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I haven't dated in YEARS. I met someone I'm really interested in and our mutual activity ends tomorrow. Basically, he was standing outside alone before lunch and I went up to him and said something to the effect of “I’m going to make an ass of myself, but if you'd like to do something after all of this is over, give me a call.” He graciously said thanks and that he’d see me tomorrow. He was pretty cool about it all (although we'll see how awkward tomorrow is). Pretty sure he won’t call, but that’s ok. Just proud that I did it. I haven't been that forward with a guy since high school. In some ways, its better if he doesn't call - I'd be like the dog that actually catches her tail - what the heck would I do next. I've been out of the game for at least a decade at this point!

But, in the end, I actually feel good that I did it, even if nothing comes of it.

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Short lived victory. A friend was talking to him today and he said something about "we're buying a house". She asked a few probing questions and dragged out of him (her words, not mine) that he's married with a kid. No ring. In the several weeks we've been together every day for the activity, he's never mentioned a wife or kid. Oh well, so I made an ass of myself. At least he was cool about it. Although I wish HE'd just told me about the wife.

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You deserve so much more than him; after all, if he cheats on his wife and child, he would think nothing of cheating on you also.
You are a beautiful person, you have come through so much already in your weight journey, you deserve someone to walk by your side, be proud of everything you have done and are doing, and treats you like the valuable treasure you are! Don't get warts from kissing too many toads and frogs, you deserve much higher in the food chain than them! Believe in YOU and be true to YOU!

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On 3/21/2019 at 5:17 PM, notmyname said:

I haven't dated in YEARS. I met someone I'm really interested in and our mutual activity ends tomorrow. Basically, he was standing outside alone before lunch and I went up to him and said something to the effect of “I’m going to make an ass of myself, but if you'd like to do something after all of this is over, give me a call.” He graciously said thanks and that he’d see me tomorrow. He was pretty cool about it all (although we'll see how awkward tomorrow is). Pretty sure he won’t call, but that’s ok. Just proud that I did it. I haven't been that forward with a guy since high school. In some ways, its better if he doesn't call - I'd be like the dog that actually catches her tail - what the heck would I do next. I've been out of the game for at least a decade at this point!

But, in the end, I actually feel good that I did it, even if nothing comes of it.

GOOD FOR YOU FOR A LEAST STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND MAKING AN ATTEMPT AT YOU FUTURE WE ALL HAVE DONE THAT WITH OUR SURGERIES AND NOW YOU HAVE TAKEN IT A LITTLE FUTHER GOOD JOB!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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