I've just seen a surgeon for an initial consultation about getting a bypass and he was positive and set me on the track for it. My first appointment with the dietitian is tomorrow and I'm scared to death.

I've had very negative experiences with dietitians for a very long time now. I've been overweight since I was very young, so I have been interfacing with dietary consultants from the age of 10 or so. It always seemed to go the same -- the dietitian was rigid. When I tried to explain about my inability to swallow certain foods or how stress and tiredness from my life circumstances meant that food prep was too hard, I got the same 'tough s***' response. One was also a personal trainer and pushed me so hard I ended throwing up after one gym session, and feeling faint on the treadmill at another (I was fourteen at the time, and didn't realise that this was bad for me).

I'm worried that this dietitian will be the same -- that there will be no flexibility and no understanding or sympathy for my issues. From my initial reading and discussion with the surgeon, there is a low-carb/high protein diet recommended on the bypass. This is the diet I feel good eating at the moment, but sometimes my circumstances mean that things slip up.

For example, when I wake up in the morning I'm too groggy to brace myself to eat 300g of yhogurt and fruit/nuts (what I need to feel full currently) -- so I need to add in a couple of slices of toast so I don't feel like I'm forcing food down my throat. And if I'm just off a stint of nightshifts and seriously sleep deprived, the best I can do is a microwave curry from Marks and Spencers.

I have a hope that some of that would go away after the surgery -- because it would be possible to actually feel full after 100g of yhogurt and a bit of fruit and nuts (or less? more?), and not need to eat again for another four hours. But I don't feel guilty for having slices of toast and things like that, after all my diet has been a /lot/ worse over the years and I've finally found a balance between whats healthy and what's do-able that it's taken me so long to find.

Terrified the dietitian is only going to hear that I still have some carb in a day, and not hear that I've improved that massively from eating pancakes and syrup when I wake up, McD's for lunch and a Chinese for dinner, and tell me I can't get surgery.

Are my fears warranted? Has anyone else had a 'not listening' experience with dietitians associated with WLS? I'm really really scared she'll be like the others.

Edited June 8, 20188 yr by JayCat

Awww, I'm genuinely sorry to hear that you had a negative experience. As you tell it, it does sound like maybe they were just "covering the material" more than anything.

I'm glad to hear that you're pressing on anyway, though. Keep at it, you'll find your way.

I’m sorry you did not feel listened to was this a one on one or a class it differs in the states you run the gambit of classes to one on ones so here’s the thing dietitians are not drs they have sometimes at most a masters in nutrition so they don’t always go through sensitivity training