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9 hours ago, theexfatgirl said:

I am 8 days post op and I’m over it!!! I haven’t been getting in my Protein. I am craving food and can’t eat crap. For all of this I would rather stay fat!

Aww I wish I could give you a big hug right now 😢 I believe we've all had buyers remorse after this surgery... it's a real thing lol I'm 8 months post op and my first 5 months were tough. I can truly say I've been through the fire. It gets better over time. Your stomach has to heal, so take it slow... experiment with foods and drinks. I found Premier Protein shakes to be good eventhough some surgeons don't want us to drink it (something about concentrate version). I did what worked for me and I survived 😁🙌 This is a MENTAL journey and it will get better. Good luck lady 🤗

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This liquids-only early-recovery period won't last long compared to the rest of your life. I can't remember who said "This too shall pass", but it kept me going during the early days. When I did switch to solids, I found that just a small amount made me feel full, so I had to use distraction techniques instead of eating - reading, jigsaws, computer games, drawing, walking, repairing clothes, needlework, painting - anything that kept my fingers out of the fridge!

Remember that this is the hardest time, but you will become accustomed to the changes. Best of luck!

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I definitely relate...Just had bypass on October 1. I wanted the sleeve for me and so did my primary but my surgeon said I needed the bypass because I was over 300 lbs. The sleeve is for smaller people he said. The bypass is known for it's complications which is why I didn't want it and of course...I got the complications. I've had so many complications and you can prepare all you want mentall and with psych appointments but nothing "really" prepares you for this. Yes, I miss real food. I'm also looosing sooo slow. Here is the thing, I already did this to myself and now I guess I need to make the best of it. This surgery landed me in the hospital 2 weeks later. Thank god I had insurance I saw those bills. $85,000.00 for the hospital on the surgery and $35,000.00 for the 2nd hosptial visit were there was a tear in where the doctor sewed me up. Sorry to digress getting off topic. But hang in there and know you are not the only one. xo - Panda

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You are crashing but STOP - Read my long post in my history. Unfortunate you were not ready for this. However you can recover easy. I crashed hard also. Get your head fixed and you have to move forward, The fix is there and once you get your head on straight the rest will come.

I crashed just has hard or harder feel free to read my post, It is ugly I fully understand. Take a breath get help and get the train on the tracks,

Dont worry about the freakin Protein and Water, Just chill and let Nature take its course, You are wasting to much time obsessed about those silly things, Yes you need them but you need your mental health in line as a priority.

Reach out and read my long post a week or so ago. I also Screwed up and was not ready mentally, I fixed it and you will also, Then this will be the best decision of your life

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I hope you feel better soon. This surgery is a huge adjustment. Huge! This stage will pass. I’m brushing my teeth 8 times a day to get past the bad breath. At 5 weeks, I’m in the happy stage of weightloss. I struggled so much the last 5 years with weight. I’m raising my glass of Water to you “cheers”.

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As @GreenTealael said, the only way through it is through it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Right now THE most important thing is liquid. Get your Water in. Get up early if you need to in order to accomplish this. It's vital to your health and can quickly land you in the ER if you don't. Plus the bonus is, the more hydrated you keep your new tool, the easier time you will have in your Protein Drinks.

Tips for getting your Protein and water in:

  1. Vary the temperature and find the one your pouch prefers the most. That's the temp of both protein and water (both count towards Fluid totals for the day) where things go down easiest with the least pain.
  2. Vary the thickness of your protein and water to find the thickness that is the easiest to go through your tool. The thinnest would be water, the thickest would be like a Premier Protein RTD drink or cream Soup. I had the best results by cutting PP RTD drinks with things like Decaf coffee, decaff tea, water, unsweetened cashew or almond milk, fat free Fairlife or other Protein Milk, etc.
  3. Vary the strength of your protein to find a sweetness level that you tolerate. I did best with a 50/50 mix of PP RTD and Isopure Drinks also Premier Protein Clear mixed with fluids that cut the sweetness such as fat free Fairlife Milk or Mootopia (adds protein from the milk), decaff coffee, decaff tea, water.
  4. Add unflavored whey protein to Soups, both broths and strained creamed soups. This gives a savory protein option. Also BP Store here has lots of lovely individually packaged protein soups. Use fat free Fairlife or Protein Milk to thin soups too, for even more protein.
  5. Make yogurt soup using Premier Protein RTD drinks mixed with Greek yogurt or Kefir (both fat free).

