Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I read up a lot on post op depression, I’m only four days preop but I feel like I’m in the muck of it. My significant other is seeming to have a lot of challenges with my new focus. Everything has been very difficult with numerous nods on how selfish I’m being. I feel like an impending doom is after me no matter how positive I’m really trying to be. On the topic of being selfish I’ve had to be home obviously recovering and haven’t been able to help out to much at home. I have been super exhausted these last couple days I’m not sure if that’s atypical ethier. For most I’ve made some boundaries at home with good, such as keeping it in the kitchen and being vocal on when seeing someone else eat junk (McDonald’s,sonic,anything ubereats) upsetting me and removing myself. I try not to be so black and white but all this turmoil is just making me feel more lost than ever.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Trust me the weight will start coming off and the energy level will increase. ONCE YOU recognize the true benefits of having the surgery for yourself and how it's going to improve your mental and physical being. All the side chatter won't mean a thing. Stay focus and strong...remember you got this.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, pudge.vsg said:

I read up a lot on post op depression, I’m only four days preop but I feel like I’m in the muck of it. My significant other is seeming to have a lot of challenges with my new focus. Everything has been very difficult with numerous nods on how selfish I’m being. I feel like an impending doom is after me no matter how positive I’m really trying to be. On the topic of being selfish I’ve had to be home obviously recovering and haven’t been able to help out to much at home. I have been super exhausted these last couple days I’m not sure if that’s atypical ethier. For most I’ve made some boundaries at home with good, such as keeping it in the kitchen and being vocal on when seeing someone else eat junk (McDonald’s,sonic,anything ubereats) upsetting me and removing myself. I try not to be so black and white but all this turmoil is just making me feel more lost than ever.

Sorry you are having such a hard time right now. It takes awhile to get your energy back and recover from this surgery. (it took me about a month) I insisted no junk food in the house and if they wanted to eat that stuff do it at work ect, at least in the beginning. I didn't want to see it and I don't see how that is selfish, its not like they cant eat it, just somewhere else until you get on a good track and know what your doing. Try to focus on how much better you are going to feel when the weight starts coming off. The depression will subside . Good luck

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I know the feeling. The first 2 months were the worst and i regretted my surgery every second of everyday and everytime id go to someone to complain about my decision like my husband would say" this is what you wanted you did this to your self." It made me soo mad. My hubby the first 2months got in the habit of eatting tv dinners or going to get food for him and the kids. I was ok with sitting at the table while they ate there hapoy meals and i ate some grilled fish it sucked but at the same time smells change after surgery i wasnt tempted by alot of food till the second month. Anyways its hard what were going through and you gotta stay strong and focus on ur weight loss. It was amazing the energy i got back and everything is getting better with no more regret.

I hope ur husband learns that the first 2months u need his love and support and him saying ur being selfish he can go kiss it! This surgery was not the easy way out it take alot of patients and the will to keep goingneeds to be strong. U deserve to focus on u right now .. best of luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sad to hear that you are having a rough time. Definitely consider two things (if you can): get a personal counselor (I had one a little before my surgery) and find a support group (ask NUT team or surgeon's office--people go before and after the surgery). I went through a mild downer about the 3rd week. I think it was withdrawal from alcohol, caffeine, food, everything!). I also work from home, so I am sitting looking at walls ALL day or food commercials! I am 6 weeks post-op and can go to fit classes and it is helping me to be around people. Keep your head up! I love also watching Dr. Voung's videos on YouTube and he keeps me going.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've had the lap band and not gastric sleeve so I thought that I wouldn't experience a lot of this, but I did. I was full of doubt the first several weeks and wondered if I was crazy. My husband had to "adjust" and I told him I would not sit at the table and watch him eat, nor would I fix his dinner. After 47 years of marriage, it was about time he figured it out. I'm now about 6 weeks out and I'm excited about the future weight loss and he is excited because he can feed himself. I never liked the food he liked and only ate it because that was what was fixed. We have a truce. Every once in a while he asks if I'm doing ok and I tell him I'm fine although I have to say when I've had really serious surgery he has been there for me. Hang in there it will get better. Men just don't like being inconvenienced. By the way, this time should be all about you. Don't feel guilty.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Recent Topics

