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I swear it’s largely psychological. I’ve got a job similar to SillyKitty’s and my stomach doesn’t WANT that much food, my brain does. Recognizing that and talking to a therapist about how to handle that emotional eater side will help.

Personally I’ve teamed up with a coworker who knows about my surgery and splits meals with me a lot. I went out a few nights ago and ended up getting sliders (two his, half of one mine), a diet soda (half abandoned) and onion rings (ate two). My stomach genuinely doesn’t want more than that, but I’m also not feeling deprived about it either. I’m still hanging out with people and still participating, and no one thinks I’m weird.

One thing that MIGHT be part of this for you: are you missing being drunk? Or buzzed? People behave differently when buzzed and it can feel awkward to be the sober, inhibited person who is suddenly aware of how everyone else is behaving while drunk. If you’re missing the uninhibited feeling of drinking and eating to match, then again that’s a psychological thing that will be hard to counter on your own. Talk to a professional. It’s a lifestyle change you can do, but will require some brain rewiring on your part.

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I thought it was better to bump an old thread than start a new one? I really did myself in at my office holiday party last night. I know it's too soon for me to be drinking alcohol and it's just empty calories. I thought I couldn't face the prospect of an over four-hour office party without one. I had had one drink at home previously to see how I would react and I had a drink at the party. Both times I didn't get a pleasant buzz but this morning I have a massive hangover. I'm putting the booze back on the shelf for a LONG time.

I also ate too much. I was so proud of Thanksgiving and restaurant outings that I felt confident I could just have a little. I had half a jumbo shrimp, which now tastes hella weird to me and gave the rest to my husband. Then a little salad, a couple bites of baked potato, and part of a piece of salmon. It was way too much. I wish I had thrown up last night because it is all still with me and I need to get up, dressed, and go to work feeling stuffed and hungover. I know better than this. This was not worth it.

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Sideeye the saying is: Your mind keeps writing checks your boxy can't cash. My mind tries to tell me, you're over 3 months past surgery, YOU CAN surely eat that variety of food, but with my ulcers and pouch stenosis I really can't, and urping is NO Fun. Finally I have had to cycle back, let the TPN sustain me and only take by mouth the liquids and runny purees it can handle. And trust I will heal before long. But I was a prideful beast, I didn't have red hair for nothing. And I remember my paternal grandfather, his saying was: Them that don't listen. got to feel. My 2 bariatric doctors did give me good advice after all.👈😕👉

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BODY, after we lose our weight we are no longer shaped like a📦 box, or worse a shipping crate!

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On 10/27/2018 at 6:11 PM, Oct517 said:

Sleeved 10/2. Have always been an extrovert who loves going out with friends, going to parties, bars, clubs, etc. but ever since I've been sleeved all these experiences have sucked. Not being able to eat or drink while everyone around me is is not fun at all. How did you guys cope with this?

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I eat so slowly that I finish my few bites the same time they wolf down their entire meals. I am not a big drinker, so going to a bar during the day has been a non-issue... I just have Water. I probably won't go to clubs or anything anymore because I am an introvert and HAVE to drink to feel comfortable partying. But since I don't really like going anyways, I don't really care. Looking forward to doing outdoors things with friends instead, movies, hiking, shopping, or still eating out, etc. If your friends don't want to do other things with you than eff them... they aren't real friends.

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