For the first week or so don't worry too much about your protein. Focus on getting a minimum of 64oz of liquid made up from water, decaff coffee, decaff tea, protein drinks, warm cocoa (sf protein style), popsicles (sf), ice chips, whatever you need to function.

The last tip I have for you is that we all have an individual level of emotional maturity. Temper tantrums and rants are sometimes necessary to vent emotions but left unchecked can be detrimental. Not only to you but to your immediate peers in a support group. I found that when I took my power back and seized action by reframing the situation, my mood and outlook improved. The energy drain was stopped. And the future looked brighter and more hopeful. I would really encourage you to take your control back and plan your actions for success. It truly helps.

Hope you feel better soon.

Oh and don't forget to walk! Walk it off. Walk walk walk. It helps with the hunger, helps with mood, helps with strength.

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10 hours ago, theexfatgirl said:

That is so awesome for you!! You still replying on my post tho. Get off of it!

No need for you to be an ass. With an attitude like this you're bound for failure after this surgery. He made a good/correct point - did you see any type of mental health professional before the surgery?

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12 hours ago, al0vely said:

Just curious - are you having complications that prevent you from getting in the Protein. Are you on shakes?

I am having surgery on the 13th ... this post is an eye opener.

Don't worry about it, we seem to get trolls around here that complain a lot. Yes, some people have issues but if you're mentally prepared you'll do fine!

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6 minutes ago, lvidacovich said:

Don't worry about it, we seem to get trolls around here that complain a lot. Yes, some people have issues but if you're mentally prepared you'll do fine!

No one or nothing can prepare you for what’s to come. You just have to go through it. I only spoke my mind and if you can not offer positive support, go on to the next post. It’s simple.

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1 minute ago, theexfatgirl said:

No one or nothing can prepare you for what’s to come. You just have to go through it. I only spoke my mind and if you can not offer positive support, go on to the next post. It’s simple.

I don't want one over-reactionary post scaring someone one of surgery. Just offering opinions on both sides.

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16 hours ago, theexfatgirl said:

I am 8 days post op and I’m over it!!! I haven’t been getting in my Protein. I am craving food and can’t eat crap. For all of this I would rather stay fat!

Stick with it, you can do this. It will get better, and you will not even remember this very very short period in your overall recovery.

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3 hours ago, theexfatgirl said:

No one or nothing can prepare you for what’s to come. You just have to go through it. I only spoke my mind and if you can not offer positive support, go on to the next post. It’s simple.

Sorry you are experiencing your reality. But I don't share your reality.

My team over the 6 months leading up to the surgery prepared me FULLY. And I did my due-diligence to learn what I needed to do to take responsibility for my mood, emotions, and well being. I did this by research, reading and talking with many, many, many people here and on other sites to help me deal with expectations.

I was not blindsided by one single thing--including how tough it is in the first few days. My team warned me about the temporary buyers' remorse many patients seem to experience. They did not expect my recovery to be difficult. In fact, they told me I was over-dramatizing the expectations--that it would be so so so easy. It was. I kept questioning if I really had surgery.

Actually the ONLY thing I wasn't prepared for was for how frickin' dickin' easy it was to recover from this surgery. But I also worked my a*s off pre-surgery for 6 months getting rid of habits, breaking up with foods that had their hold on me, and was low carb, caffeine free, booze free, stimulant free...so recovery was not also a time of detoxing.

I never once had any regret. I just felt this ENORMOUS feeling of gratitude to have the opportunity to reclaim my life and get rid of the pain and suffering from being diseased and super MO.

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16 hours ago, theexfatgirl said:

I will be glad when I progress to real food. Right now it’s just horrible.

Just a premonition..... your going to be whinner and complainer.... you won't do well. If you can't take a few days, how the heck are you going to do the rest of your life?

Your going to be one in a few years saying.... WLS didn't work and will be looking for another WLS and you will fail at that too.

Just saying what MOST everyone else is thinking.

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