My god......what have I done?

[FatGuy5000 95]

First time poster, long time lurker. I was recently sleeved (2/22) and by all accounts my procedure went well. I would argue that I could not had been more prepared for my surgery. I had attended every seminar and group meeting avail. I had spent tens of hours researching the surgery and recovery process. I made major lifestyle changes to my diet and exercise regime (losing 10% of my bodyweight before the procedure. I have the complete support of my family and no issues regarding my time off from work. I was 100% ready. Everything was lined up for a success. Yet here I am, full of self doubt and regret. Like most I have very little, if any hunger. What I have a ton of though is bitterness. Mad about what feels like an overly cautious diet (5 weeks of post op liquids and purée) and resentment/depression knowing my body probably couldn’t handle anything else otherwise. Hate the mood swings. My preop success makes me continually question my decision (which I expected......but doesn’t make it any easier). I was so prepared and informed, I think that’s what makes it seem worse.

Warmer weather can’t get here soon enough.......yeeeeeeeeesh.

[Creekimp13 5,838]

Give it time. Once eating reasonable amounts becomes more comfortable, you'll feel a lot better. Hang in there! It gets better, I promise:)

[James Marusek 5,244]

It gets better each day but it will still take time. It took me 6 months before I reached my happy state when all the problems seemed to melt away.

[CJ Sunshine 241]

Those first few weeks are rough...but it does get easier and better. I'm 6 months out, 100 lbs down and super happy with my decision to have SIPS. Give yourself a little time...and in the meantime, do something really nice for yourself today, to help feel better for now.

[vze4n4n8 22]

Hang in there i had surgery feb 9

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[Mattymatt 491]

2 hours ago, FatGuy5000 said:

First time poster, long time lurker. I was recently sleeved (2/22) and by all accounts my procedure went well. I would argue that I could not had been more prepared for my surgery. I had attended every seminar and group meeting avail. I had spent tens of hours researching the surgery and recovery process. I made major lifestyle changes to my diet and exercise regime (losing 10% of my bodyweight before the procedure. I have the complete support of my family and no issues regarding my time off from work. I was 100% ready. Everything was lined up for a success. Yet here I am, full of self doubt and regret. Like most I have very little, if any hunger. What I have a ton of though is bitterness. Mad about what feels like an overly cautious diet (5 weeks of post op liquids and purée) and resentment/depression knowing my body probably couldn’t handle anything else otherwise. Hate the mood swings. My preop success makes me continually question my decision (which I expected......but doesn’t make it any easier). I was so prepared and informed, I think that’s what makes it seem worse.

Warmer weather can’t get here soon enough.......yeeeeeeeeesh.

I am still pre-op and the same thoughts that you are having are clouding my head. I am even doubting my decision to go with Gastric Bypass. I am thinking I should go with the Gastric Sleeve despite my care team thinking otherwise. Hell, I don't know who to believe at this point. I haven't spent one day in the past 6 months not thinking about the process and trying to make as informed a decision as possible. Yeah, the mood swings suck - I am going from hopeful to despair and everything in between. The folks that have gone through this before say it can and does get better. That's what's keeping me Marching forward. They got to be knowledgeable by walking the same mile we are right now.

[vze4n4n8 22]

And how much have you lost since surgery? Are you looking at that as a bonus ?

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[FatGuy5000 95]

I appreciate the kind words of encouragement. I’ve lost about 15 lbs since surgery (and nearly 60 total since the beginning of November). I decided to take my wife to dinner this evening. I had about 4 ozs of Soup and feel about 1000% better about life. It was so nice just feeling “normal” again.

[heatherjudson 62]

I had the same thoughts towards the end of the liquid mushy phase. I just had had enough and thought, “will this be my life? This sucks!” But I pushed through and slowly it gets better and better and now I’m so happy I did this. The pounds keep coming off without much effort and I’m enjoying food again (albeit in smaller amounts).

HW 227
SW 221 - 11/27/17
GW1 185
CW 181
GW2 154
GW3 135
5’6”

[marly18 23]

{{{Hugs}}} It will get better

[naturallyzee 292]

I felt the exact same way after rny. I assure you it does get better. I'm down to 178 lbs from my highest weight of 330. 292 on surgery day. I fit comfortably in a size 12 down from a 26. My only regret is I waited until I was 41 years old to do it. I wasted my youth fat, sick, and unhappy. Just hold on and stick with it. Soon it will be a distant memory,

HW 330
SW 292
CW 185
GW below 200

[vze4n4n8 22]

I appreciate the kind words of encouragement. I’ve lost about 15 lbs since surgery (and nearly 60 total since the beginning of November). I decided to take my wife to dinner this evening. I had about 4 ozs of Soup and feel about 1000% better about life. It was so nice just feeling “normal” again.

Keep kicking ass i think you are doing great !

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[TerriWoods 14]

Work through it! It is so worth it. So the real work begins!

[Adams2dc 8]

I felt the exact same way. I watched a ton of YouTube videos of people who had wls and they all mentioned feeling the regret in the first couple of weeks. And it’s not just a small feeling of regret that you can get over by watching a funny movie or taking a walk. I was giving myself extreme love and self care, forcing myself to take walks even when I felt too down, etc., and still spent two weeks in what I would consider one of the lowest depressions of my life. The fog is slowly lifting and it does get WAY better when you can start having more substantial food items and not just broth and Water. It WILL get better. I identify so strongly with what you describe. It’s a mourning process for many people. food has always been my best friend and my comfort, and with this surgery I have chosen to kill my best friend. It’s an actual time of grieving and don’t let anyone make light of that for you. Hugs.

[JohnnyCakes 593]

17 hours ago, FatGuy5000 said:

My preop success makes me continually question my decision

no offense, but.... YOU WOULD HAVE GAINED THE WEIGHT BACK.

not your fault, 95% of diets fail and people regain, with interest.

but with your surgery? you have very high chances of success of losing weight and keeping it off your whole life. and isn't that what you want?

weather the mood swings. it's still early. in a few months you will realize this is the best decision you ever made.