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Keep pressing on. It gets better and better. I am so glad for your encouraging weight loss.

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On 6/13/2019 at 9:16 AM, BlueAngelEyes said:

Im what you call a debbie downer! I had my surgery may31st and regret every day i wish i wouldnt of done it. I didnt do all the research i should of just listened to the docters counceling class. Major mistake wish i would have never done this. Maybe it will change when im thin and wearing fun pretty clothes and feel sexy again but for now my attitude is it sucks!!

Can I ask what specifically is causing the regret? I’m still on the fence so I genuinely want to know - no judgment.

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On 7/3/2019 at 11:57 AM, CrystalV said:

I didn’t have much pain. But emotionally and mentally I am in horrific agony. I regret this decision so much.

Prayer for you to feel better soon!

What part is bothering you, if you don’t mind me asking.

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6 hours ago, Carrunda webb said:

I hope I dont get depression I hope that I can go through with it why do you regret it.

I have depression and anxiety and see a psychiatrist and the surgery didn't make it worse. If anything, I am a lot happier.

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Me Too -----Jess Less-----Me Too!

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Have never regretted having the surgery. Probably one of the best decisions I've ever made.

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I had my remorse the day after when I was throwing up and miserable. Once that stopped I was happy with the surgery % five years later, a hundred pounds down I don’t regret anything.

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I can honestly say that I have never regretted the surgery.

Those early days are a little tough as you recover from surgery. You'll have pain and there is an adjustment period while you redefine your relationship with food. As you move through the food stages, there's anxiety about making sure you have met your nutritional goals, but really after a while that all sort of settles into a normal groove.

For me, the hardest part was changing my relationship with food. As my father says "we don't eat to live, we live to eat". That no longer worked for me. Food was no longer my coping mechanism. I had to start making decisions about food based on nutritional value and not only the pleasure it provides. I went through a period where I felt a little sorry for myself that I could no longer indulge in the holiday or special occasion eat-fests. But you know what? The holidays came and went. I never felt deprived and never felt like I was missing out. If anything, I felt better. I was no longer hostage to food. I ate what I wanted, only in smaller quantities and it was much easier to get back on track after my holiday indulgences vs in the past where I'd still be binging on holiday treats long after the holiday was over.

My advice: if you're really struggling with your decision and your future gives you anxiety, reach out to a mental health professional. Get counseling to help you work through it.

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