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It just isn't moving like I thought. Surgery weight 266, current weight 237, almost 30lbs, about a week out from 3 months. It's going so slow 😭. So I've recently upped my Water and my cardio (doing 40 min a day 5 times a week) eating less than 800 a day, usually around 700, sometimes give or take. Always less than 25 net carbs for the day. I've only lost 3 lbs this month. Any advice? I'm really eating pretty right, 90% Protein the rest veggies, yogurt, string cheese, making good choices. Maybe calories need to go back to 500?

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So sorry you are struggling at this time, but don't get discouraged. Everyone losses at their own pace. I checked my journal and at where you are I had lost 32lbs and I remember feeling the exact same way. Your body might take a drop that last week too. I lost during 1 week to 10 days of the month, instead of a slow steady decline which always freaked me out but it always happened when I followed my plan.

You may even want to try bumping calories up 100 to see if that might get ya going too. Sometimes to few calories may make your body hold on tighter, at least that is what I was told. I would ask the Dr. or whomever is doing your food plan just to make sure. Good luck to you !

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Everyone loses at a different pace and to be honest... last month I had a two week stall and then another one that lasted a week so I lost about the same last month (about 3 or 4 pounds). But overall since surgery I've lost 66 pounds in 4 months. My diet varies day to day but on average I get between 600-800 calories, which according to my nutritionist is normal for four months post op. Or even three months for that matter. You've lost 30 pounds in 3 months. That's a success in my book!

Oddly enough the strangest things have made me feel successful even when I was really down about the stalls. I went to the ER last week and could fit into a regular gown (I always had to request the plus sized ones because the regular ones wouldn't fit my arms and they wouldn't even cover HALF of me!) I almost cried lol. And for the first time since I was a TEENAGER (I'm 32) the blood pressure cuff was able to go on my upper arm! It always had to be on my forearm before! All I'm saying is not to stress yourself out! My primary said if you stress about your weight it actually comes off slower because stress causes hormones that slow your weight loss. So look at the little successes and Celebrate them, but try not to focus on the little things. Heck, maybe you're putting muscle on as you lose fat? Muscle weighs more than fat so... the scale wouldn't exactly be an accurate accessment.

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39 minutes ago, MsMocie said:

But, fat will be lost quciker by adding a little more carbs (yes, I said carbs)

Damn, you said Jehova carbs!

Fat burns in the fire of carbohydrates. 🔥

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It sounds like you are doing everything right and just need to say the course. I will say that your diet is far more important than exercise for your weight loss, and I don't think you need to be terribly concerned about exercising daily if you are doing the food right.

My weight off came of very quickly, which was wonderful at the time. I reached goal weight in about six months and found it difficult to stop losing weight, which was truly bizarre. As a result, I had a very tough time transitioning to maintenance. Slow and steady wins the race!

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Everyone is different been said above. But you may want to spend just a little money and get a Nutritionist to help mix up your diet. You body is sayin F@#ck No i want to keep it, You are saying Nope gotta go!

So let the battle begin - I would mix up the Carbs and calories different each week. I did it and it really worked, I had a Nutra person to lead me.

Sunday - Sunday next week - Go real low calories, 900 or less, As much Water as you can, Up your cabs 10%

Sunday - Sunday following week - 1100 calories mostly veggies but Higher Protein - lower water

Sunday - Sunday 3 rd week - Intermingling fasting, All protein low calories Low carbs

You get the point you are changing your calories, carbs and Proteins each week to trick your body into burning, The fasting was a key for me broke everything free

Good luck stay focused you will win this battle

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I lost very slowly also but I got there. After 5 months or so I really cleaned up my diet, same amount of calories 700-800 range. I cut back on processed foods and limited any starchy type carbs. I also joined a gym and started working out 5 days a week and that really helped. It was still slower than most people and it got frustrating at times.

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I started lower than you. But like you, I'm almost 3 months out and only lost 30 lbs - 4 in the past month. Super frustrating! But we will just keep at it, eh?

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34 minutes ago, rjan said:

I started lower than you. But like you, I'm almost 3 months out and only lost 30 lbs - 4 in the past month. Super frustrating! But we will just keep at it, eh?

Hi Rjan☺️! We had surgery same day, 3/11/20 and trust me, I’ve had the thoughts and feelings you describe. It’s weird, because prior to WLS I could NOT lose 10lbs to save my life. It was a perpetual struggle. So in that sense, that we’ve lost 30-some pounds in only 11 weeks feels Wonderful! Amazing! Many people take a whole year to lose 30 lbs and even that is rare, so we’ve done it in 11 weeks!

For me, I believe it was a preconceived notion that weight would come off easier and faster💃. I also don’t think one can truly be aware of the changes we go through postop in such a totally different life (menu wise) from what we had known for so long, for basically what got us into trouble. We’ve been good postop, we’ve been diligent, SURELY we should be further along, right? That was my thinking till past several days and re-reading many veterans posts who talk about their slow loss as well, but they made it!🏆And in the big scheme of things does it matter if it takes an extra month to get to where we’re DETERMINED to Arrive?

My head plays games with me like “Oh, I think the loss is slowing down from first few weeks, Oh, I bet this will be it, I will only lose 2 lbs a month for the next year”. But that is my negative self talk playing tapes of futility and failure over and over in my head till it drags me down. NOT gonna give in to that!

It’s exciting to BELIEVE that if we KEEP FOLLOWING OUR PLAN WE WILL ACHIEVE THE GOALS WE DESIRE! I’m NOT letting the negative self talk hyjack my plans! Not, Not, Not Gonna do that!

Hang in....We’ve GOT THIS!💝

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Thanks for the encouragement! My head is definitely playing games with me, Lilly66. 😋 I've been stalled for about 2.5 weeks. The weight I am now is almost exactly the lowest weight I ever was in my adult life - I reached it about 17 years ago after about 5 months of dieting. I stalled there for months and months, and then of course ended up gaining from there. I worked so hard, both before and during the stall, and it was so disappointing. I'm sure many of us have had similar dieting traumas that are hard to forget!

I'm sure it's not an accident that this is the weight I've stalled at again - my body is apparently pretty comfortable here. Part of me is telling myself that I actually would be fairly happy if I could maintain at this weight - I just crossed from obese to overweight, my blood sugar has improved and I don't feel hungry all the time like I did before surgery, and my joint pain has improved somewhat. Those are not small achievements! But of course another part of me really wants to just reach a normal weight, and I don't want to "waste" the surgery.

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🥰That’s another negative tape that plays in my mind, too! “You’re losing so much slower than these other people and you’re on your way to wasting this surgery”!!!

We’re not wasting a dog gone thing, Rjan!I 😅l love what Cheeseburgh shared with us above—-that around 5 months she really tightened things up, avoided processed foods, kicked up exercise, etc. And we’re not even 3 months in yet!

Our first month was just recovering, so we’re only 7 weeks beyond that! I’m really just now feeling more energy, pretty well figuring out what I can eat, what sets well with me and sustains the energy I need, which foods give me the most nutritional bang for the buck, and which don’t. Which foods/routines may be contributing to my Constipation issue😩! We’re getting better and better at this.👍.

So really? We’re just NOW getting our groove going!! We can take it from here, kick it up, smile at and love ourselves and log in here WHENEVER we need a pick me up!

We’re NOT gonna waste this surgery!! So not!!!💪💝😃👏

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