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Both my mother and grandmother had gastric bands, my.nan is now underweight after losing over 10 stone. Unfortunately my mom got pneumonia after the op and had to have it removed , she's still easily 150lbs overweight. All the men in my family are 6 foot+ beanpoles. My husband is an ex professional athlete and fortunately, it looks like my boy is carrying the care free male torch! My husband doesn't really want me to go through with my sleeve op, but he's still supportive because he sees how unhappy i am

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On 3/14/2019 at 4:36 PM, FluffySaysForkIt! said:

(The slender jerk! LOL!) biggest cheerleader always willing to restructure our meals etc.

@FluffySaysForkIt!

hey newbie

ahhhhh, yet another wifey whose hub is normal (at least his weight!!)☺️

grateful for him?, he thinks the same too, back at ya.

motivation et al for you - sounds nice, yes he is a keeper.

good luck

kathy

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On 3/14/2019 at 7:55 PM, ms.sss said:

Mr. and kid are trim, fit athlete-types, eat whatever they want and with no issue *rolls eyes*.

@ms.sss

wow, nice healthy good lookin' family glad they are all supportive

must be hard to keep up with them, but you are catching up:)

look at you go!!

kathy

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On 3/14/2019 at 8:24 PM, insta_adventurer said:

Never had nearly the weight issue I did.

@insta_adventurer

sounds like you have quite the interesting family!

you are doing great, maybe DH can try and catch up with you!☺️

take care

kathy

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On 3/14/2019 at 8:28 PM, DanaC84 said:

Hubs could probably stand to lose a few

@DanaC84

you two can tip threw the tulips, hand in hand getting rid of some of that weight ☺️

kathy

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On 3/14/2019 at 10:57 PM, AngieBear said:

Hubby normal BMI.

@AngieBear

Ahhhhh, various weights in your family too!!

I'm sure hubby is supportive of you.☺️

kathy

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8 minutes ago, proudgrammy said:

@DanaC84

you two can tip threw the tulips, hand in hand getting rid of some of that weight ☺️

kathy

Yep!! I’m looking forward to being able to go with him in his bass boat again. My lack of balance as I’ve gotten heavy scares me trying to get in and out

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20 hours ago, NYJenn said:

My husband works out like crazy and then comes home and eats 8 Girl Scout Cookies.

@NYJenn

i would shoot your DH!!! Enough is enough!!. Able to eat those girl scout cookies! he has his nerve🤣

i am drooling of the thought of Peanut Butter savanas (msp)

Kathy

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18 hours ago, Hop_Scotch said:

mother and sisters have put on weight, lose well and keep the weight off for long periods. None of the males in my family have been overweight.

@Hop_Scotch

hey there Aussie - nice to hear from another country (do you have Outback ?)☺️

never fair about those males who have never been overweight.

Ex-boyfriends? hmmm - they don't count - that's why there called Ex🤣

kathy

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18 hours ago, Pippa1703 said:

mother and grandmother had gastric bands, my.nan is now underweight - . Unfortunately mom got pneumonia after the op and had to have it removed, mom easily 150lbs overweight. men in family 6 foot+ beanpoles, supportive because he sees how unhappy i am

@Pippa1703

waving to England☺️

you have an interesting family. Mixture of all. DH, 6 ft tall - i'm sure you look up to him at all times!!

glad hubby is on board now.

good luck in a couple of weeks with sleeve.

speedy recovery

kathy

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My boyfriend is 6'2" and weights 180lbs. He eats only when he is hungry and does eat fast food. He works for FedEx so he is quite active. My boys are 21, and 23, daughter 9 and they are all skinny. I've always been health conscious but often fell off the wagon. My heavest is 260lbs and lowest 145lb

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6 hours ago, SusieQ2019 said:

My boyfriend is 6'2" and weights 180lbs. My boys are 21, and 23, daughter 9 and they are all skinny.

@SusieQ2019

must be hard dealing with so "little" of your family - don't worry i know you'll catchup (or mustard)☺️

good luck

kathy

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Ex H and children are marvels of physical forms. Funny my daughters have some of my physical structural features. But when I was overweight i never saw them.

New BF is fine - *maybe, maybe* slightly a little heavy for his frame but he thinks its more of a problem more than i do or a doctor would but idk. I support his efforts to lose or whatever the plan. So he likes to eat like me 😉 such a burden lifted

Funny to ponder on these things now.

Edited by GreenTealael

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Thank you Proudgrammy. I also meant to say that by boyfriend does not eat fast food.

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On 3/18/2019 at 12:46 PM, proudgrammy said:

@NYJenn

i would shoot your DH!!! Enough is enough!!. Able to eat those girl scout cookies! he has his nerve🤣

i am drooling of the thought of Peanut Butter savanas (msp)

Kathy

I'm stronger then tagalongs ...it's all good

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