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Can we get a mental health support forum?

Real California April

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TakingABreak    2,733

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I have found that the group I belong to on Facebook is super helpful and supportive. I think the difference is that the group I belong to has all people who are getting surgery in 2018. There aren't some of the vets that you experience on here. Now, I use both Facebook and here because I appreciate a lot of their advice, but their approach needs some work.

Not to say that you guys are sensitive, but I know I was hyper sensitive about stuff prior to surgery. Now that I am post op, I perceive things differently now.

I hope you guys stick it out and stay here. We need all types of people with different compassion levels.

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Real California April    76

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I suggested it because people have posted about medications. I'm switching from Zoloft to Effexor and feel pretty alone. Go to a depression forum and get crap for having surgery. Go to a lot of surgery forums and get crap for being on pills.

I don't feel safe posting anywhere. Last post I saw on here (about lithium I believe) was met with hostility.

It's not about sensitivity. It's about having a safe place to talk to others with a unique digestive tract and how it affects mental health treatment.

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TakingABreak    2,733

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53 minutes ago, soready17 said:

I'm actually 7 months post up vsg

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I'm sorry! Your info still says PreOp.

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TakingABreak    2,733

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6 minutes ago, Real California April said:

I suggested it because people have posted about medications. I'm switching from Zoloft to Effexor and feel pretty alone. Go to a depression forum and get crap for having surgery. Go to a lot of surgery forums and get crap for being on pills.

I don't feel safe posting anywhere. Last post I saw on here (about lithium I believe) was met with hostility.

It's not about sensitivity. It's about having a safe place to talk to others with a unique digestive tract and how it affects mental health treatment.

SW: 366
CW: 315
GW1: 200
RNY Dec 18, 2017!

I do feel like a lot of people talk about things on here, not related to WLS, but you are right about whether or not it is well perceived and if people can help on here.

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TakingABreak    2,733

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1 minute ago, soready17 said:


I don't even know how to fix that.. the mobile app is confusing

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it is very confusing, I agree. I don't know if I you can on the mobile app. I had to go on the website to change my info.

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Alex Brecher    10,516

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We had a mental health (along with many many other subforums) for years. We did away with all of them a few months ago. They were barely used. Go ahead and post mental health topics in the general surgery forum. Many other members have similar issues and will be happy to offer advice and responses.

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