sizing me up’ because I still feel super big, but it really depends on who is commenting. If it’s a random someone I would rather they just keep their thoughts to themselves, but I really do like when friends or family compliment me ☺️

[Elahnen 183]

I think people notice, but are quicker to comment on the negatives then the positives unfortunately! If they don’t notice my weight loss yet at 60lbs I like to think they notice my confidence gain lol.