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Just now, jenn1 said:

10 weeks~!!! congratulations on your weight loss! You deserve the credit for your hard work and you definitely deserve the compliments. I agree with the above posts. It will take time for your mind to catch up to see your physical appearance.

Comments and compliments on your weight loss are going to continue until your in maintenance mode. The new attention can be a bit unnerving.

Try giving them comment or compliment a scale

(1) appropriate - acknowledge the NSV. Smile and say thank you.

(2) Hilarious - Enjoy the laughter (Please post any funny things that people say to you)

(3) Inappropriate - (a) Creepy (B) People intended it to be a compliment but, It comes out as an insult (c) a straight up insult. - Smile say have a nice day and walk away ( In your head say kiss my ***) Never waste your energy on negative people. Surround yourself with the supportive people that have your back in life.

i like that scale idea. im gonna start changing my thought processes and look for the positives more. my whole life has been a big negative ball of fire.....that is gonna go out the door with the weight lol.....

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i want to say i appreciate each and everyone of you for your comments. you gave me encouragement and poked my brain a little about my ways of thinking about things. just what i needed. i am learning a lot through this whole journey. how to live a better and happier life....patience....seeing the hearts of people and embracing it.

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2 hours ago, lindabalseca said:

i would love to smile more but my teeth ugh.

@lindabalseca

i had my two front teeth capped

as i was approaching GOAL - so

happy i treated myself
you can do it as a reward to yourself

you deserve it!!:rolleyes:

good luck

kathy

congrats

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On 10/18/2017 at 3:45 PM, lindabalseca said:

i know it seems like a lot but it seems like the consensus on the forum is that if you start at a higher weight like myelf over 400# that i should be dropping much faster. im sure if i picked up my exercising that i could be a little more but to be honest I have no energy and i am exhausted all the time.

You are being too hard on yourself! You are losing at a great rate...and p.s., your co-workers are not just being nice. There is a dramatic difference and you are doing great!!! Give yourself credit where due. You are doing an amazing job!

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65 lbs at 10 weeks?!?! That's AMAZING! I'm at 65 lbs lost but I'm at 22 weeks. I think I'm doing great. Of course, I wish I have lost more, but that weight didn't go on in one day. I'm pretty happy with my progress. I only weigh and measure once a week. I have weeks when I haven't lost, but my measurements are down; I've lost a total of 46 inches.

Be kind to yourself, Celebrate your wins, and remember the scale is not always your friend! Distance yourself from the negative people and evict that whispering voice in your head that tells you you're not good enough. Believe the compliments because they are true!

Surgery - RNY GBP
Surgery Date - 5/16/2017
HW - 368
SW - 352
GW - 150

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Congrats! I'm giving you a standing ovation. If you aren't seeing your skinnier self, maybe talking with a therapist will help you. Body dysmorphia is an issue I have as well, and emotional eating, so I decided to see a specialist that my surgeons & nutritionists recommended. Best decision for me as I've lost 65 lbs as of 4.5 mos post-op. I don't recognize my achievement, or my good, as I continue to lose weight & inches, but am successfully using behavioral techniques from talk therapy to like the path I'm walking. Again, Bravo to you for your huge & wonderful success.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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