  • Most popular:

  • Recent Status Updates

    • BoredCW

      Still stalled. Hating every week of it. 
      I'm in that "I must be doing something wrong, I won't lose any more weight" mode of thinking.
      Hating everything about myself dull drums. If it wasn't for the stress of work, i'd probably be more upset.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Krestel

      Yesterday I discovered stretchy pants. It was the first time that I walked into a normal store and dared to try on clothes in over many many years. Scary, but I found some guy chinos that I liked. I was even able to wear women's sizes even though the legs were wayyyyy too short.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • CrowLuv

      Down 31 pounds in my first month! OK, so a month and two days, but I'm counting it anyway. 😆
      At this point, I'm doing well overall. According to surgeons' instructions, I'm on soft foods for another week-ish. I'm so ready for solids - the soft foods can be such "sliders" and I have to be extra, extra careful.
      For example, my refried beans + dollop of plain Greek yogurt + tomatillo salsa verde became a problem. I never felt satisfied and felt I could have easily had a much bigger serving. Then, far worse was when I made homemade hummus - holy cow it is SO GOOD, but again - felt like I could have downed a quart, no problem. 😂
      It's (for me at least) extremely challenging to "eat mindfully" when the food is that soft. I mean for crying out loud, there's nothing to "chew on"! 😂
      So, couple of days ago - I committed to no more refried beans and no more hummus. Farewell my delicious friends. Going to focus on chicken and tuna and eggs for the time being (ground up til mushy, of course). 
      I'm hoping that once I get the go-ahead to introduce solids I will be able to feel the restriction. Because honestly? I'm only a month in, and I feel NO restriction. It's frustrating, but not the end of the world. Willpower was never my problem. But I'm so looking forward to that feeling I hear a lot on here when people say "Oh I ate half an egg and was SO STUFFED." This has....not been my experience. 😕
      Really hoping that's because my foods are so mushy/soft right now. We shall see. 
      Regardless, I'm 100 percent committed. I hear over and over how this tool is the most powerful for about a year, maybe/possibly a wee bit more. I will not sabotage that for the world. 
      So - doing my happy dance at 31 pounds down - I'm in a "weight decade" I haven't seen in a very long time. And it only gets better from here! 
      · 3 replies
      1. Bastian

        Fantastic! Well done on the beans and hummus restriction, :D :141_dancer:

      2. ms.sss

        Excellent attitude! I foresee great success in your future :)

      3. CrowLuv

        Thanks y'all, I really appreciate the encouragement! :)

    • veisor  »  Panda333

      Hi!
      Thank you for replying.   It means the world to me.  It also confirmed what I been feeling about which procedure to choose.   I fall into the category as you do and elected the sleeve as it seemed to be less invasive and recovery would be better and faster,  however I am so afraid to regain the weight back since I rarely eat and obesity runs in my family.   I have two siblings that had the bypass and they have been successful.  My sister was in the high 400's and is about 140 now and has been for several years since her procedure.  I guess I felt that the sleeve would allow me to have more control, however I realized that I can't control my genetics and that is one of the biggest reasons that I am here.  Yes, I have not always made the best choices but trust me when I say that I have been on the loss and regain + more rollercoaster weight ride for yrs! I have spent so much money as I am sure you have as well as many others who are going through this.  It is not easy and anyone who thinks this is a copout is crazy!!! This has been harder than anything I have done including hiring a personal trainer to kick my butt in the gym! And still with all the gym hours, clean eating "not to mention the clean eating cost" I knew it was time that I moved to the next step to finally be who I know in my head and heart cause when I see myself in the mirror,  well let's just say is not the girl I see in my mind. 
      So thanks again for your reply and I hope that we can keep in touch through our journey. 
      😊
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • AggiG

      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Trending Topics

  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs
    ×